Hi Georgia,

As Sarah has said, the different tests are perfectly normal, to ensure your mum gets the most appropriate treatment. I know this is the worst possible time for you, you have no good information yet, just waiting and worrying.
I can tell you, now, it is worse for you, than it will be for your mum. There was no parent ever, as overprotective as adult children become at the word cancer.  I was diagnosed with Stage 2 breast cancer a couple of years ago at 73 years old and I can honestly say my daughter and son suffered far more than I did, at every step in my treatment. I became a virtual prisoner to their anxiety.  They got the surgeon to do my mastectomy in the afternoon, despite my going in the night before. Why? Because if I had it done in the morning, as was expected and as I hoped, I would have gone home that night and they were scared of something happening to me overnight.. They wouldn't let me do anything! I couldn't drive, couldn't shop, I couldn't even walk the dog until my drain came out, and it wasn't even bothering me.  My son moved in and  " took care of me"  but, bless him, when he left I then had three weeks cleaning to do!

 Now, life's back to normal and I get called on to do shopping, doggy day care and all the other the mum things I always did for my daughter,  and I'm lucky to get a weekly FaceTime call from my son, these days and I wouldn't have it any different! 

There really is life after cancer, it just might be a bit different. 

I'm not being funny but just remember your mum is still the strong, intelligent woman who knew everything  when you were a little child. Try not to show how scared you are because that will make it harder for her to deal with her own emotions. Honestly, it will get better when you know exactly what you're facing and how you will do it.

Good luck for Friday, 

Christine xxx

Hi Christine

Thank you so much for your message. It has really helped me to hear your positive story after dealing with stage 2 breast cancer. And thank you for your advice; I don't show my mum how scared I am. I don't want her to worry for me, although I know she will. I feel for my husband because when we spend time with my mum I am very positive and happy, and then I come home and slump into a negative teary mess with my husband, but it's great to have him there for support.

So glad to hear your story was a positive one and I'll just keep praying my mum's is the same.

Thank you so much xx 

Hi Christine

Thank you so much for your message. It has really helped me to hear your positive story after dealing with stage 2 breast cancer. And thank you for your advice; I don't show my mum how scared I am. I don't want her to worry for me, although I know she will. I feel for my husband because when we spend time with my mum I am very positive and happy, and then I come home and slump into a negative teary mess with my husband, but it's great to have him there for support.

So glad to hear your story was a positive one and I'll just keep praying my mum's is the same.

Thank you so much xx