im just wondering how other people deal with these changes? i want to do my best to be there, to do everything with them and support them always. but its incredibly difficult sometimes.
As a cancer survivor myself, for many years after my treatment, my big worry was that the cancer might recur, and if that were to happen then whatever type of recovery I'd managed to build for myself would vanish in an instant; I'd be back not just where I was, but in a worse position.
It took years for me to rebuild myself, and it's now only 10 years later that I'm no longer sweating at every blood test... only for my fears to return when I read of someone whose cancer returned after 10 years of apparent cure.
I've no idea if this is what's preying your partner's mind - if so, then talks of successes and beating the cancer might just be ringing hollow in their mind, with an ever-nagging fear that they're just one blood test or one scan away from a disaster.
My cancer diagnosis changed me. Eventually I retired from my job and was able to concentrate on playing music. I was supported by my ever-loving wife every step of the way and I'm eternally grateful to her.
As a cancer survivor myself, for many years after my treatment, my big worry was that the cancer might recur, and if that were to happen then whatever type of recovery I'd managed to build for myself would vanish in an instant; I'd be back not just where I was, but in a worse position.
It took years for me to rebuild myself, and it's now only 10 years later that I'm no longer sweating at every blood test... only for my fears to return when I read of someone whose cancer returned after 10 years of apparent cure.
I've no idea if this is what's preying your partner's mind - if so, then talks of successes and beating the cancer might just be ringing hollow in their mind, with an ever-nagging fear that they're just one blood test or one scan away from a disaster.
My cancer diagnosis changed me. Eventually I retired from my job and was able to concentrate on playing music. I was supported by my ever-loving wife every step of the way and I'm eternally grateful to her.
