Hi there ...

Well ... how lucky are you ... to find out what a weak man ( I use the word man, lightly ) you had in your life .. I'd say good riddance to bad rubbish .... you have come through your masectomy and are now in the warrior club ...  you have had the fight of your life ... the ups and downs ... the treatments ... 

The same happened to me 20 years ago ... before my breast cancer.... and I cryed it out ... then got up and thought , whoever it was is, is so welcome to him ... and when he saw me strong and coping, he wanted it back ... well tough ... and you know what .. it took time .. but I got stronger as time went .. and it was the best thing I did .. and a couple years down the line , him and it broke up ... sob .. not ..

So you just look in the mirror... your worth so much more .. and later you WILL meet someone that is worth your love ...  

So hold on in there ... you can do this ... two fingers up to cancer and the old man ... there's kind decent men out there .., sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie xx 

Hi Chrissie, Thankyou so much for your kind reply and wise words. I'm so sorry you've also experienced this too, its the sh!ttiest of feelings...though I'm glad to hear it had the most deserving of outcomes. I'm trying really hard to get through it but my confidence is rock bottom and I need to try to drag myself up and out of it. 
I hope you're keeping well and happy now, and thanks again for your kindness xx

Just look at your emoji you have ... says it all really .. you can do this ... yes it's like hearing that word cancer for the first time ... it's overwhelming... I'm guessing that's how your feeling now ... so get those emotions out .. and start fighting again ... I was married 27 years at the time ... and close to your age now ...

And 5 years down the line ... I bet you'll be happy and they will split ... and it sounds a long time .. but it's 20 years after mine ... and boy looking back it goes really quickly .. though I bet every day right now is long ... look at your emoji ... hope you get others giving you encouragement as well ... x

Yeah, it does feel overwhelming, I thought we would grow old together. I know I need to put my big girl pants back on and I will....I just hope they still fit me xxx

Hi nic .

When I met my wife to be she was a widdow with 3boys eldest young teens she was still getting over being run over by a lorry smashed her pelvis and a leg scars all over from the road and surgery , but I didn't care it was love at first sight even though she is nearly 14years older than me, didn't notice the scars just her, we've been happy nearly 50years now she has Parkinson and Alzheimer's I'm on palative care for cancer but we still love each other just as much.

Your probably wondering why I put this down it's because there will be someone out there who Will love you for who you are,now, be positive it really helps,.

Best wishes.

Billy x

Hi Billy, what a beautiful story because despite such difficulties you both found unconditional love and that's a blessing. I wish you both all the very best of everything for your time together and Thankyou for your kindness to me. Sending care and love xx

Hi Nic75

I'm sorry to bring it up agsin when you've had such support, I'm recovering from breast cancer at 36 and have two young kids, one of which is disabled with rare disease! Basically my life has been hell past couple of years, I lost more than half of my R breast to the cancer, early menopause and surgery took long time to heal, many infections! Along with all this to cope with and a house and business, the romance and sexual side has dwindled in my marriage, my husband wasn't the most understanding of my cancer journey and he  has just been found out today he's been paying escorts for sex! I'm so horrified, he has been with 3 women and chatted to more, I'm so betrayed but wanted to know if you got over it, did you repair it or seperate completely, I'm so lost and only one friend to trust and she's helping but she can't understand why I feel less of a woman because of my mini boob and early menopause and how it's made me less me! I hope that made sense I'm very emotional! Xx

Hi nic75.

I'm 60 years old.  I got married to the most beautiful woman in the world. We were married for nearly 34 years and knew each other 8 years before that.  I took my married vows seriously. My Carol was more than my soul mate my rock, she always cheared me up when I was down, and visa versa.

I held my bride to be by her hand as we were married, and I was there when she let out her final breath. As devistating as it was to loose her, she was given 2 months to live, pre-diagnosis and past away 6 weeks later. We had our ups and downs and not once did I ever think about cheating. Thing with guys  a majority of them don't think with there heads, well not the head on his shoulders, When someone shows them any attention. I guess it's his loss nic75. I seriously hope you have  showed him the door by now, and your doing well and getting on with your life.

For me I'm not interested in meeting anyone,  I kind of understand why my wife's mother never was interested in meeting and greeting, she ended up a recluse, never going out, we did all her shopping and I took her to her hospital appointments. I have gone that way since my wife died last July 2020.  I rely on my two grown up kids to get me to my cancer appointments. and I have four grand kids who keep me knackered, but then it doesn't take much to get me tired these days. good luck nic75 wish you well for the future.

Very sorry to hear this. I know it was nearly a year ago now and I hope you are recovering still and in a better place. Although it is different I am also currently reeling from finding out my husband has got close to another woman (not slept with) and wants to stay in touch as a kind of insurance policy for when I die (I'm stage 4 melanoma probably haven't got long). It's horrific and so hurtful this kind of thing. Like you I don't know how to cope. Sending best wishes.

OMG nic75. I'm sorry but what an absolute  scum bag.  I was nearly married for 34 years.

My wife had her health problems with brittle bones,  and spent many a visits to  A&E. I became my wifes full time carer. I went to every hospital appointment.  even in 2014 when she had a close call having a very large poly removed from her bowel, it turned ou to be cancerous. they took it out and were confident they had cut it all out. they did a couple of follow up colonoscopies. and given the all clear. My wife went off sex and that's how it stayed.till the day she was diagnosed with bowel cancer. it was terminal. she died 6 weeks from when it was diagnosed. I loved my wife very much, and at no time did I ever consider cheating on her. even now I have no interest in meeting anyone other than the grim reaper.

I have liver cancer myself and have had a couple of procedures. I'm now left with the option of a transplant. I was told I have a 1 to 2 year life span pre getting a new liver. Once a cheat nic75, always a cheat. kick this monster who clearly has no respect for you.

I do appologise if I have come across as being  out spoken. but that's me. I'm too old to hold my tongue,  and speak as I find.