Slightly strange topic - online dating with cancer

Hi

This is a weird one but if you have any thoughts I would be grateful to know them.  I was thinking about maybe joining a dating website (not entirely to do with romance although if that came along great but as much for company etc), but wondered whether anyone knows of a dating website for people who have cancer.  Not so I can spend all my days chatting about cancer with one specific person (who might also have cancer) but more so once the "C" topic comes along you know they might already be prepared for it and will not disappear asap!

any replies very gratefully welcomed

thank you

Bubbles11

  • Hi Jools

    I too have joined a online dating site . We still have a life don't we?

    I have chatted to a few guys and have yet to meet any .However one guy is really keen znd we exchanged number and have chatted a lot  "off line" 

    I told him about my situation and my forthcoming chemotherapy and he was fine about . Hoping to meet up before I go into hibernation mode

    He was more than happy to carry on chatting until I feel comfortable/ well enough to meet up

     

    Apart from anything else( and I'm sure a few others may disagree with me on this)  At a time when life's abit rubbish and your feeling low ... it's nice to have alittle bit of excitement in your life! ️
    Good luck.... keep me posted 

    Louise X

     

  • I was so hoping to meet someone and now I've been diagnosed with cancer 

    would love to meet someone to share walks chats and support 

    is there still nothing out there ? 

  • Hi Botwinkle.

    Sorry for the late reply. I hope that you're managing with your chemotherapy and it's bringing you some positive results.


    The reason that it's taken me a while to reply is that I had my confidence knocked

    I had 2 dates, they weren't for me, I realised very quickly on the first date, and didn't bother telling them anything about my condition.

    Then I thought that I'd struck gold!

    I met a man on an online dating site and we chatted for a while and video called each other (at his insistence).

    I felt very comfortable chatting with him, plus he's an ambulance driver, so I thought he would be more understanding of my condition and I plucked up the courage to tell him on a video call and he still wanted to meet.

    We had 2 dates, both were fantastic, so I thought. And then he turned a little odd and decided that he needed looking after too (his words) and decided to finish it.

    I'm a person who is lively outgoing and chatty and live my life to the full so I found his comment extremely upsetting, it really knocked me for six and took some of my confidence away. I'm now ready to face the world of online dating again, thanks to my wonderful friends giving me a good talking too.

  • Hey... that's really awful if I'm honest!

    you look ( from your photo) to be a lovely lady and you sound as if you have your act together!!

    The guy you saw twice should be ashamed of himself and most certainly not worthy of dating you! What a total k**b head he was!

    Dont let either of them knock your confidence. Dust yourself down and when your ready get back out there .

    AND you will . Get out with your girlfriend and have a good few nights out!

    The confidence will come bouncing back. 
    keep me posted

    Ive chatted to two from a dating site . Told them both( including my total hair loss) both wanted to meet me . I'm not 100% sure at the mo , as I do look like Mr Potato head.

    Both happy to chat & wait . So we shall see.

     

    Big hugs xxx

     

     

  • Hi guys and gals I may well be joining you on the dating road ,as my wife has told me she wants more from life( I'm just happy to be alive) and that I am too mundane!  We are going to try counselling but I'm not holding out much hope as she seems to be already out the door. 

    Maybe my cancer has helped her in her decision to want to separate, which was dealt like a hammer blow as I had just got out of hospital from my stem cell transplant and needing big hugs but got shrugs instead. 

    C'est la vie. Anyhoo the possibility of dating with cancer in the background seems daunting, though I'm happy to live with my two little children and be content to help them become beautiful people.

    Sorry for the rant. 

    The sun will come out tomorrow. ️ ️ ️ ️ ️

     

     

  • Awww... that's a awful thing to deal with on top of your cancer!

    move on with your new life and enjoy  

    x

     

  • I got that hammer blow too after my stage 4 diagnosis.

    And I'm now married to the kindest man I have ever known.

    Sending you all best wishes.

    Xxx

    By the way. I met loads of people. I had lots of fun dates, and some who I still call friends. But people, understandably, don't want to be tied down with the cancer journey. It took me learning to love myself again too. It wasn't an easy path. But so worth it!