Hi bubbles,

Yes strange topic indeed. I was married for nealy 34 years,  A month shy of our 34th wedding anniversay before my wife was take away by bowel cancer in July 2020. I'm 60 years old and have liver cancer. I know what my outcome will be within  the next couple of years.  I was holding her hand when she died, and I know I'll be holding it again soon.

blobs

So sorry to hear about your wife.  And also about your liver cancer.

I hope the coming years are gentle with you.   34 years is an amazing length for a marriage - really quite rare now-a-days.  I admire you.  (I was married for 14 years which is a tiny duration in comparison).

Wishing you well 

Bubbles

Hi Bubbles11!

I have terminal cancer, I was in a 13yr relationship my husband left me last year, I would love to go on some dates, try and meet a nice guy! Its hard because I feel ill never feel love again.

Janine

I know the feeling. I have myeloma which at present is said to be incurable yet treatable. I also walk with a stick (long distances due to neuropathy in feet ) When I was diagnosed 6 years ago I was in a 4 year relationship.  My ex couldn't handle it and we parted ways  . She said it wasn't down to my cancer but I think she didn't have the heart to say it outright. Initially I resigned myself to remaining single for ever. (Stigma, loss of confidence with women) Now I am hopefully that I may meet à companion after having a couple if dates via a website.

Hi Janie87 

I have stage 3 ovarian cancer and 4 weeks ago I had major surgery. My hubby walked out on me a few months before the cancer was found .I also get very lonely and feel knowone will ever love me again or I will ever feel love again .

Annette 

It really is a rubbish feeling xxx I'm so sorry you have had to go through it too XXX we deserve to be happy with or without a man 

Hi there Annette, Janine, and all,

It is so hard. I remember how it affected me when my husband left me too. I was down, depressed, terrified and trying to cope with 3 children at school and a job teaching. I thought I would never move forward. And I got so hacked off with anyone who used to say "give it time", cos time was something I was not expecting to have. It all made me so firecely terrified and desperate and angry!

My daughter told me I had to learn to love myself first. And she was right- I had forgotten how to love myself- I had spent so many years worrying about everyone else but me.

I was so frightened I wouldn't have time. I was stage 4, still am. But life has a weird way of surprising doesn't it? You might find, that with loving yourself, and enjoying the time you have with the people who love you, you may well find love in the most unexpected places.

Huge great big hugs to you. And count me in as one of those people who really really care!

I hope you get some great sunshine this Easter and enjoy some sky.

Love Mary

xxx

Hi there Annette, Janine, and all,

It is so hard. I remember how it affected me when my husband left me too. I was down, depressed, terrified and trying to cope with 3 children at school and a job teaching. I thought I would never move forward. And I got so hacked off with anyone who used to say "give it time", cos time was something I was not expecting to have. It all made me so firecely terrified and desperate and angry!

My daughter told me I had to learn to love myself first. And she was right- I had forgotten how to love myself- I had spent so many years worrying about everyone else but me.

I was so frightened I wouldn't have time. I was stage 4, still am. But life has a weird way of surprising doesn't it? You might find, that with loving yourself, and enjoying the time you have with the people who love you, you may well find love in the most unexpected places.

Huge great big hugs to you. And count me in as one of those people who really really care!

I hope you get some great sunshine this Easter and enjoy some sky.

Love Mary

xxx