Oh Jules forgive my post on my site to you .....I am so sorry not to have known of your hubbies departure.  You know from the support you have given me how well I understand your current situation and my heart goes out to you.  My site tells of my joirney through this uncharted place you find yourself in.  It is difficult but you will come through.

All my thoughts and a big virtual hug

Ian x

Hi Ian

Just lovely to see your name appear on my thread and suspect its just as hard for you to post but I really appreciate the message.  It was a long three years for hubby and I take much comfort in the fact that he is now free from the clutches of his disease which took his happiness away.  I am surrounded by the love of my family and friends (and the ongoing support of virtuality buddies) and now, like you, my life must be lived to the best of my ability. Early days still but so many memories to cherish and share with others - a few late nights of 'story-telling' along the way.

Sending hugs and best wishes and hope all is well with you and Julie in your new life.  Jules x

Good morning Brian

My cold is slowing clearing thank you though in the scheme of things more annoyed at what it stopped me doing (Mum's visit) that how it made me feel.  I have to say if this is what 'healthy eating' results in I am not now a great fan ha ha. Your lovely wife has, I see, been spoiling her man with 'cheesy comfort' - made mhy mouth water too.  My turn to retun the favour as I am off to the shops to purchase big cheese selection (how can every member of the family gathering tomorrow enjoy different cheeses!!!) - this will be an enormous treat as cheese is one of the foods I should only have in moderation (grrrrrrrrrrr).  Eldest grandson listened to what everyone else liked and then piped up 'I just need red cheese' (red leicester). I am doing a buffet lunch for us all but as I go away on Monday have to be careful not to have leftovers!!

Despite the emotions of yesterday (thanks also posted on my Hubby's birthday thread) I am hoping we as a family can finally feel at peace within ourselves in some small way. Hubby rests in beautiful sourroundings that we all helped choose with the words of our grandson (sorry folks prepare for a tearjerker!) as he helped his Mum 'sprinkle grandad' (he asked he was allowed bless him)), the tree almost reaches up to Grandad's star in the sky. Following a few moments of reflection we strolled the grounds and came upon the water garden/fish pond and at this point we had to make sure grandson did not take an early bath, he was so excited at seeing the koi carp and then he and my son were leaning over the edge to discuss 'frog spawn' ! Oh, to be a child again comes into my head where there is little idea of fear and cool acceptance of the truth around him - it is so precious.

I hope you and Mrs B enjoy your Easter weekend and send you and all your family good wishes.  Look after yourselves. Jules x

Hi Hope

Thanks for taking time to post here and on the other thread. Your kind thoughts are so much appreciated. Another anniversary passed and a beautifuly sunny afternoon to remember hubby's birthday in peaceful surroundings. Contented with the choices made (children/grandchildren helped steady my mind despite their own grieving) and at peace with ourselves.  A friend has pointed out this morning that as a 'hobby fisherman' hubby would have appreciated the company of koi carp in the pond just nearby (though my daughter thinks he would have preferred catching them that watching them!).

Its good that you are moving forward on your own journey and wish you and the family a very happy Easter. Take care of yourself. Regards and hugs Jules x

Hi Jules,

just logged on again after being absent for awhile.My mother passed away in January from pancreatic cancer and the sadness is awful.

Is Dianne still working for the organisation do you know as I have emailed her and had no response, which is not like her.

i wish you and you family a tranquil continued journey and a pleasant Easter weekend.

Xx

Good morning Jules,

So pleased everything went okay yesterday including the weather, allthough it must have been a very emotional day for you all. Sounds like you have chosen a lovely peaceful setting for hubby final resting place. Love what your grandson said. I remember a lovely lady on here whos son once saw vapour trails in the sky shaped like an x and said to his mum. "Look grandma's just sent me a kiss from heaven". Children certainly do look at life through differnt eyes to us grownups.

Cheese buiscuits almost all gone now and Mrs B exceeded herself as they just melt in my mouth. We have been invited to my sons for tea today so will no doubt be entertained by grandchildren. Youngest one has just seen the new Paddington Bear video and as a result has a new saying he has copied from it. He doesnt say he is going to the toilet; he now says, "I am going to use the facilities", much to everyone's hillarity, bless him.

I wish you and your lovely family a peaceful weekend and hope you have a great week away next week. You all deserve it after all you have been through. Take care, wishing you all a happy Easter, Brian.

Dear Brian,
First of all best wishes to Mrs B for putting up with you, but in all seriousness you are both so lucky to have each other and I know you know and appreciate each other.
Now for the really serious stuff my nutty/naughty friend.  I am so proud of myself, saw, admired and drooled over your biccies and chose not to attack the Brie and Camembert sitting waiting in fridge, for the healthier option of berries and Greek yougurt.

My body is a temple.....can just hear hubby saying yeh, in need of some restoration, get the polyfilla out....
Nah truth was berries have to be used up and did buy the Greek yogurt as healthy option.
Bit of a wobbly start today when dog walking, but gave myself severe talking to and threw myself into housework (yuk) and gardening (yeh).  Not too many warm days forecast now, watch me turn into a moaning Minnie.
Kids Skyped me this avo, gradually getting into modern things.  Was great to chat to them and see them.  Little grand daughter (2) kept saying my Boo( I am Nanna Boo) then... My and Dantes Boo.  Dante being  grandsons name.  I am so Lucky.
Take care,
Kathy x
 

Hi Euthos.

Condololences on the loss of your mother and the grieving process comes with many different emotions along the way.  Thank you for your kind words and hope you will find the support you may need from this lovely forum.  I do not know whether Dianne is still part of the organisation but maybe others reading this may be able to help  you.  Wishing you peace and comfort for Easter and onwards.Jules x

Thank you Brian.  Those cheesy bsicuits made my mouth water! Have returned from the supermarket with goodies for lunch tomorrow (and  now to keep my hands off them before then!!!).  Am  now cooking Turkey Crown so we can enjoy it cold tomorrow and the smell from the kitchen is not helping me 'be good'.

Hope you have a lovely day at your sons tomorrow and no doubt Grandad will be in high demand so hope you have your stories ready. I seem to be keeping busy with visitors and going out this weekend but must find time to throw a few bits in the bag for our short break.  Am now looking forward to this as feel we could all do with a mini escape.  By the way thanks for the warning re the 'phrase' from Paddington movie (I have bought this for the grandchildren to enjoy whilst we are away as a little surprise for them).

The Spring sunshine is somewhat fleeting today though it has stayed dry so far and I am off out as usual tonight.

Have a peaceful Easter and as Arnie would say ' I will be back'.  Kind thoughts sent to you and Mrs B along with all your family.Jules x

Hi Kathy

Just read your response to Brian and well done on your healthy choices.  I also have Brie and some extra strong cheddar ready for the cheeseboard tomorrow (along with a mini selection of other varieties to keep all coming happy). I am a little worried that my healthy eating gave me a cold ha ha as had not had one for a long time and as soon as I changed to better eating wham a real stinker this week.  Hopefully on its way out now but not appreciating even more disturbed nights due to coughing grrrrr.

Do allow yourself the occasional wobble my dear friend; we are all in need of that release of emotions (though I do relate to that 'being cross with myself' talking to) and I bet there was good reason behind it.

To lift my spirits I am currently enjoying a pair of collared doves 'frolicking' outside my patio doors (just two feet outside I have a bird table and mini feeding station (main feeders at other end of garden)) and the top of the table seems to have become a focal point in the last few days! Can think of a more comfortable place to 'court'!!

Hope you have a peaceful Easter weekend. Sending hugs. Jules x 

Hi  Jules,
I was due to respond to you next,
Yes sis liver plan diet plus DIL influence is taking the toll on me and I try to be very good.  But do have the naughtys in fridge if I decide to indulge.
No word as yet re her results, but hasn't been a week yet.  Keeping everything crossed.
I wouldn't be at all surprized if the healthy eating plan has made you feel crook, would advise you to have a medicinal whisky to kill the germs, hate the stuff myself  or a Baileys.
Alfalfa sprouts and any sprouts are meant to be good prior to cholesterol tests.  So they say.
Sitting here with nighty t shirt, jumper and jacket on, think I might be cold???
So glad Thurs went off as well as could be expected for you honey. Great news the weather was good for you and family.  Your grandson sounds like such a wise wee man.  What joy. 
My mum is pretty good, talking about coming out in a Sept 2016 with my younger sis.  I am so lucky in my family and swithering as to should I go home in June this year.  (She intends living till 100) . Depends I guess if I can get a house/pet sitter and if I can put off finding work till after then.

Mmmm 11.45 pm now and have neglected to have tea, but did have lunch so that is better eating than what I was doing a few months ago.  Have had a few bottles of water which is good.  Maybe have some berries and healthy yogurt seeing Brian can't drop round a few cheesy biccies, what kind of friend is he???  Oh yes one who lives in different country. Haha.
Watching the birds do give us so pleasure don't they.  I do miss the robins though in the winter, none here.
Bit of joy today, opened top of no 1 compost bin, full of earthworms.  Now working on building up other 2.  I laugh at our local council who promote the recycling and composting aspect.  Dad and grandpa were doing that before it became fashionable.
Ok hon will sign off hope you have a great time way with the family, stay warm.  Vicks for cold , Baileys for wellbeing?
Big hugs and lots of love,
Kathy xxx

 




 

Good morning Jules,

Hope you enjoyed your evenng out last night. Me and Mrs B had a lovely time yeaterday and at grandsons insistance, were treated to a special showing of Paddington. My grandson even gave me one of his version of Paddingtons special "Glares". He had me and Mrs B in fits of laughter, he is such a comedian. It was good to see Mrs B laughing so much as I know she is worried about her brother. I think you will enjoy the film yourself, it's quite a laugh and good allround family enetertainment.

I was thinking of mailing some of the cheese buiscuits to both you and Kathy but the quality assurance guy  (Me) kept tucking into to them to make sur they were all okay and now there are only a few left:cry:

Take care and enjoy the rest of the weekend. Best wishes and hope you have a great week away, Brian.

Good morning Jules,

Hope you enjoyed your evenng out last night. Me and Mrs B had a lovely time yeaterday and at grandsons insistance, were treated to a special showing of Paddington. My grandson even gave me one of his version of Paddingtons special "Glares". He had me and Mrs B in fits of laughter, he is such a comedian. It was good to see Mrs B laughing so much as I know she is worried about her brother. I think you will enjoy the film yourself, it's quite a laugh and good allround family enetertainment.

I was thinking of mailing some of the cheese buiscuits to both you and Kathy but the quality assurance guy  (Me) kept tucking into to them to make sur they were all okay and now there are only a few left:cry:

Take care and enjoy the rest of the weekend. Best wishes and hope you have a great week away, Brian.

Hi Brian

I can imagine a house full of laughter as you all enjoyed the Movie; how wonderful it is when we can enjoy the company of our family (about an hour before I am descended upon and 'bedlam' begins). I have set the Easter table (edges carefully kept clear due to 'toddler alert') and just have to add food from fridge and toast the 'buns' after their arrival so think I am 'on time'. Two grandchildren plus excited Westie is a great mix and will be good to relax together. 

Realy looking forward to our Dorset break from Monday and looks as though dry weather is forecast which will be lovely as we have two pre-planned days out (Monkey World and themed Farm Park) - hopefully the fresh air and fun will help us all.

A few sunny intervals already here this morning and enjoyed an early walk so have done my healthy bit for the day!!  Sorry to read that your biccies are running low but am sure if you carry on being your usual helpful self you will be rewarded by Mrs B or maybe allowed a visit to your nut shop. Take care of yourselves and sending Easter peace and good wishes. Jules x