Oh Jules forgive my post on my site to you .....I am so sorry not to have known of your hubbies departure.  You know from the support you have given me how well I understand your current situation and my heart goes out to you.  My site tells of my joirney through this uncharted place you find yourself in.  It is difficult but you will come through.

All my thoughts and a big virtual hug

Ian x

Hi Ian

Just lovely to see your name appear on my thread and suspect its just as hard for you to post but I really appreciate the message.  It was a long three years for hubby and I take much comfort in the fact that he is now free from the clutches of his disease which took his happiness away.  I am surrounded by the love of my family and friends (and the ongoing support of virtuality buddies) and now, like you, my life must be lived to the best of my ability. Early days still but so many memories to cherish and share with others - a few late nights of 'story-telling' along the way.

Sending hugs and best wishes and hope all is well with you and Julie in your new life.  Jules x

Good afternoon Jules,

Sorry to read you wernt able to go to see your mother. Do hope you are soon feeling better. I got woken up at about 4.30 this morning by a noise. Couldnt think what it was so went back to sleep. When Mrs B got up, she saw our television ariel at the back of the house was hanging down so that was the noise I heard. I have had trouble geting it down as it's hanging by the cable. After using my stepladder that converts to a small ladder, evetually got the ariel down but the briken pole is still hanging by the cable, will have to think how to get this down. I was literally hanging on to it and it was budgung at all as when it was put up they nailed the cable to the wooden facia. Luckily we use an ariel that I set up in our loft so Mrs B can still watch he telly.

Have a visual picture of you chasing the dustbin lid. Reminds me of when I was turning a large wooden barometer surround which came off my lath, hit the floor on its edge and took off out of my garage across the road like a dose of salts with me in hot persuit. Took me ages to catch up and was out of breath when I did. Good job ours is just a side road and no cars were about. Often wondered if any neighbours saw what happened. Bet it gave them a chuckle saying, Look there goes that mad woodworn again.

I will, like Kathy be thinking of you on Thursday. So pleased you will have your lovely family there to support you and each other. Glad to hear daughters results were okay.

Take care, Keep warm, a windswept Brain, Sorry Kathy, I meant Brian.

Brian, u r such a plonker, but I do adore u,

Best wishes to u and Mrs b, am still smiling, thank u

Kathy xx

Hi Jules,  Hope all goes well tomorrow, I know it will be an emotional day for you in so many ways and I will be thinking of you.  Sorry to read you have been poorly ontop of an already stressful week, there are so many bugs about just now, hope you are on the mend by now.  I know your family will all take strength from each other tomorrow and I hope that you have a peaceful break with them all over Easter.  Enjoy the caravan park, I will keep my fingers crossed that you don't need those wellies!  Hope x

Hi Hope,

We havent spoke for some while. Hope Jules doesnt mind me using her site to say hello. Hope you are enjoying the Easter break  and are keeping well. Hope things are more settled in your life now that the houes situation has been dealt with. Cant belive we are a quarter of the way through the year already, how time flys.

Take care, and remember just because we dont chat, doesnt mean you are forgotten, Brian

Hi Kathy,

I am a happy chappy; Mrs B has just baked me some CHEESE BISCUITS, and they taste absolutely georgouse. As promised, attached is a photo of them. Have I got you drooling yet???????????

Just the smell has been making me feel so hungrey!!!  Will have to get Mrs B to try and mix some nuts in with the mix next time then I can have the best of both.

Take care, best wishes, your nutty friend, Brian

Hi Brian,

Good to hear from you, and again I hope Jules won't mind me catching up with you on her thread.  Looks like Mrs B continues to look after you well - the cheese bisuits sound/look delicious!  I can't believe how time flies and I don't come on the site as often thesedays.  However I will never forget my forum buddies who supported me so well so I will always check in from time to time.  My new normal seems more normal now if that makes sense, however I do still miss my parents very much but I guess that will always be the case. Best wishes to you and Mrs B and hope the Easter bunny brings you goodies.  Hope x

Good morning (here) Kathy

Firstly to answer a question, Fathers' Day will be 21st June here. Strangely the local Race for Life, which my daughter has run a good few times, (I did it before my knees complained!!) always used to be on this particular day.  This year they have moved it to the week before. The last couple of years she  has run with  her son's school team of mums as they lost one of their number to cancer.  This year will be mentally harder and the added emotion of having a six year old (probably showing her up lol) alongside and a very personal journey for this family too. Weather permitting there will be a picnic afterwards but most important is the raising of awareness and the continued support for research. 

Your Mum sounds truly amazing and hopefully when your sister's results are too hand her good work re her diet etc will be rewarded.  Here blood results are usually back with GP in around 8 days for non urgent requests. Though I have had my blood test for cholesterol check I am not due back to GP till May so unless I get an 'unwelcome phone call' I shall assume there is no panic as that it when I would discuss the results!

Thank you for your continued support (shared a few virtual tears when I read your message especially as I know how reading other posters' messages affects me too). The sun shone beautifully on us all yesterday and with the anniversary of hubby's birthday it was both emotive and somehow 'right' that me, the children, and grandchildren gathered under the arms of a lovely evergreen fir tree as our choice of hubby's final resting place, to find peace and a place to share moments of remembrance and solitude in the future.

Today seems a little  strange to be just 'getting on with things' but have shopping to do and family here tomorrow, visiting Mum on Easter Sunday and then our break away (will be out of virtual contact for a while but keeping everyone in my thoughts).  Look after yourself. Sending hugs your way.Jules xx

Good morning Brian

My cold is slowing clearing thank you though in the scheme of things more annoyed at what it stopped me doing (Mum's visit) that how it made me feel.  I have to say if this is what 'healthy eating' results in I am not now a great fan ha ha. Your lovely wife has, I see, been spoiling her man with 'cheesy comfort' - made mhy mouth water too.  My turn to retun the favour as I am off to the shops to purchase big cheese selection (how can every member of the family gathering tomorrow enjoy different cheeses!!!) - this will be an enormous treat as cheese is one of the foods I should only have in moderation (grrrrrrrrrrr).  Eldest grandson listened to what everyone else liked and then piped up 'I just need red cheese' (red leicester). I am doing a buffet lunch for us all but as I go away on Monday have to be careful not to have leftovers!!

Despite the emotions of yesterday (thanks also posted on my Hubby's birthday thread) I am hoping we as a family can finally feel at peace within ourselves in some small way. Hubby rests in beautiful sourroundings that we all helped choose with the words of our grandson (sorry folks prepare for a tearjerker!) as he helped his Mum 'sprinkle grandad' (he asked he was allowed bless him)), the tree almost reaches up to Grandad's star in the sky. Following a few moments of reflection we strolled the grounds and came upon the water garden/fish pond and at this point we had to make sure grandson did not take an early bath, he was so excited at seeing the koi carp and then he and my son were leaning over the edge to discuss 'frog spawn' ! Oh, to be a child again comes into my head where there is little idea of fear and cool acceptance of the truth around him - it is so precious.

I hope you and Mrs B enjoy your Easter weekend and send you and all your family good wishes.  Look after yourselves. Jules x

Hi Hope

Thanks for taking time to post here and on the other thread. Your kind thoughts are so much appreciated. Another anniversary passed and a beautifuly sunny afternoon to remember hubby's birthday in peaceful surroundings. Contented with the choices made (children/grandchildren helped steady my mind despite their own grieving) and at peace with ourselves.  A friend has pointed out this morning that as a 'hobby fisherman' hubby would have appreciated the company of koi carp in the pond just nearby (though my daughter thinks he would have preferred catching them that watching them!).

Its good that you are moving forward on your own journey and wish you and the family a very happy Easter. Take care of yourself. Regards and hugs Jules x

Hi Jules,

just logged on again after being absent for awhile.My mother passed away in January from pancreatic cancer and the sadness is awful.

Is Dianne still working for the organisation do you know as I have emailed her and had no response, which is not like her.

i wish you and you family a tranquil continued journey and a pleasant Easter weekend.

Xx

Hi Jules,

just logged on again after being absent for awhile.My mother passed away in January from pancreatic cancer and the sadness is awful.

Is Dianne still working for the organisation do you know as I have emailed her and had no response, which is not like her.

i wish you and you family a tranquil continued journey and a pleasant Easter weekend.

Xx

Hi Euthos.

Condololences on the loss of your mother and the grieving process comes with many different emotions along the way.  Thank you for your kind words and hope you will find the support you may need from this lovely forum.  I do not know whether Dianne is still part of the organisation but maybe others reading this may be able to help  you.  Wishing you peace and comfort for Easter and onwards.Jules x