Oh Jules forgive my post on my site to you .....I am so sorry not to have known of your hubbies departure.  You know from the support you have given me how well I understand your current situation and my heart goes out to you.  My site tells of my joirney through this uncharted place you find yourself in.  It is difficult but you will come through.

All my thoughts and a big virtual hug

Ian x

Hi Ian

Just lovely to see your name appear on my thread and suspect its just as hard for you to post but I really appreciate the message.  It was a long three years for hubby and I take much comfort in the fact that he is now free from the clutches of his disease which took his happiness away.  I am surrounded by the love of my family and friends (and the ongoing support of virtuality buddies) and now, like you, my life must be lived to the best of my ability. Early days still but so many memories to cherish and share with others - a few late nights of 'story-telling' along the way.

Sending hugs and best wishes and hope all is well with you and Julie in your new life.  Jules x

Hi Brian

Well not sure how long connection will hold for but Engineers have been 'up the pole' and currently have landline/net restored though weather does seem to be causing some problems with signal- never rains but it pours.

Firstly hope Mrs B is feeling better and that you do not catch the lurgy.  Seems to be lots of bugs around but then I suppose its the time of year for them.

I am currently on an emotional high and need to share some good news.  I visited Mum yesterday and had her care plan meeting with her key worker which went okay.  Whilst I was there her social worker rang to inform the home and in turn me and Mum that the council have finally agreed to keep her 'where she is' - Needless to say I ended up blubbing like a baby and as you can imagine the relief is enormous.They are also to refund Mum for the last 5 months she has paid for her care to bring her savings back to the 'safe limit'. I returned home to spread the news within the family and am currently seeing the brighter side of life. 

New wall is also completed and on top of that had a lovely bouquet of flowers delivered from the ladies who I dealt with at the funeral directors.  I am one very spoilt lady just now.

Well, the novelty of being back online means I have some catching up to do (and bills to sort). Do take care and hope to be able to stay in touch again now.  Best regards Jules x

Hi Jules = wow I am so pleased for you - thats great

xxxx

steven

Oh Jules,

That is fantastic news about your mother being able to stay at the home and that they are also giving a refund as well. And so they should, and part of that is due to you and the persistant way you have handled the difficult situation. So well done for I know it has been a long hard and stressful battle you have fought during a very stressful time. About time you had some good news, you are long overdue.I am so pleased for you and your mother. Glad the wall is done and hope your phone line is fixed properly this time.

I have had a bit of a cold but nothing much. Mrs B is slowly getting better thank you. Glad you have also got some flowers. I bought Mrs B some on Tuesday as well as some grapes and strawberiies.

It's been raining here all day and have had to put the light on to see the keyboard. Take care, and I wish you a peaceful week. Will post again soon, Big hugs, Brian.

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Hi Steven

Back fence is now a six foot high, eight foot wide wall so much more secure though local cats not amused!!

Hope your return to work was not too stressful but am sure it will be good to be back amongst the workmates who will understand your need to grieve but also be able to offer than bit of extra back up if you feel understandably a little more vulnerable than usual. (I certainly needed someone to look to when faced with difficulties in the early days of my return and will probably feel a bit nervous again after I return from two weeks leave - emotions are a little bewildering at times when you do not expect it). Yesterday was a fine example for me.  When Mum's new social worker rang to let us know the Council have at last agreed to fund my Mum in  her present care home (and refund some of her savings) I was a bit of a blubbering baby (just showed me how I had been stressing over it and the enormous relief for both my Mum and our family in general). Sending best wishes to you and Anne. Jules x

Hi Jules

I was so pleased to hear your Mum can stay where she is and I am sure a lot of that is down to you and all the effort you have put in on her behalf.

I do hope you are keeping well and looking after yourself.

Best wishes.

Gill

Morning Brian

Glad to say the weather has cheered up today following the downpours of yesterday (very wet walk to the charity shop!!). Cold and frosty start but the garden looks pretty and birds are lined up waiting for breakfast !

Yes, a great relief for all concerned with my Mum's care and though I of course did my bit (a few well chosen words here and there and lots of form filling) I really must give huge credit to the care staff who all did their bit and ultimately to Mum's new social worker who was positive from the moment he was appointed (thank goodness I had some sense in asking for 'fresh eyes' the second time round).  The big regret of course is that hubby is not here to share the moment as he spent much time 'worrying for my sanity' at times.  Maybe he is quietly smiling down upon us all as we take our journey forward.

Hope you and Mrs B continue to feel better (the fruit sounded a really good cheer up option and whetted my appetite so am off to the shops again later - am thinking smoothie for lunch - really need to take myself in hand and lose the 'comfort eating' weight I gained in the last few months). I suppose the real answer is to stop buying the 'naughty foods' then cannot be tempted - easier said than done though during this cold weather ha ha. Have a good day. Jules x

Morning Gill

Not keeping bad - usual aches and pains that the cold weather brings but nothing worth complaining about.

Keeping busy in mind and body seems to be helping though do find concentration for long periods a bit of an issue as the mind wanders.  Know its a normal road through the grieving process and am so well supported am really very lucky. Think its a good thing that I have never minded my own company (comes from being an only child and spending a lot of time alone during our marriage as hubby worked away from home quite regularly). Building a new way of life will take time to adjust to but it can and must be done.

Look after yourself and sounds as though worklife is keeping you well and truly busy (dont let it tire you out). Wishing you a peaceful weekend.  Jules x

Good morning Gill,

Pleased to hear you are busy work wise. Thanks for asking about my yougest grandson. He has had a bad stomach infection for some while and he now has to go into hospital for an operation in March 13th. When asked by his mother how he felt about it by his mother, he replied that he was looking forward to it. his astoshed mother asked why and he told her it was because he knows it will make him better. Allthough he is still the happy cheeky little lad, I think this shows it has been troubling him more than he has let on to anyone. Have lots of new story ideas and about five underway, but have not had time to do any more with them as I have been busy with my woodclub activities and with my cancer charities.

Take care and dont work too hard, best wishes, Brian.

k xx

Hope this gets to u Jules

Hi Jules, bit of an issue copying and pasting to you.  Thank u advice re wedding out fit.  Mother is quite conservative. But I dont want to overheat  on the day and maybe at my age now should say sorry mum but I am a big girl now and I consider my choice appropriate. 

Good to see your mums issues have been resolved, good on you girl.  Feel proud. This time in 8 days and 2 hours the Scottish family will be here but who is counting.... Yup me.

Hope my pic made it through but if not Jo and Max look out.

Glad your wall is up and as your spring is coming our autumn is starting...so envious of your spring bulbs showing now....

Take care, let's hopethis gets posted ok or I will get really miffed.

Kathy xxx

Hi Jules, bit of an issue copying and pasting to you.  Thank u advice re wedding out fit.  Mother is quite conservative. But I dont want to overheat  on the day and maybe at my age now should say sorry mum but I am a big girl now and I consider my choice appropriate. 

Good to see your mums issues have been resolved, good on you girl.  Feel proud. This time in 8 days and 2 hours the Scottish family will be here but who is counting.... Yup me.

Hope my pic made it through but if not Jo and Max look out.

Glad your wall is up and as your spring is coming our autumn is starting...so envious of your spring bulbs showing now....

Take care, let's hopethis gets posted ok or I will get really miffed.

Kathy xxx

Hi Kathy

Am assuming you tried to 'copy' a picture over but a no show I am afraid (I have little joy when I try either and its only if I have  my daugher around that she figures it out (all to do with size of pixels apparently!!!) As you can probably see your written post is fine and I am sure your outfit will be just great for you  and it is you who needs to be happy with it (hark at me I sound like your mother now ha ha).  Just remember to remind your Mum/Sisters/ family from Scotland that they will not require wooly bloomers when they arrive to visit - no one needs fainting guests .  I can feel your excitement brewing and I am delighted for you all that you have this happy event ahead of you. Have a wonderful weekend.

Have been dropping bags into local charity shops today (and forcing  myself to leave with empty bags rather than refilling them!!)  Local recycling service is likely to be overworked for a few weeks as my Spring Clean is under way and am concentrating on the inside as when the weather improves a little I will be in the garden with my feet up and a book (just does not feel the same doing it indoors.).

Hope you and all your family both sides of the world are managing to keep calm and well.  Best wishes to you all Jules xx