You're so right about the benefits of having a routine to follow - although the alarm going off has been a bit of a shock to the system, rather than waking naturally (or unnaturally when my cat decides to jump on me to demand breakfast!)
Our half term holiday is the same as yours, so we'll both be ladies of leisure next week. I hope you have some good days with your daughter and grandchildren.
I'll be thinking of you and your family on Thursday - I'm sure it will be another emotional occasion, but as you say, another step towards the healing process.
Thanks Brian. The service is mid afternoon and though emotional for us will, I am sure,help us to move forward. Its our daughter's birthday this weekend and our son's 30th the following weekend so will be in an emotional bubble for a while no doubt; all part of the grieving process.As the lovely Beryl would say, baby steps.
Busy at work is keeping the mind from wandering too often but having reflective moments and good memories to draw on will keep us all 'in the now' and beyond.
Ah Jo, I always set the alarm (just in case) but my body seems to have in-built alarm as I am usually awake by 5.30 no matter what time I hit the sack! Annoyingly this happens whether I am working or not.
Hope to have a day in London (outdoor parks and sights if the weather is up to it or Natural History/Science Museum if wet) but will see what my day off brings. It will be nice for my daughter to have an extra pair of hands though the eldest also has tennis club on one day, swimming lesson and no doubt time out and about with friends he has from school. To be honest if he can be on his bike (with ball in bag) he is just as happy at the local park/lido. I know who will be the most tired at the end of the day ha ha. (at least at my age I get free travel).
Well bought some flowers in with me so had best get them into the wate. Hope you not finding things too tiring and are still getting plenty of home-based tlc. Take care and lots of hugs Jules xx
Hope you are OK. I see you have some plans for this half-term, it will be lovely to spend some extra time with the grandchildren - hope you get to London, I love the natural history museum! Take care of yourself & am thinking of you. Hope x
Thank you for your kind thoughts; the forum and my buddies still helping to keep me on the straight and narrow. Another emotional day ahead and I have just finished making a handmade bouquet to take to the service for hubby later today. Will appreciate the privacy of the occasion with just me and the children(their partners too) present for this part of the journey. Moving forward is a slow process but is happening at its own pace and am getting comfort still from the wonderful memories I hold in my heart and can never be taken away. As a family we share them often and talk freely which I know is helping us all.
Hope you and the family and doing ok and that the boys continue to do well with their education. Sending hugs Jules x
Good to see you post on my thread and hope you are being helped with the pain you were suffering in an earlier posting. My thoughts are with you and your daughter Bev as you continue your own journey. I bet Ria is keeping you company; give her a pat from me. Sending hugs.Jules xx
Couldnt post on here earlier as My computer just wouldnt start. Last night after coming home from the wood club meeting my computer decided to download an update. This morning I switched on and it started but then decided to freeze part way through the boot up. I couldnt switch off nor could I persued it to finnish yje boot up sequence. I had to leave it while Mrs B and I walked along the road to get her magazines and whan I came back I managed to switch it oof and this time allthough very slow, it completed the boot up. Gave me quite a scare. Wood club meeting was very good as the other founder member and mt good friend gave a talk/slide show about all the carvings he had done during his carving life. Fantastic evening. I was kept busy taking money for subs before the talk.
Anyway enough about me. Jules, I hope today brings a degree of comfort both to you and your family. Yes, I have no doubt there will be sad moments today but as you say, you have many happy memories which no one or nothing can take from you. I am so glad you are able to talk honestly and openly to your friends and family for I truly belive this helps with the grieving process. During my life I have met some people who think that after a few weeks we should not talk about those we have lost and move on with our lives. Their thinking seems to be talking about them keeps the pain alive. But I have pointed out to them when someone has been a part of our lives for so long, we have a need to talk about them;we cant just dismiss them from our lives. I know everyone has their own way of coping but these people were very forcefull in their attitude and I didnt like the way they spoke to my mother and me.
Anyway I have ranted enough for one day, take care and I and your forum buddies will be thinking of you this afternoon. Best wishes and big hug being sent your way, Brian
Hello again Jules, Just wanted to wish you the very best for today. I know it will be a very emotional day but I hope that you can gain some comfort from sharing it with your lovely family. I can only echo Brian's response in saying that I believe we should talk openly about those loved ones we have lost and it is very good that you are able to do this with not only your family but with friends too.
Thank you for asking about me and my family, my boys are doing great and youngest has to shortly make his university choices then of course deliver on the results! He has chosen high grade uni's so no doubt it will be a nerve racking time (for me more than him LOL!).
Haven't spoken to you for a long while, I hope you are OK. I don't come on the site as often as I used to but always like to check in from time to time on my forum buddies who supported me so well. I have read your post to Jules and am sad to read that you experienced people who didn't understand your need to talk about your loss. I totally agree that it is part of the healing process to talk through everything and to talk about our lost ones openly. I had a similar experience with somebody I had thought was a good friend of many years who, when I was grieving, told me she was sick of me talking about my Mum and Dad because she had things to get on with in her life. Needless to say she has yet not had to encounter grief. When we experience loss it changes us forever; I hope I will always have understanding for people going through such a terrible time. Anyway Brian just thought I'd rant too in agreement with you! Take care. Hope x
