My heart goes out to you that this shoud happen, especially at such at late stage which gives no chance of getting things sorted out due to the weekend. I really do feel for you and your family, Brian
Dear Jules, this is the last thing you need. Should the funeral directors not have picked up on this earlier or the govt depts involved??? My heart goes out to you honey. Kathy xxx
Dear Jules, I am so so sorry to read your latest post. I can't imagine how you and your family must be feeling. I'm lost for words as to why this should happen and how departments whose job it is to deal with registering deaths can make this blunder. I sincerely hope that there is some way to try and sort this out over the weekend. My heart goes out to you and your family. Do let us know how you are when you are able. Hope xx
I am so sorry to hear of ths official blunder by derpartments who are supposed to be so proffessional. The impact on you and your family can be devastating. I too am surprised the problem didn't show itself before now. Take care of yourself hun and if necessary chat to your helpful GP, as in putting her in th picture.
Oh guys thank you for you kindness. Wanted to share this with us a.s.a.p. Our funeral director has been amazing and has just rung to say everything will appear as normal on Monday. Due to a powercut (can you believe this) the curtains will not be able to be closed but everyone will be able to say their personal goodbyes however they wish. Tears of joy here (and relief). This phone call arrived just as first snowflakes began to fall - he is watching over me still. Jules x
Oh Dear Jules I dont know what to say ,how dreadful for this to happen ,you have been coping so well too, you must be devastated Jules I wondered if its anything to do with hubbys cancer Mesothelioma being an industrial illness I would like to explain what happened in our case as you know Tony had the same cancer because of this it can cause a few problems in the early days ,I so wish I could pm you to explain in detail .My heart goes out to you lovely lady ....Hugs sent ...Sueanne Xx
I am so pleased the problem has been resolved and well done for your funeral director for getting it sorted. You certainly didnt deserve to have that crop up at this late stage and must have been so disstressing both for you and your family. I just want to say I will be thinking of you all on Monday as you celebrate you dear Hubbies life. Take care brave lady, sending big hugs, Brian,
Oh Jules, thank goodness it has been resolved to some extent. You will carry yourself beautifully on Monday, with great dignity. Your man will always be watching over you and yours, no doubt about that honey. I have a feeling you will be a rock to others supporting them, because that's the kind of lady you are. We love you Jules, Kathy xxx
Hello Jules ,so glad things have been sorted and you can go ahead with arangements I can surely believe the tears of joy ..Hubby will always be with you in your heart and memory and I will be thinking of you and your family and know the feeling only too well Love and Hugs ...Sueanne Xx
Yes all to do with mesothelioma and the doctor who confirmed death did not tick the box to refer to coronor!!
I mentioned this at the registration but was told it was all okay and walked away with certificates thus carrying on all the usual tasks. Needless to say the coronor was finally consulted when hubby's GP was checking paperwork for filing and found discrepancy which started the ball rolling.The rest as you would say is history but led to a very distressing day for me and the children. The necessary procedures will follow after Monday's celebration of hubby's life. He will lay in chapel until such time as the law allows (but otherwise all remains as planned). There will be time for investigations into the failures of the proffesionals but it is not now.
Have had children/grandchildren here most of the day and tomorrow I will prepare the home for Monday's gathering before the service. Feel so peaceful now - think I am all bawled out for a bit - and planning some quiet reflective time. Thank you for being a reader/responder- so many good folk here.
