Trouble at work

I was recently diagnosed with breast cancer and had a mastectomy. Luckily I am clear. Whilst I was recovering I was overwhelmed by the love and support I got from family and friends and felt strong enough to go back to work after only 4 weeks. But at work I got screamed at by a lunatic madwoman colleague who I can only think had some massive hang ups and it knocked me for six. I had to take more time off just to recover mentally. I didn’t know I was vulnerable mentally until someone had a go!! It has taken me longer mentally than physically to get over this. Still not there yet! Has anyone else been treated badly at work post diagnosis? 

  • Yep!  I had to threaten my managers with legal action!

  • I haven't experienced this at work but I did whilst in the hospital. I've had melanoma before & it returned Stage 3 several years later. Whilst in hospital, recovering from the groin/pelvic dissection, a young female on the ward was going onto the car park 'scoring' heroin & then taking it in the toilet. Her behaviour was erratic but the nurses could only keep an eye on her. She overheard a conversation between myself & another patient & realised we were both Police officers. Later that day, after the other patient was discharged, she started ranting & raving at me, saying how she was going to get me for telling on her to the nurses (which I hadn't done)! Up to that point I thought I was dealing with my diagnosis quite well but I dissolved in tears (the first & only time until then). What upset me was that, after 30 years in the Police I had never let anyone get to me mentally, but while I was vulnerable this female had reduced me to tears. Fortunately another patient alerted the staff who moved the female & the sister sat with me & made sure I was OK. 

    So, it doesn't matter how well you perceive you are doing, if someone says or does the wrong thing at the wrong time it knocks you for six. Don't beat yourself up about it, be kind to yourself, accept that you are, like everyone in these circumstances, still vulnerable. It takes time to build up the mental strength to face this type of behaviour but you will get there. Don't let one lunatic person knock the stuffing out of you. Accept how you feel, gather your strength & take your time to get back on your feet. Meanwhile, I hope your management are aware of the incident & are ensuiring that she has been dealt with for her inappropriate behaviour. 

  • Sorry I don't know of any one having that trouble (you don't say what the shouting was about) some people think they can catch cancer from someone else it scares them they don't no what to do. Hope it gets sorted out soon. Good luck.

    Billy 

  • Waste no time and make an official complaint about this mad woman. She needs to put through the company's disciplinary process and given a formal written warning.  I hope there were witnesses because you may need to call on them.  Every company and organisation should have an official complaints procedure, but there are usually strict time limits, so don't stop to think about it.

    If there's a union then your union rep should help you go through the process.