Hi sara28, 

I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis and that your relationships have not worked out when you've told your partners about your situation. A saying comes to mind right now that the longer you wait the harder it will be so it may be better, and easier, to tell him sooner rather than later. It may come as a bit a of a shock to him at first but hopefully he will understand and stick by you. 

I know other members on the forum will understand the impact cancer can have on relationships and hopefully they will post soon to offer their support and advice.

Do come back and let us know how it goes. 

All the best, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Sorry to hear this Katie. It is a struggle with relationships isn't it.

meeting him tomorrow and gonna tell him see what happens

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Hi Sarah28 I'm glad that you going tell him tomorrow hope it goes ok for you The past relationships you had I'm sorry they didn't last the relationship you in now might be different not all men are the same.all the best . 

Hi Katiez so sorry to read about you situation hope you ok he not worth it he no man to do that to you he coward hope you find some happiness for you and you daughter take care . 

Sara,

I am aossry to hear this. From what little of I have read is that men are far more likely to leave a relationship in a crisis such as cancer than women are. I guess it is just they way we men are genetecially programmed. Most can't deal with stress and pressure of actually having high amounts of uncertainity in our lives.

However I do hope that your guy is one of the few real men, who will not do so. And if he does decide to pack up and make for the proverbial hills.. better now than later.

I hope everything works out for you.

Afy

Just to fill you all in the guy decided not to stick around and walked out when I told him sayin that and I quite "I ain't being stuck with no invalid find me when your better"

I'm so sorry sara28 I can't really put on here what I really think . You don't need anyone like that constrained on getting you self well I hope you got support from you family and friends that you not on own. You always got support on here. Silmer situation happen to me I was in my 20 I was with someone for 8 years I had to have op to remove cyst I remember coming out the op and the doctor told me it's not cancer but you  have got endometriosis when the dr told me if you thinking about children you should try straight away . When I went home things changed he left me. Then few years went and I went out on Boxing Day it was out blue I met this man he was older me we talked 15 years later and I'm still with him I had 2 other  big op back and for to hospital and he stuck with me he always new I wanted baby and I'm so blessed I got 10 month old baby boy . What I'm trying to say you will find happiness at the moment you been unlucky one day out of the blue you will meet someone who will love you for you and will stick with you no matter what. Hope this help. If you need chat I'm here if you want take care .