GP is ringing her tomorrow morning....letter just says he needs to discuss some test results with her. Bless her she says she is starting to get breathless again, I hope it isnt the fluid building up again. Mind you chances are it is I suppose.

Jacci

GP is ringing her tomorrow morning....letter just says he needs to discuss some test results with her. Bless her she says she is starting to get breathless again, I hope it isnt the fluid building up again. Mind you chances are it is I suppose.

Jacci

Hi

Have just caught up with your thread (internet access has been up and down).  Wish you and your Mum all the very best for her next appointment/discussion with the doc. and hope she can have a peaceful Christmas and be kept pain free.  (My hubby has cancer of the lung membranes  and I am aware of the breathlessness /pain problems that your Mum will be experiencing).  Do hope she can give her doc permission to discuss things with you which may make it easier for you to help her through any discussions that take place.  I usually go with my hubby for his hospital appointments (he knows only too well what is going on as he wanted to know right from the beginning(but does not find it easy to talk about from a very emotional point of view - diagnosis was nearly two years ago now and he has palliative care involving pain relief/regularly check ups)  as he prefers not to discuss things more than is necessary.  The only thing I would say is to take a notepad/pen both with the questions you/your Mum may have and also to jot down anything the doc may say so that you can refer to it afterwards (I find it helpful as very often its hard to take it all in at the time).  The forum is a very supportive place and its a good place to offload anytime you need to share your thoughts/emotions.

Take care.  Jules54

Thanks so much Jules for your reply, fortunately the GP was about a urine test that the hospital should have sent to lab for testing...but they forgot to send it.Im sorry to hear about your hubby and I hope you had a peaceful Christmas too.

Mum deffo had the best Xmas ever, my son, fiancee and our little grandaughter aged 3 came for dinner and it was fab and we thoroughly spoilt Mum. She is having shoulder pain and has lost a fair bit of weight now, she looks shorter as well somehow.I have stopped smoking today and strangely enough Im the same age as she was when she stopped.I recently found out that my father who I hadnt seen since I was 3 died a few years ago from lung cancer so I obviously havent got a choice regarding smoking.

Well appointment is 8th Jan, the lung cancer nurse is lovely and rings Mum most days to see how she is. I will be on here when we get the full diagnosis but Im dreading that day. I totally agree with the notepad and pen idea, when I was going through my own journey I had to get my Hubby to write things down as my head was all over the place.

Take care everyone and I really hope 2014 is as kind as it can be to us all.

Jacci xx

Hi there, I'm new to this site but just noticed your post about your mum. My my passed away on Boxing day 2012. She had small cell lung cancer which had spread to her liver and kidneys. She went through chemo and felt great for a while but unfortunate the chemo had affected her liver. The cancer never grew in her lung. My mum didn't want to know timescales - I think she would've given up. You mum's nurses sound really good, it's something my mum didn't want as she was still in denial. I'm  glad you managed to give her a good Christmas. I know how it feel to dread appointments as my dad was diagnosed with parotid gland cancer in June 2013 and then with prostate cancer in August 2013. I think the waiting between appointments is worse. I hope you and your mum can have some nice quality time together. Wendy xx

Hi Jules,

Just wanted to say I hpe you and your hubby had a peaceful and pleasant Christmas and you enjoyed not cooking

Much Love

Helen xx

Thank you Wendy and Helen so much for your replies...this cancer is evil isnt it. All we can do is be there isnt it but if Im honest I am absolutely dreading Jan 8th. Take care both of you and if you ever need to chat Im here....wish to God we didnt have to be but we can support one another Im sure.

Thanks again,

Jacci xx

To be honest, I didn't have any experience of cancer until last year. My mum had breast cancer 7 years ago but had the lump removed and 6 weeks of radiotherapy so never thought much about it. Every test, scan and appointment I would pray for good news even though I knew one day it wouldn't be. I really understand how much you will be dreading the 8th but from what I've seen so far on this site, there are so many supportive people here so you are never alone. I just don't understand why cures can't be found for all cancers and get rid of it once and for all. Take care and remember one of the most important things is to take care of yourself so you are strong enough for your mum. Wendy xx

Bless you Wendy, I will look after myself as much as I can...stopped the smoking so that is a major bonus. Obviously eating rubbish at the mo but next week Im going to make sure im eating healthily etc.I was very lucky when I had bone  cancer, just had tumour removed and have follow up xrays every six months. I would far rather mine came back as it would just be another op than watch my mum suffer but life is what it is isnt it.

Take care Wendy and this site is a total godsend.

Jacci xx

Hi

Just back from Christmas with my hubby'sfamily. Am glad to read that you had good responses from the forum community and hope your Mum can be kept comfortable until she has her appointment in early January. Internet link permitting am happy to listen any time you need/want to chat.  In the meantime wanted to wish you all a peaceful New Year.Jules xx

Thanks Helen

Lovely few days enjoying family time and totally relaxing. Hubby now catching up on missed 'naps' before we go and do food shopping.  Some lovely memories made by us all and we were all spoilt rotten by my sister in law's  lovely cooking. This could be all themore special as she,her younger brother and his wife told us they are all planning on moving to the Isle of Man as soon as they can sell their properties and found one to buy.  Quite a shock for us as apparently they have been planning since last May and some of their friends new already.  Timing not great but hubby has taken it in his stride (so far) and apparently his older sister now feels vulnerable  with his being ill and we are lucky to have children/grandchildren who can be there for us in a crisis.

Hope  you and the family managed a peaceful and stress free festive season.  Jules xx

Just had Mum on the phone she had 2l fluid drained from her lung 2 weeks ago but she can tell its back so is going to call an ambulance( hospital told her to do that if it came back). Im in bed with this earache/headache/vertigo thing that I get from time to time so cant get to her, she lives about 2 hours away. I will make sure I get to hospital tomorrow, she is being so strong bless her and I feel less than useless today but will feel heaps better tomorrow when I can see her.This journey is a rollercoaster isnt it and ours is just starting.....Sorry Im in a moaning mood....

Take care all.

Jacci xx