I'm getting there, The fatigue comes out the blue and knocks me off my feet, but I'm finished active treatment now....meds only.....xxxxxx

Oh, the fatigue! Just got to make sure you rest as much as you can. Our bodies have been through a lot and need to heal xx

Look up “histrionic personality” and “narcissistic sociopath”. I suspect you’ll be blown away by what you read.  Next, research how to deal with these personalities because I’d bet everything I have that your sister fits these descriptors - and they’re dangerous  

My sister lied about having various cancers for years. She claimed to have had brain cancer, cancer in her jaw, leukaemia  3 times and received both chemotherapy and radiation therapy,   Yet she wouldn’t ever allow any of us accompany her to her treatments.  She lied so much  I nearly lost my mind trying to get her to stop lying.

She will NEVER stop and I’m willing to bet, neither will yours  I was constantly in vicious circles she created - trying to show her she’d lied, her bringing up unrelated stuff to distract me, and her accusing me of things I hadn’t done - all to avoid admitting she had lied and I fell for it for years.   

She always has to be a victim.  Always wants people to  feel sorry for her, and if they don’t, she’ll make up an illness, or she’ll make up a terrible situation that hasn’t really happened. She doesn’t lie about cancer anymore as we eventually just rolled our eyes when she tried it,  so she’s lies about other things - all the time  

It’s about maniuplation and control  Nothing more, but it is awful. It’s sad, but believe me, you have to look after yourself here.  

In fact I could feel myself falling into depression for the first time in my life.   

What has helped me is understanding what’s going on and learning about how to manage it. 

You have enough on your plate, so arm yourself with knowledge that took me years to find out  

I hope your treatment is going well. 

Good luck. 

I've just found out my partner of 12 months has been lying for the past 3 years saying she had an inoperable brain tumour everybody she knows was duped by her I only found out as I moved in with her she would shave her hair off & say it had fell out told me she had a brain shunt fitted looking back I shouldve picked up on it a long time ago but how do you question somebody who you think has maybe got a few month to live.

Shed say she had chemo once a week radiotherapy 5 days a week I'd do everything for her as shed always say she was tired from treatment 

Since finding out I told her parents & other people now I'm the bad one as she says I shouldnt of told anybody unbelievable I know, & the latest I've heard is shes now going to tell people shes made a miraculous recovery her parents idea so she doesn't lose everybody then carry on her life living a lie 

Hi Whitley, What a story. She's your ex-partner now, hopefully! 

Yes definitely but I dont think I should let her tell everybody shes beaten cancer for them all to congratulate her probably throw her a party 

Or do I let her get on with it?

Hi whitley 

From my point of view, she might try something like that again, especially if she enjoys being centre of attention. 

A good idea maybe is to tell people who know her what she's really like and why you dropped her, even if they don't believe you some will wonder about her recovery from terminal. And hopefully it'll make her think twice before doing it again.. 

Billy 

That's what I was worried about her doing some people do know the truth but people she works with & her neighbour's still think shes got the illness, over the past year I've gave her quite a lot of money aswell because she used to tell me she had none & I've since learned she owes other people money 

Hi there ...

Hope you don't mind my take on it ...

If she's kept that going for two years and been lent money by people who probly would not ask for it back thinking she was terminal... that's a huge big lie to take advantage of those trying to help ... 

In my eyes they need to know ... because she could again say in 6 months it's all back again and start it all over ... 

It can be done kindly, asking those close to her to help her get mental health team on board ... there's deff something going on for her to keep that going .. so you could tell all her close family and friends and ask them to do something to get her help .... because she needs to know she cannot do that again .. 

But don't leave it thinking your helping ... because if you tell no one ... say nothing ... your giving her permission to do it again ....  Chrissie....