Hello there wor Dizzel :-)

let it all out lass you will actually feel better in the long run for it. 

So sorry to hear about your young friend...... it’s sometimes  hard to comprehend some of the things others are/have gone through. Why we gotta take every day and wring out every moment of life out of it. 

Deep breaths lass we are here x

Hi lilianna 

1st.... wishing you a belated happy bday :-)

i totally get where u are coming from bless.

I am fortunate to see/speak with my girls everyday. For bdays nd Christmas we have a £25 limit for gifts and even then make a list of what we want for the cost so get something we want but still a surprise. Tell them t get me a bar of chocolate rather than a card ....for anything...bday, Mother’s Day etc lol.

Don’t know if it’s cos we all came to an agreement or what but it works...so much so they now ask for chocolate instead of card too....so cards are thin on the ground around my lot lol.  not that u should have t have an agreement ... but I think the lines blur a bit as not just us but they get older. They start to focus on their own lil ones....thinking the older ones ( including themselves are less bothered).

tbh if mine decided the new plan was no gifts for us.... I’d b ok with that..... if I know then my expectations are managed. 

They have upset u so you must let them know. I’m sure they will b sorry and mortified they have made their mum upset. 

Dont let it eat away at u lilianna u will feel much better once you talk with them about how upset u are. 

Sending hugs me dear ️ X

Hi dragonfly 

Ah u have not met with your oncologist yet...well that makes more sense then :-)

your process sounds the same as mine then. I Met my consultant...started on the letrozole... had a review then he referred me on to the oncologist to discuss my further treatment options... for me this was the radiotherapy. I was surprised cos reading others posts many seemed to meet the oncologist and the oncologist started them on the meds not the consultant. Well as we say... why we always say for me it was...... 

Tuesday is tomorrow so nearly here...deep breaths u r getting there X

Afternoon peeps 

bad none yay

good:- but of a pain waiting in for delivery but daughter came with lil one. Bless lil one had her 3.5 yr vaccinations. Bless her lil face...bright red from crying  

i asked her if she was gonna go to school now........no. Ok then lol. 

Daughter ordered 2 fancy=expensive - light bulbs for her new lights.  took one out the box went oooo it’s lovely then promptly drop it new one ordered...... again lol. 

Hope everyone has had as good a day as they can x

The good: Got the all clear "cancer free" from my onocologist. Just n years of tamoxifen and zolendronic acid infusions but I can cope with that if they increase my chances of survival.

The bad: Having decided to retire early, I'm faced with a number of decision around how much of my various pensions to take as lump sums and how much to take as annual pension. With one pension, if I take max lump sum, I start to lose out if I live more than 11 years post retirement give or take. But I might live longer so maybe I should take more monthly pension. I'm taking my pensions early, but if I delay by a year, I get a bit more, but depending on my life expectacy, is it worth delaying? 

I'm definitely not enjoying this but I will do it. Math never was my strong point but you get very good very quickly! :)

Talk to a pensions advisor maybe? Just going through it with some one might help clarify which is the best way for you to go. 

Hi All,

The Good- I received news from work yesterday that they will support me as much as they can during the treatment period i.e. paid my salary in full. I am so very grateful with this as we i dont have to think of financial issues during this bumpy journey.

The Bad- MRI found another 2 new suspicious lumps and last night me and hubby decided we are not going to go through with egg/embryo feezing. The toughest decision we have to make so far in our 13 years together. I've been strong(ish) since i was diagnosed but last night i broke down and cry. We are supposed to go through our IVF treatment ( received dates and all) but found out i have cancer 2 weeks before procedure :(

Thank you [@Sandra123]‍ for creating this discussion thread.

SC xx

I am sorry to hear this,  cancer has such a ripple effect. This forum has been a god send to me, everyone on here are immensely supportive.....I wish you well on your journey......and I echo your thanks to sandra123 for creating this thread......xxxx

I have just got back from the hospital.

I have two primary cancers in the same breast - both different types. 

The second one is very small yet and slow growing but was picked up on the mammogram. 

It was lucky really because I wouldn't have found it for some time.

My specialist wants me to keep taking the tablets for the other one but I have to see the oncologist to discuss what to do about the second one. She may want me to have a mastectomy now. My surgeon says that isn't a problem to have it now but it would be easier if it was a little smaller. 

I am now waiting for the oncologists appointment when I should know more. I knew from the beginning that it would mean a mastectomy so that is no surprise and doesn't really bother me.