The good and the bad

Hi peeps

I have recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. Taking the excellent advice on this website I pretty much started by taking it one day at a time. This does indeed help. 

I thought to share the good and the bad and would love to hear anyone else's should they wish to share.

Today I had both a good and a bad moment. I received 2 letters in the post.

The first was from the hosp confirming my op date (my bad moment) cos my stomach dropped and I had that now familiar feeling of anxiousness take hold for a moment but shook it off cos I know it is needed. 

The good - my 2nd letter - as if... a tax rebate - boom  . Not half put a much needed smile on my face . Reckon a my treat family meal is in order.

Eeee it's the little things ain't it. 

Take care peeps 

Sandra x ️X

 

  • Hi Warrior

    Id be no good at picking up dropped stitches. I can’t see my feet let alone the floor. Lol.

    Sundial

  • Hi ladies.

    Sorry really been off the radar trying to get my head round life. I don't think I've ever felt so crap! If I could understand why it would make it easier bit I've got not idea. I can't change anything I know so just srgijkng with myself whether to order an Indian xx

  • Oh Dizzle hope you had the Indian! Keep posting so we know you are okay x

    Feeling pretty **** myself. Hubby is in masses of pain with slipped disc and the medication has given him severe constipation. He spends most of the day in bed which means I will be going on my own to see the consultant on Tuesday. 

    Sandra I have not seen the oncologist yet. I am seeing the consultant first then they will make an appointment with the oncologist.

     

  • Hello friends,  oh my gosh I have been following all your threats just been really busy with work. I’m a real estate agent and market it’s kind of slow right now and I have a mortgage to pay and lots of bills so I’ve been working a lot but I’ve been following your threats I just haven’t had time to write, but tonight I’m a little sad ,  and I’m really crying while I write this.Today was my birthday and as always I had my brother and kiss but never at home in my daughters and my grandkids the whole family I cook for everybody like I do every year try to make everything perfect, well ,Am I overreacting by feeling sad because none of my three daughters took the time to buy me a gift? All three of them came with an excuse of how busy they were or I’m sorry mom I didn’t have time Or oh mom I owe you the gift.  It is not a gift it’s self which makes me mad or sad is that nobody took the time to see how many get something for my mom? Everything was more important than me. That shows me that you give everything to your kitchen then when they’re older they don’t care. I’m just sad because I live alone I don’t have anybody at home I work a lot I’m alone a lot .  I don’t have a significant other I’m just sad, sad .  I’m sorry ladies I’m crying I don’t have anybody to talk to about this .  I’m just grateful I’m doing well I am free of cancer thank God so I guess they take me for granted like come find him all self-sufficient and I don’t need anything . Tell me ladies if I’m overreacting?

  • Hi,

    No you are not overreacting but I also do not mean your girls don’t care. They came to see you and gave you their time and these days that is the most precious thing. They just don’t realise that a bunch of flowers from the local garage would have been enough.

    They see you as strong which is good because you are. You have beaten cancer.

    Maybe the next time you see them just casually say that you were a little hurt that they did not get you anything and that a bunch of flowers would have been enough. Don’t make a big deal of it. And now just think about the times they are there for you.

    Hope you feel better soon xx

  • Hi ladies,

    Indian still on the side lol. Had a bit of a meltdown last night. Cried myself to sleep. Need to pull myself together. Woke up to horrible news. When I was diagnosed my friend in Newquay put me in touch with her friend who had just been diagnosed with lung cancer. We started chemo at the same time and chatted all through it. She got the all clear in October. It's her funeral today. It came back and spread. I'm actually in shock. She only turned 25 six weeks ago. Why does life have to be so cruel. I almost feel guilty my treatment went so well :-(

  • So good to hear from you Dizzle.

    So sorry to hear about your friend, it is very upsetting I know but lung cancer is a whole different ball game. You will feel guilty but it is not justified. I am sure she would not want you to.

    I know it won’t feel like it now but it will get better. You will still have meltdowns and you will still feel sad but every day you will feel stronger.

    Do you chat with anyone apart from us? Sometimes it is good to touch base with normality. I belong to another forum where we talk about everything and that helps to ground me. It is not just about cancer. 

  • Hi Marlyn.... well done on the restraint in marks nd sparks. ;-) hope u got something nice with yr voucher :-)

    try not t worry about treatment plan....once got and started on it you have your count down t that light at the end of the tunnel :-) x

  • Lol sounds like helping u with knitting would kick my repetitive strain off lol ;-)

    Ah the student becomes the teacher :-) love that life is on the up for u WQ - new job nd doing all things you fancy in your u time.,,, perfect ️X