Hi. I was diagnosed with breast cancer 2 years ago, I had surgery a few weeks later and it’s the most nervous I’ve ever been, but you’ll be absolutely fine, I was it’s just a long day waiting around xx

Good morning clarebear and glad u have dropped by :-)

ah brill 2 yrs post op. Would love to know how things are going 2 yrs on if u feel like sharing:-

all currently on this thread are indeed post op ( if anyone is reading nd newly diagnosed or waiting for results op etc..you too are welcome to join in ). Wonder [@clairebear]‍ if you have read my 1st post nd not clicked on the tab to toggle you to latest post :-) 

anywhose me dear thanks for posting would love you to join in with the rest of us on this post :-) x

Found the icon. Might try later.

Sundial

Cracking:-)

Oh wow 91 items sold .... well done u :-)

They are all beautiful... obvious talent right there. X

No talent...just practice and perseverance. I don’t make a profit just cover costs so I can carry on. I’ve customers all over the world. One in Virginia America keeps coming back.

Sundial

Very creative nd practice is def making perfect then :-) not surprised the come back for more they r lovely and sooooo cheap. 

I lose interest sooo easily lol. I’ve got the back of a cardigan done but sick so put it down....I have an actual pattern I’m following for it... I seem to keep more interest if I don’t nd just make it up as I go along lol x

Always use a pattern but sometimes adapt and combine. I only knit small garments. That way I don’t get fed up. I absolutely hate sewing up though.  And sewing on buttons is a nightmare. Lol

Sundial

Hi All, 

Got recommended this forum by another lady and thought id introduce myself. Im Candice and 36 and was diagnosed with grade 3 breast cancer on the 10th of May. Was a massive shock and the first thought was my 8 year old little girl. Cant begin to imagine how im going to break the news. Any tips? I will wait until after I start my chemotherapy next week though as I dont want her to know any sooner than she needs to. I had a call from the oncologist yesterday saying he needs to see me for more biopsies as my MRI showed signs it had spread to my lymph nodes (originally this test was clear) so will be seeing him Tuesday. Bit nervous about that. He said although it was a large tumor it looks very contained which is good and my CT scan came back clear. Ive been told 9 months of chemo, surgery then radiotherapy so long old road ahead and very scary but despite yesterdays phonecall im very positive today. Thing is im angry too. I went to the doctor 16 months ago with the same lump and they put it down to my implant rupturing. It wasnt until this year when it started aching and getting noticeably bigger that i started worrying. I put it down to the so called rupture to my implant  so ignored it. It wasnt until I was due to get my implants replaced that I asked for another scan so I had a report to show the surgeon and then they found out it was actually cancer. My GP has requested a full report be made and maybe I will have a case for medical negligence.I could have been walking round with this unnecessarily for the last 16 months. But what will be will be I guess. Its happened now and all I can do is be strong for myself my daughter and my lovely partner who im due to marry next year. Looking forward to going wedding wig shopping lol. So glad ive found this site. Its nice to talk to people who know what you're going through. Anyone who knows me knows im stubborn as anything so im going nowhere! Lol xx

Hi welcome to this amazing thread! I saw Cornish recommended it. There is some truly amazing ladies on here who will help you as they did me. My journey has come to an end as my lumps after being removed were all benign. I have stayed on here to help others and keep an eye on these ladies! If you read back you will see everything is talked about!! From operations, how people are feeling, chocolate cakes and even men in uniforms and toy boys and one lady who likes climbing trees!!! Hugs are always being sent round and sending you one now xx 

Hi Dizzle

So sorry to find you needing this forum. Sending u a warm welcome from us all. 

My treatment was different to yours in as much as I did not have chemo. It is a scary nerve wracking road for everyone so how you are feeling is... well to b expected bless.

There is no right or wrong way to feel, how you deal with it, how you react to decisions, waits and treatments. The way it is for u is the way it is .. for you. 

That being said know this...we are here for you. 

The advice that without doubt helped me the most was stop looking ahead live in the moment/day. Stop the what ifs, should haves, could haves, would haves. Fill the waits ( always seems the worst) by grabbing life with your family, hugging them and wring out every moment of joy.

I followed this advice and tbh helped get me in a good place to deal with my diagnosis. It helped me realise all the angst in the world won’t change a thing so... I’ll look it in the eye and stare it down. 

My children are grown up so I will step back from advising on how to tell yours. I hope the ladies with younger children than me will come along and share- until then if you search “how do I tell my children I have cancer” there is a very good article to read ( I would have put the link on but couldn’t work out how to do it)... sigh.. sorry.

So...stay nd chat with us, we will b by your side with advice if we can, support when u need, a sounding board when it’s all too much. Talk about how u feel, what u hate, what u love, what makes u laugh, what u r making for tea.... anything good or bad... we are here for you. You can do this. X

Hi thanks to you both for the reply. Just got home from work and had a nice big letter (nice said in sarcasm) from the hospital with my chemo dates in starting next thursday. All seems so real now. Was shaking when I was reading it. Goes up til September for now and then will get another schedule when the medication changes. I just wanna get this done now. I have promised myself getting through this I will never complain about an eye bag or bit of cellulite ever again. Vanity seems so irrelevant now. Just want my health xx

The good.....having hair done tomorrow as is very dry and lacking any oomph!

The bad....none today.

Hey dizzle glad to see you found us. I have a 9 year old and I started by explaining that a bit of my boob was sick and that I would need an operation and special medicines to get it better. She accepted this and asked a few questions which I answered honestly but I didn't use the word cancer. She got a bit clingy at one point and we kept asking if she was ok or wanted to ask anything...then one day she just blurted out the c word and pointed at me. She had clearly picked up on things so I had to explain a bit more. She has coped really well and to be honest I think she took her lead from us....we always tried to be positive about it with her and reassured her that her world won't change. 

Alt the end of the day I don't think there is a perfect way...you just have to do it the way you think is right. X

The good.....having hair done tomorrow as is very dry and lacking any oomph!

The bad....none today.

Hey dizzle glad to see you found us. I have a 9 year old and I started by explaining that a bit of my boob was sick and that I would need an operation and special medicines to get it better. She accepted this and asked a few questions which I answered honestly but I didn't use the word cancer. She got a bit clingy at one point and we kept asking if she was ok or wanted to ask anything...then one day she just blurted out the c word and pointed at me. She had clearly picked up on things so I had to explain a bit more. She has coped really well and to be honest I think she took her lead from us....we always tried to be positive about it with her and reassured her that her world won't change. 

Alt the end of the day I don't think there is a perfect way...you just have to do it the way you think is right. X

Ah thank you for the advice. When I was diagnosed the hospital gave me a book called mummy has a lump which is a story book designed I suppose to explain to kids in simple terms. I think I will just sit and let her read it to me and explain a few more things. She’s a sensitive little thing who has been through a lot for various reasons which is why I worry but I will just play it down and reassure her. That’s all I can do I guess. Xx

That's ok. I was given a comic strip type book but it was a bit too full on when I read it so decided not to use it. You can only do it your way...you know your daughter and how she reacts so go with your gut x

Good

Had a relaxing day with compulsory costa latte. The sun has shone for most of the day.

Bad

Still feel sick from antibiotics.

Dizzle

My children are both adults and it was difficult enough with them so I really appreciate your situation.

I am a primary school teacher who has taught children your daughter’s age. In my experience they like to know as much of the truth as they can cope with. They also appreciate honesty when asking direct questions. Support and positivity is also important. So Cornish answer seems to fit the bill but you know your daughter best and what she will be able to cope with. Maybe just small pieces of information at a time because we all but especially children get overwhelmed by too much information especially where emotions are involved. 

From a teacher’s point of view if you feel able to do so I would suggest that you let her school and teacher know the basic details. From experience it will be helpful for her teacher to know what is happening and how much you have told her so they can support her too. After all she spends a lot of time in class and believe me children react in different ways to this sort of thing. Also if she trusts her teacher she may want to talk to her.

Sundial

Thank you that’s really helpful. I never even thought about letting her teacher know but you’re absolutely right that they should know as I spose it will allow them to understand more if she’s maybe having an off day. Thanks so much x

You are welcome.

i know often schools are the last to find out these things. Naturally parents have other things on their mind. But it is so important in the support of your family.

Sundial

Hi Sundial 

still feelings queasy... do u have many more days to take the meds?

i was so surprised at how lovely today had turned out weather wise :-) 

excellent advice for dizzel ️X

Evening wor Cornish :-)

Getting ya glam on tomorrow nd no bad today - good times :-) x

Bad

Second lot of antibiotics so only one and half days in. Still five and a half to go.

Good

On last box of blood thinner jabs. 18 down 10 to go.

Its the little things.......

Sundial

Ah bless... not even like I can have spoonful of sugar to help the medicine go down... thank heaven for Costa. X

Unfortunately if I don’t time the costa right it makes me feel more sick.:-))

I hate the blood thinner jabs more. And the compression stockings......but needs must. They’re not the worst things ive dealt with recently.

Sundial