Hi cornishpastie

Sure [@Chriss]‍ will b along soon.

In the mean while just wanted t say - No mistaking it you have been side swiped out of nowhere. Having a “bad” day is totally normal so don’t b so hard on yourself. 

Nothing wrong  with looking at all practicalities... some things just should b in place regardless. I’m grade 2 but when I was diagnosed didn’t have a will - I do now:-) let’s face it my will should have been in place anyway - u know the old “might get hit by a bus” scenario :-) 

I didn’t focus on the practicalities of my treatment... I literally obsessed on them. Bless the lasses who supported me on here throughout my obsessions were my rock ( thank you ladies- you know who u are).

The endless questions on what to take with me on op day ( I mean really it’s - slippers, dressing gown nd kindle) seriously the amount of me t you t me t u questions.... yup obsessed with the detail:-) again... thank u lasses.

Guess it was my way of dealing. Whatever your way is then what the hey you do whatever it takes.

x

Careful ... floodgates cornishpastie floodgates;-)

Reckon 2 things to remember 1. It’s a bit like being dropped on the edge of an abyss looking down ( being phased and scared is normal) 2. You will be stepping back from the edge to live your life with those you love and care for you. 

Now u have triggered my dormant obsession :-) Wear clothes, pyjamas nd underwear that you can get into easily ( just in case you are a bit tender). So pyjama top that goes on like a cardi nd front fastens. I got a couple of seamless, front fastening, wire free bras ( support without digging in nd easy to fasten). See the trend here- easy to put on nd comfy. 

Ask away on anything you are unsure of. We are all here t help:-) x

Ha ha Sandra you made me laugh. Right pulling myself together again. 

I hadn't thought about front fastening bras!!!! Huge tip. Thank you....front fastening everything here I come!

Just jump in here as well, if you have some bbq tongs around, keep them handy for when you get home. Useful for reaching out to grab stuff without overstretching your arm for the first few days. 

Oh that is a good tip. Can I ask how long it took for you to recover. I've had to give work a rough timescale and I've said a week off. They know this is flexible and understand why and aren't putting pressure on me. But I have a stressful job (social worker) so am out driving to visits and carrying files, lots of note taking and typing up of assessments. Let alone the occassional angry person. I want to be realistic but also want to get back asap after for normality. 

I went back to work after two and a half weeks. The docs at the hospital signed me off for two weeks straight away. I worked half days for two weeks, my boss insisted I didn’t overdo it and then back full time until radiotherapy mid point. I worked half days for the last part of treatment and then for me fatigue really kicked in. I was off for a month after treatment finished. 

Thanks Rileyroo. I do wonder if I'm underestimating the time I will need off. To complicate things only my close colleagues know so being in here and there is likely to cause lots of questions. I think I will play it by ear and not put anything in my diary for a few weeks post surgery just in case.

Hi there ... Bless ya , please don't feel bad ... I've often said on here if I'd still had my kids at home , I'd have been totally different ... I really don't think I'd have copied ... You are doing amazing , start believing in yourself and know those feelings are normal ... 

I had a melt down day when my baby (37)  was having tests and it could av been cancer ... I totally lost it ... Even when he phoned me to say he was o.k , I was sobbing on the phone ,. It was only our buds on here kept me going and held me up ... 

I wish I could send you a real hug, coz I think you need it right now ... And remember, if we all were strong this site wouldn't be needed ... But we've all needed a friend on here who knows what those feelings are like.... I wrote all my letters to loved ones at the beginning ... I even planned the music and service for my funeral ... I made my Emily (photo) a memory book that I'd started since she was two ... Everyone listened to me as I was sure I wouldn't come through op ... We'll that was 8 months ago... All those letters and plans and memory book is put safely away for a while yet ... So I did what you were thinking.. 

I'm so worried about you now ... Look how far you've come ... We helped each other through this, well all help you and down the road , you can join us in helping someone newly diagnosed and you can tell them how scary this journey can be ... Big big hug ... Hold on and when you feel scared look round and picture us standing right there beside you saying "yes you can" please keep in touch ... Our little cournish pastie xxx .

We’re all different, I know people on here keep saying that but it is very true. Sandra123 had virtually no fatigue and so was able to get on with things almost straight away. I had no skin issues, a lot of people do during and after radiotherapy. Block out two weeks on your diary, you have a stressful job, certainly mentally and I would imagine physically on occasion and give yourself recivery time.