Stay Strong

I have a busy day and come home to my lovely neighbour mowing my back lawn.  I chastise him and say  I would have got round to it, he knew I was struggling and came in whilst I was out.  These kindnesses make my day.  I think hubby is not looking well and voice my concerns.   Nope he says he's fine but a little niggle tells me otherwise.   I get up this morning and he admits he's not good..  appointment at Doctors and he has another infection.  I am being picked up by a friend to go to Wynyard Hall and gardens, the day is glorious and she has the soft top down,we arrive and I look like Bridget Jones after her ride in an open top car!  We have home made cake and coffee and meander the beautiful gardens looking at the pumpkins, sweetcorn and variety of flowers.  I suddenly spot a flower that hubby and I keep seeing  on our drives and it's driving him insane not knowing its name.  A lady hears us talking, takes a photo, Googles it and walks back to tell me, it's  called the common tansy. People are so thoughtful and kind!  Back home hubby laughs at the state of my hair, saying I look like I have been pulled through a hedge backwards,  charming!!  I tell him the plants name, lovely he says and promptly falls asleep on his sheepskin in the sunny conservatory.   Hopefully the antibiotics will kick in soon, I want my normal hubby back.

  • Dear carol.

    Just noticed your text message ,got tears in my eyes writing this,i know words won't help, but know you will STAY STRONG as you are very very strong ,. thinking of you and your family .

    Love Billy xxxx

  • My thoughts are with you. Things may feel very surreal for sometime. My husband passed away 6 months ago. Things are never the same. Thank God you've got each other. It wil help you get through this tough time ️

  • You are an amazing woman. I only joined this week but had read your heartfelt posts with sadness yet awe. Norman will be so proud of you. Don't let the hard times eclipse the good times, cancer will never win in the end when you have all that love between you.
    God bless you and your daughters xx 

  • Dear Carol,

    I am so sorry that Norman's last days were so horrible.  You should be proud of the way you fought for him throughout, although this is no consolation. 
    Now, more than ever you must take care of yourself.

    Tears are falling as I write this, not for Norman, you gave your all taking care of him, but for everything you have gone through in the years you have allowed us to share, and for how you are feeling now.  I feel the loss, too.  
     

    Love 

    Christine xxx

  • Dear Carol,

    My condolences to you and your family.

    May Norman rest in peace.

     

     

     

    Best Regards

    Taff

  • Carol, 

    I am so sorry to hear of Norman's passing and on behalf of everyone at the Cancer Chat Moderation Team, you have our sincerest and heartfelt condolences.

    I can't begin to imagine what you are going through at the moment but you have been so strong, so brave and so courageous. Norman would be so proud of you.

    Our thoughts are with you and your family Carol and I hope the support and kind words you have been receiving from the community can offer you some small comfort at this very sad and difficult time.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • In loving memory of my soulmate and wonderful Dad and Grandad. Thank you to everyone for the love and kind words sent our way. This photo was our last trip out to the Dales when Norman was stronger. Love to everyone and especially those struggling with cancer who still want to live a life full of love and laughter and tears, it can be achieved. Xx

  • Oh my hunny ... I recon he's looking down at you, and telling you he's there, and sending hugs ... 

    It's not fare how those last days were beond crule, and as we know cancer has no compassion... like so many others on here, we feel we were a tiny part of your journey... along with our own too ...

    All I can do is send a vertual hug and I'm so so proud of you ... your strength, your big heart, and your humour have all played a part ...  my thoughts and love are with you ... Chrissie x x 

  • Thanks to all of you for the thoughtful replies. Norman's death was not registered as a duty doctor filed it instead of informing the registrar. We have just completed everything this morning and I now have covid due to being intimately involved in caring for Norman. I can't eat and am staying strong for Faye as she has to go home. The beautiful cards, love and flowers we have received has lifted our Souls. It's so lovely that Norman and I were so well thought of. The main word has been "Gentleman " and that one word sums my wonderful husband up. Xx