Stay Strong

I have a busy day and come home to my lovely neighbour mowing my back lawn.  I chastise him and say  I would have got round to it, he knew I was struggling and came in whilst I was out.  These kindnesses make my day.  I think hubby is not looking well and voice my concerns.   Nope he says he's fine but a little niggle tells me otherwise.   I get up this morning and he admits he's not good..  appointment at Doctors and he has another infection.  I am being picked up by a friend to go to Wynyard Hall and gardens, the day is glorious and she has the soft top down,we arrive and I look like Bridget Jones after her ride in an open top car!  We have home made cake and coffee and meander the beautiful gardens looking at the pumpkins, sweetcorn and variety of flowers.  I suddenly spot a flower that hubby and I keep seeing  on our drives and it's driving him insane not knowing its name.  A lady hears us talking, takes a photo, Googles it and walks back to tell me, it's  called the common tansy. People are so thoughtful and kind!  Back home hubby laughs at the state of my hair, saying I look like I have been pulled through a hedge backwards,  charming!!  I tell him the plants name, lovely he says and promptly falls asleep on his sheepskin in the sunny conservatory.   Hopefully the antibiotics will kick in soon, I want my normal hubby back.

  • Dear Jo,  how are you doing. I've just checked your last post and  it's two weeks ago so another month until the new arrival?  Keep me updated and I know Pete's not too good ao it must be so hard exciting on one hand ans trepidation on the other. Love Carol xx

  • It's not been a good week. We had a call to say bloods weren't good but treatment would go ahead, Norman was happy about that and I breathed a sigh of relief as he has not been well. Two hours later another call, the oncologist had spoken to the haemitologist who said not to do it, wait five weeks and do bloods again.  Norman was so fed up he took off in his car to the golf club for Bobs 89th birthday.  I was worried as he should have stayed home but how do you stop a grown man from doing his own thing.  He arrived home two hours later, covered in blood and black and blue, he had fallen down the ramp coming out, landed on both elbows and his remaining knee, it was awful and he looked so unwell.  Thursday he was worse and yesterday he was in a bad way, bad tempered, hurting, unpleasant but Margaret and I were going to the cottage to make beds up for Lisa and Tugs, so we went any way.  It was a beautiful day, we went and sat outside a coffee shop and had coffee and cake, met people who lived there and had a pleasant afternoon.  I got lost coming home and only realised when we went over a cattle grid that it was the wrong road, we were in the middle of the moors and lost, so we turned round and made it home in the end.  Norman had calmed down and he had fish and chips, me, I had a large gin and tonic!  Take care, Carol x 

  • I've been awake since 4am as the cough has got worse.  By 7.30 I got up as my head was splitting and my neck hurt trying to get back to sleep, my eye mask had slipped down so big tramlines ran across my cheek, then the man who said there was nothing wrong with him states he's been awake since 4am, I know you have I say crossly, I heard you!  He decided he wasn't up to having his scan and needed a doctor.  I was number 56 in the call queue and twenty minutes later "Maureen" tells me to call again tomorrow, to say I was angry was an understatement, don't you dare hang up on me I say as politely as I can, so a GP is sent and he's now on 7 days of steroids, the scan is cancelled, the oncologist is cancelled and the McMillan nurse has been updated.  I cancelled Sarah and just sat all day watching TV.  I am truly fed up.  Oh and to cap the lot Lisa's lost parcels arrived at  8.30am all 8 boxes!!  Take care, Carol x 

  • Oh Carol

     

    What a day!   Hopefully the steroids will perk him up, and possibly help him sleep better.  I hate lying there at 4am watching the minutes tick by

     

    Snoops

  • Dear carol definitely the day for a strong drink (@_@).  Hope steroids will kick in and things improve .

    I've got bit of good news, endocrinologist has changed my dose and weaning me off another tablet and my BP is increasing slowly,low 100 better than 70s anyday.still slow going yet,   . we've got mobility scooter each now I treated brenda to a good milage one so I can get more downtown shopping done and no trouble parking or carrying bags up the hills .

    Hope things are starting to get better soon with steroids 

    Still having fun in wet Room despite our age, carers messing around with times but we can bear it for a while longer ,ha ha ha  (◔‿◔). (◠‿・).

    Take care keep positive.

    Thinking of you.

    Love Billy xxxx

  • Morning Snoops and Billy. Things got worse yesterday and he lost his rag big time. We were going to collect his spare leg but I said unless he calmed down I wasn't getting in the car with him. So foul language and told no to treat him like a child. My reply was if you act like a child then I'll treat you like one. So he went alone. Lisa has unexpectedly arrived at the cottage last night so I will see them today which is so nice. My garage is full of boxes so lots to move. Harry and I are doing a pizza and the cinema tomorrow so a treat for us both. I'm leaving Morman to stew in his own juices he is not going to spoil my few days. Thank you both for the support it's much appreciated. Love to you both. Carol xx

  • I'm back from the South but things have not been good.  Lisa stayed up here for her Dad but he was not into having company, so despite being invited out for Sunday lunch he declined.  He then rang me Sunday asking where his spare set of car keys were as his fob wasn't working, so he couldn't get in the car.  He'd not got any milk like I told him, no Sunday papers as I didnt ask Dave to buy them due to his attitude before I went.  Obviously I'm now over two hundred miles away so could not help.  We drove home yesterday and sat in a traffic jam for  two hours, meaning it took six hours to get home.  Norman had bought me a beautiful bouquet of flowers for our wedding anniversary but I was past caring by then!  Today I've had the doctor again and bloods were taken as they're now worried about sepsis due to how long he's been unwell.  They're now talking about taking him into hospital.  I'll let you know how it goes soon as I know.  Carol x 

  • Dear carol. .

    Hope you managed to get a good time while you were away, despite all the problems at home.

    Hope Norman is soon sorted , know you'll be worried about him till things are done and dusted and he's home again.

    Brenda and i went on a jaunt on our mobility scooters to the local shopping mall , trying to get her usto rough footpaths and road junctions .took her walking frame on mine so she could go into shops, she bought some crockery from a charity shop,had to put it on base of her scooter in a box as mine has a tunnel. , She hit a pothole and it fell off and she kept going leaving me to tidy up luckily not many breakages . I'd warned her to look carefully where she was going but typicall female she knows best . She enjoyed herself that's main thing.

    Some good weather and we will be out again.

    Just sold my car not worth much but putting money  away to save for another one not a diesel , hoping to get another before Christmas, mabye. 

    Take care darling carol, be thinking of you and Norman.

    Love Billy xxxx

  • My husband is not making life easy for me. This morning I tried to explain about the call re his bloods which were done yesterday and in which she managed to collapse his vein.  He tells me he's a lot better today so has no idea why they've been done again.  Trying to explain the reason that it's not his chest infection it is his low blood count is not sinking in at all.  Get one thing clear he shouts at me, IAm Not Going into HOSPITAL.   Trying to talk sensibly too him is useless, he kept repeating the same sentence, as its his decision and that's final.  No its not as it impacts on me, I have no idea what signs of sepsis to look for, we need some help, OK he says and carries on watching TV.  Faye is between us both and says to leave him alone but she's going home tomorrow so I'll be on my own!  We went to visit the new house, they all loved it and then we had a massive present buying of clothes for Alfie and Ella.  Back home my garden lightison permanently, Alfie broke the pull cord in the garage, there's a million leaves to pick up and no one has bothered ringing with his results.  When McMillan asked if I needed some support I said no, but I'm going to enquire as to what support I can have, gardening and handyman services would be good.  Billy it sounds like an eventful day out for you and Bren, please be careful you two.  Lots of love, Carol x 

  • Hi there Carol ....

    Just seen your thread as I don't get on here much as life is manic ... or everyone else life is panic so I'm here there and everywhere ... last year was like months of isolation....  only seeing grand kids every other week end ... now it's the opposite helping everyone, think they forget I'm a couple years away from 70  lol  ... but hay ho .. got a day to myself today ... so popped on ...

    Bless ya, you never get a break bud .... they say the man upstairs only gives you what you can cope with ... but I recon he's way over looked how much your going through ....  so wanted to come on to send you a vertual hug.... hold on in there my hunny ... bbleedin Drs.... and their phone queues... our average ones about 17 / 23 in the queue .... sure I'll join you in the hari cari bit ... Chrissie xx