Hello to all who post here. I have been advised to just jump in so that's what i'm doing. (i do hope you don't mind) I still haven't managed to read the whole thread though so i will try to just pick up snippets here and there.

You all lead such busy lives compared to me, i feel like a couch potato. All i have done today is go to the dump to get rid of some crap that has been vacating my loft for about 10/15 years. That's the one good thing about waiting on a diagnosis, you clean things and clear out.  Apparently it is good for the body and the mind, lol.

Carol, was the bank Santander by any chance ? I have read stories about them with their thoughtless correspondance. If that had happened to someone less strong than you then it would have them in bits ..... most unprofessional.

I hope you all have a lovely evenin or morning in your case Sue.

I may flit in now and then and post a few words if you don't mind ?

Hi Ladies,
Welcome Puddle-Jumper.  My day hasn't been too bad.  Hope your day has been good.

Carol, Tried to get the car transferred to my name.  Still more paperwork to fill out.  I did find out though that VicRoads won't let me pay the registration until it's in my name.  (It's due6th Aug)  I am so cross with Neil today, when I think about all the **** I've had to fill in to get things changed or do things, all because he wouldn't make a will.  This would have been so simple if he had.  I just could have gone in with a copy of his will and a copy of the death certificate and it would have been done.  It's just very frustrating.
Apart from the that I've had a good day.  Mandy has done my nails a gorgeous colour.  Tanzania Sunset, which I thought was going to be an orange colour but it's a lovely purple. It was a new one she had got and was looking forward to using it on someone.  Then had Rotary tonight which was really good.  Apparently our club had given money to our local hospital cancer unit, and one of the nurses (she had a lot to do with Neil when he was having treatment, and was really lovely after he passed) gave a talk on what our donation was being used for.  So a good night.  Deana sent me a text to see if I could watch Eli, she is off to the flower market again in the morning.  So not too long before I go over there.

Hope you have a lovely day at the movies with your girlfriends.  It's a good movie from everything I've heard.

Take care, and love to all.  Sue xx

I'm up early to call the surgery but the person he wants to see is on holiday, so I take hubby tea and relay the message, all I get in return is a grump.  He was in a real funny mood yesterday, not talking unless he had to, I stayed upbeat though, enjoyed the movie alth the story line was ridiculous but hey who cares.  A meal with good friends and much laughter until I arrived home.  Face like thunder, shouted at me for no reason, so I've learned to leave well alone and left him too it, I don't think today is going to be much better.  Still I've got a dance class and then my car needs a wash, tyres to check before I go to meet my cousin tomorrow, which I'm looking forward to.  Dear Sue, what a horrible situation Neil has left you in, these men of a certain age are so stubborn, it's their way or no way, I hope you get sorted soon.  We made our Wills years ago before he became ill, but I think he would have seen the benefits of making one now, if we hadn't already. So I can understand why you are cross.  Its a miserable day here but it matches his mood so perhaps that's better.  Signing off now, love Carol x

Dear Carol,

Glad you enjoyed the movie, The shorts I'd seen did give an idea about the storyline.  The music alone would have made the movie good, especially, I think to people round our age.  Neil always did march to the beat of his own drum.  If he didn't want to do something, there was no way you would change his mind, vice versa too, I may not have wanted him to do something but if he wanted to, he'd just do it.  The wheels turn slowly, eventually it will all get done, just frustrating in the meantime trying to get it done.  I've already spoken to the solicitor about making my will, certainly don't want to leave the kids with problems.  Neil was verbal about everything being mine, so many people were aware of his wishes, but it's no good legally.
The moods, maybe even depression go hand in hand with cancer.  It's not  an easy road.  Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day for him.   
Bree, the kids, and also their laundry are coming tomorrow.  She was telling me their washing machine has washed it's last load, they've bought a new one but won't be delivered till Friday and not installed Monday.  So while visiting she'll get her washing done.  Laundromats are so expensive here.
I'm hoping our weather will be somewhat better tomorrow for the kids, we might even be able to get to the park so they can burn off some of that energy.

Tea time for me.  Take care, love to all.  Sue xx

Hi all, I've had a marvellous day and Denise and I enjoyed our meal and catch up in a beautiful country pub surrounded by hills and valleys, green fields for miles and sun shine, this was in Cumbria and the area is beautiful.  Hubby wished me a lovely day, his neck has been playing him up again and this is when he gets into a bad mood as its so painful, but we're back on track, I can't imagine how hard it is to live each day in pain, struggling and trying to make life as good as you can.  Medicine has advanced so much but quality of life isn't taken into consideration, no one tells you how it will be, they just see that the tumour has shrunk so job well done.  Anyway we have to live as we can, that's life, Denise is struggling with John as since he badly broke his leg he can't walk far, and they're only 60 years old. Dear Sue, good job Mum's can come to the rescue, a handy laundromat, Faye texted a photo of Ella, she's lost another front tooth, she's very proud of it as she's grinning like a Cheshire cat!  Only have to cook for Norman tonight as I've had scampi, chips, pana cotta with champagne ice cream and coffee and biscuits, it was scrumptious, I said to Norman we'll have a ride out and have lunch together as its only one hour away.  He's just got home and his buggy broke down on the golf course after being serviced, he had to sit and wait until someone came along as the golf club never answered his phone call.  He's struggled to push it on his own with one leg and a stick, he's exhausted! See you tomorrow, love Carol x 

Dear Carol,

I had a  wonderful day also with Bree and the kids.  Bree's kids can be very full on (happens especially with Colby being autistic with ADHD),  He was so sweet yesterday. Held my hand when walking to/from the car, I got cuddles during the day, even a kiss goodbye when they left.  I think as Colby's behaviour was so much better, Sebastian and Stevie were much better behaved also, as they weren't trying to compete with Colby.  So it was a really nice day.  We had lunch at the RSL, Went to the market, called in at Deana's shop, where both Bree and I bought a summer top, then came home.  Buying a summer top seemed a bit odd, still only halfway through winter and it has been so cold, yesterday was no exception, it was bitterly cold.  If you don't buy when you first see it though, it's gone by the time you need it.  We timed it really well with Bree's washing, first load went in before we went to lunch, then we popped back home after lunch, that load went in the dryer and 2nd load in the wash.  One load went home dry the 2nd Bree wasn't concerned that it was wet when she left.  They were washed.

Sounds like you had a wonderful day in Cumbria.  Youi and Norman should go back.  So annoying that Norman's buggy broke down especially as it was just serviced.  Medicine has come along way, you only have to look at how long we live now.  But as you said I don't know if it's always worth it, if you don't have quality of life.  Regardless though, you do what you can and make the best of it.
Hopefully John's leg will improve with time so he is able to do more.

It's funny you saying Faye sent you a picture of Ella with another tooth missing, At the market yesterday they had a little tin you could put a lost tooth in for the tooth fairy.  I was going to buy it for Eli (granted, he's got a while to go before he starts losing his).  It didn't have a price on it, but  when the assistant checked it came with a cute little rabbit and the tin and rabbit were a hefty $70.  So as nice as the tin was I couldn't justify spending that for it.

A quiet day today, Nick called in and had a look at my vacuum.  When I last vacuumed it was pushing dust out, rather than picking up.  The nearest service centre is about a 2 hour drive from here and you make an appointment.  So not really practical, but Nick figured out what was wrong and it now works.  Which will be great.  I have been using a carpet broom (for cat hair) and just sweeping any grit onto the tiles to sweep.  The vacuum will be so much easier.

Almost tea time and I'm hungry.  Take care and lots of love.  Sue xx
 

Hi Sue, I disappeared yesterday as my nose was running and I took a antihistamine which didn't agree with me, so my eyes went weird, my head hurt and I just vegitated on the sofa!! I'm fine today it its muggy and unpleasant but it's just rained so it's cooled down, I've just eaten a bar of milk chicolate as although going to Tesco when I opened the milk it was sour, so I popped to our local shop and saw the chicolate on special offer and couldn'trresist. So pleased you had a Wonderful day out, you are obviously loved by all your grand children, it's so nice to be appreciated by little ones.  I buy winter clothes in the summer if they're on special offer. That's the time to buy, I'm actually watching the QVC summer sale but I have been very good, up to now, and refrained from buying anything.  Norman has had a decent couple of days and he Saw Don and Bob yesterday and agreed with me that Bob is waffling on a lot more, bless him he's so worried about Wendy, they're both mid 80s and let's face it most people of that age have health issues.  No plans this weekend, Faye comes for a couple of days in 10 days time, it's Alfies school leaving Do today and she's on decoration duties which apparently have escalated as they do when everyone gets involved, she's there from. 5.20pm.til 10.30pm and then working Sunday so a busy weekend.  Harry had his sports day yesterday but there are so many children they could only do one race each.  So have a good weekend, love Carol x

Dear Carol,
I doesn't sound like the antihistamine agreed with you.  Glad you have no ill effects from it today.  I just sleep if I take an antihistamine, they tend to work better than any sleeping pill.  The kids were really lovely yesterday.  It's great to buy clothes off season, you can get some great bargains that way.  What I bought was new season.  Deana has the new spring season clothes arriving over the next few weeks.  She doesn't buy a lot of any one design so if you really like something it's not a good idea to wait.  I do get a good discount though (usually about a third is taken of the retail price).  Glad to hear Norman has had a couple of good days.  If you have your health still in your 80's you are doing really well, not too many do though.  I bet you are looking forward to Faye's visit.

I went to the theatre this evening, saw a Hitchcock (sort of) play.  It had references to "The Birds", "Vertigo", and "Psycho".  Really good but very hard to describe.  After the performance we all gather in the gallery for supper and the performers come out and join everyone.  So a great evening.

Not much planned for tomorrow, except I will try my steamer (clothes) and see what the problem is I was going to steam a top to wear this evening but when I turned it on, it tripped the fuse box twice.  Hoping it's not an issue with the steamer, I much prefer it to the iron.  Time will tell.  NIck and Deana will probably visit also.  

Have a wonderful albeit quiet weekend, love to all.  Sue xx
 

Hi Carol and Sue and everyone. Had a busy few weeks. Saw my oncologist and bloods were good and he was pleased but I was worried because of almost constant stomach and back ache so he said to put my mind at rest he would arrange an Ultra sound scan. Had to wait over two weeks for result but thank goodness all clear. Probably my IBS which I’ve had for years. Haven’t got to see him now until 24 th September. Really pleased and my energy is slowly coming back. I can do bits of housework and the garden again. My hair is growing like mad but it’s thick curls. Dident have curls before. But I’m grateful just to have thick hair again. My middle daughter Catherine and me went up to Llandudno for a few days. Paid a bit extra and had a luxury room with our own balcony. It was lovely and did us both good. Catherine lost her husband suddenly two years ago from a heart attack so we go to the cinema or shopping or a meal out together and help each other. My other two daughters are good to me too. Don’t know how I’d have coped without them. Family mean everything don’t they. Think I told you about my three great grandsons born 18 months ago . Well there will be another two later this month and in November. We used to be able to sit at the same table together at Christmas but think it will have to be two sittings or a buffet. Its lovely though and we are all very close. Perhaps the two this year will be girls but as long as they are all ok it really doesn’t matter. Sending you lots of love. Gloria xxx