Stay Strong

I have a busy day and come home to my lovely neighbour mowing my back lawn.  I chastise him and say  I would have got round to it, he knew I was struggling and came in whilst I was out.  These kindnesses make my day.  I think hubby is not looking well and voice my concerns.   Nope he says he's fine but a little niggle tells me otherwise.   I get up this morning and he admits he's not good..  appointment at Doctors and he has another infection.  I am being picked up by a friend to go to Wynyard Hall and gardens, the day is glorious and she has the soft top down,we arrive and I look like Bridget Jones after her ride in an open top car!  We have home made cake and coffee and meander the beautiful gardens looking at the pumpkins, sweetcorn and variety of flowers.  I suddenly spot a flower that hubby and I keep seeing  on our drives and it's driving him insane not knowing its name.  A lady hears us talking, takes a photo, Googles it and walks back to tell me, it's  called the common tansy. People are so thoughtful and kind!  Back home hubby laughs at the state of my hair, saying I look like I have been pulled through a hedge backwards,  charming!!  I tell him the plants name, lovely he says and promptly falls asleep on his sheepskin in the sunny conservatory.   Hopefully the antibiotics will kick in soon, I want my normal hubby back.

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  • Hi Caz Please don't take this the wrong way but why are you starting a new post everyday. Why not update us on the same thread. Good friends and neighbors are such a strength during this journey.
  • Probably because I don't know how!  Give me a clue what to do. Caz

  • Dear all, Neil passed away peacefully with his family at his side.  I have sent my private wishes to Sue.  

  • So very sorry for Sues loss. RIP Neil x
  • Hi Carol. Been for result of latest biopsy and pet scan this morning. No cancer in latest breast lump. Just a cyst. Pet scan absolutely cancer free. I’m in full remission. After 12 months of radiotherapy, biopsies and chemo which knocked me for six and I’ve lost all my hair I can’t take it in let alone believe it. My Haematology lovely Dr said he was shocked too as he really thought with this latest lump appearing just at the end of chemo treatment that cancer was back and chemo not working for me. If it had because it’s a rare one I’ve got treatments are limited. Probably clinical trials. My daughter was with me and we both broke down and he got out the tissue box bless him. I can’t stop having tears. I’m so very humble and grateful. Thank goodness for our wonderful nhs and my caring wonderful doc. I know like any cancer this may not be for ever but my bloods were very good he said and I am feeling stronger every day. Even got tufts of hair. Awful grey but it’s hair. Wanted to share my news with you. I feel I know you and enjoy your posts each day. Hope you and hubby and family ok. Miracles do happen I feel. Lots of love Gloria xxx

  • So sorry.  Love and thoughts to Sue and her family. 

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  • Firstly, thank you all for the messages regarding Sue's husband, I will message her privately and pass them on.  Secondly,  Gloden what fabulous uplifting news, there is a God and he has seen in his heart your struggle.  Long may it last, sod the grey tufty hair, plenty of wigs and later hair dye!  Julie I hope hubby is doing a little better and you are coping.   My legs still ache from Saturday so my zumba class is not as exuberant as usual, plus the lawn needs mowing, I wish it would stop growing.  I just swept up and the window cleaner lands,  so I have a quick shower and knock the ornament off the shelf and smash the toilet seat.  I am honestly getting to the stage where  when these things happen I don't even get cross anymore , what's a broken toilet seat compared to cancer, nothing.   I've just given hubby some big smackeroos and he looks bemused but after Sue's news,  it brought home to me how short life can be with cancer.  He doesn't know about this forum or who I write to so how can I say I want you to know I love you because a good friends husband has died.   It's a gorgeous day, sunny and blue skies but the wind is fierce,  I've just had to pick another dead bird up, it must have flown into the window, it makes me shudder and gives me the creeps.   These are the sort of thing men are made for but mine can't stand up in the wind so I'd probably end up having to pick him up as well, except he wouldn't end up in the bushes!  I'm being lazy again for his tea, braised steak amd mash from the lovely M & S shop, I've had a gippy tummy since Lumley Castle,  definitely the food, certainly not the drink!  So a little bit of pasta for me.  Funny story, I came home today and hubby yells down the stairs, I can't get my leg off, WHAT do you mean, the buttons not releasing it he says, guess where we're off to again tomorrow! Fortunately he's fiddled with it and is now wearing the other one.  Crikey it's one thing after another.   Take care all of you. Xx

  • Hi everyone,  Thank you all for your messages and kind thoughts.  Cancer has made me realise we should all enjoy the moment, don't wait.  Neil and I weren't young, I didn't consider us old either, and we still had plans, things we wanted to do, cancer can change that, I know a lot with cancer don't have the journey we had, and go on to live a long happy, healthy life, but regardless, do all you want now, don't wait, live your hopes and dreams.  This is probably the drink talking, 1/2 a bottle of wine and not much food, I tend to ramble.

    Gloria, That is wonderful news,  keep getting stronger and kick cancers butt.  Miracles do happen.

    Julie, I hope your hubby is doing well and improving each day.  Have you been able to organise having a link for the wedding as yet.  

    Sarah,Lynne and Annie,  It means a lot to all of us.  I have shown our youngest this forum and she was as touched as I am .

    Carol, Neil didn't know I posted here either, but I have shown Deana tonight.  The toilet seat is nothing when you consider what we are all going through.  Deana cooked a big pot of chicken pesto pasta for us tonight and insisted I eat.  She is wonderful despite being so bossy at present.
    I'm going to close as I don't even know how I'm still awake but will post 2 pictures.  One is Neil on probably his last fairly good day.  The other is 3 1/2 years ago with Neil, myself and our youngest on her wedding day.  Happier times.
    Goodnight all and take care.  Thankyou again.  Love Sue xx
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  • Beautiful photos of a wonderful lady and her much loved husband .  At last I know what you look like.   All my love, Carol xx 

  • Thanks Rile roo,  had to be one with wine in it!!  How you doing?   

  • Doing OK at the mo. Still haven’t sold the house which is frustrating. 

    Got my bonkers head out of the box today and will be doing Brave the shave, well a toned down version of it later this month!

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