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hi my name is amy, don't really know what to Say , I was diagnosed in February 1-2 year ( secondary cervical) , I'm 34 and struggling to ask close family for support when I have a bad day . 

Don't know how this works on here but thought I'd write something, my brave face is failing me now. 

Any advice would be greatly received 

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    Amy, it must be so hard, especially at your young age.  Do you have family close?  My own daughter is a about your age and I would be devastated if she didnt tell me when she was feeling bad.or just needed a shoulder to cry on.  If you cant talk to family or friends try support groups, or ask your local Macmillan nurses if there are any groups or counsellors local to you.  I know from experience how very helpful they are.

    Of course, you can always come and talk to us.  We are always here. x

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    Hi Amy

    I have said this to others before - Talk to your friends and family and those who ask what they can do tell them, even if you are not sure then say that " I am not sure what help I need right now but I may need a shoulder to cry on".  Those who can help will others will shy away because they dont know how to handle it.  My husband said what can I do so I told him when I am down or angry just give me a hug, so now when I start to feel bad he dose just that.  Friends would phone just for a chat and they got to know how I was during my treatment cycle and would understand if I could not talk to them. 

    The more people I told the easier it became to talk about it and amazing how many had relatives, other friends, work collegues who had cancer.  I am a great beleiver in not holding things in because they become worse

    Only those who have heard the words "its cancer" really understand so come on and chat on here when you need to but take every piece of help that is offerer by your family & friends.

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