Tongue Cancer - Diagnosed two days ago

Hi, I am a 32 year old single mum to my two year old daughter and I found out two days ago that I have tongue cancer.  I'm waiting for an appointment for an MRI scan and a CT scan which should hopefully be within the next few days and this can find out if the cancer has spread.  I then have to have an appointment to discuss a treatment plan but I have already been told that this will involve cutting out the lump in my tongue and a neck dissection to remove Lymph nodes.

It's all such a lot to take in and I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that in a few weeks time my life will never be the same again.  I have read some horrific stories about what I have to come and I am willing to face any of it so long as I stay alive for the sake of my daughter.  I have only told my parents and one friend so far, no piont telling everyone until I have more facts after the scans but I'm concerned at how far the cancer could have spread.  I have had this painful lump on my tongue for six months but the doctors kept giving me prescripotions for other things which has delayed diagnisis.  I have also had pain in my throat and more recently I've noticed ear ache and jaw ache and neck pain.  I'm trying to stay positive until I know more information from the scans but I know I will crumble if it has spread beyond repair.

From reading stories from others on here and other websites, I'm a little confused that I haven't yet been told what stage the cancer is at.  Isn't that something that could be identified from my biopsy?  How could the doctor be so sure that I will need a neck dissection before knowing what stage it's at?

None of this has come of much of a surprise.  I googled my symptoms of a persistent ulcer back in April, before I first went to the doctor and was alarmed to see the word "cancer" everywhere I looked.  I had all the symptoms but was just hoping I was wrong.  The first two doctors I saw about this reassured me that it was nothing more sinister than an ulcer, which put my mind at rest a little, how wrong were they?!  I am just glad that I stayed persistent and kept going back to the doctor about it.  I don't think they treated it as an urgency as I don't fit in with the usual risk factors, I've never smoked, I hardly drink and I'm not in the right age bracket.  I'm now feeling annoyed at the waiting game.  I want to know when the scan will be.

It helps to come on here and read other threads but I still don't think it has fully sunk in yet but when it does, positivity for the sake of my little girl will just have to get me through.  I would love to keep hearing stories from others or any advice would be greatly received.

Nicola xx

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  • hello nicola, first of all the most important thing is staying positive,yes there are horror stories out there but the number of people ive meet over the past 6 years with the same condition have come through it to lead a near normal life ,obviously i understand your concerns especially as you have a young daughter ,which is why i suggest not to hide your symtoms,the more people that now will be able to help you when you need it, true its going to be a rough ride the next couple of years but you can pull through this, if theres any info on what the proceedure is for the op or the possible follow up treatments after please let me know , i was stage 4 tongue and lymph in neck ,im 6 years post op and although at times its been difficult im here and doing my upmost to lead a normal life again ,you can too,please let us all know how things go all the very best x

  • Dear All

    Finding it hard to have to be posting here at all but my husband is waiting for treatment for tongue cancer, surgery at least (including some lymph node removal) and then maybe radiotherapy if he needs it. I'm focusing very much on practicalities at the moment... he's a teacher so speech is important to him, how long in your experience before he might be able to get back in the classroom? Should he be thinking after Christmas or longer (assuming things go well). What impact would radiotherapy have on his speech recovery?

    Thanks :)

  • Hi 

    i am 10 month post radiotherapy for tonsil cancer understand where you are coming from but I had 2 chemo and 35 radiotherapy sessions never had a problem speaking but the general,tiredness etc may and probably will get to him just an idea whet  younhave  posted this is an old thread you might be better either starting your own or looking at say Radiotherapy For Throat Cancee in section living with cancer has that’s a current thread. 

    I have a blog www.radioactiveraz.wordpress.com where’s I do a blow by blow account if my treatment. Just remember we are all different ,one if the worse things he maybface is lack of saliva which I still have and although speaking isn’t a problem I find talking for more than 10 min so or in a group of people dries me out and makes me tired. But we all are act differently some return straight to work a few work all way through it all depends on what treatment and how his eating is effected

    hope this helps to hard to be precise   plan   For the long haul and hope for the short route. But I know people who have also returned too early and are  now taking longer to recover it really is a guessing game. 

    Hazel 

  • Hi Scrapcat

    Hazel has given you very sound advice "He may face lack of saliva which I still have and although speaking isn’t a problem I find talking for more than 10 min so or in a group of people dries me out and makes me tired. But we all are act differently some return straight to work a few work all way through it all depends on what treatment and how his eating is effected".

    I finished my treatment end January 2014 so have now had the 5 year discharge.  I think it very much depends on the site of the original tumour and what surgery was involved.  Mine started in my tonsil but wasn't evident/diagnosed until I found a lump on my neck (a secondary).  Having said that, all is well with me.  I had surgery to remove the lump and a tonsil, but have had no speech problems at all.  Like Hazel, I have ongoing difficult with lack of saliva/dry mouth (possibly a permanent side affect for all who undergo oral radiotherapy) so I have to wash my food down with lots of liquid to the extent I eat smaller portions than I used to because I get over-full with the extra drinking required. 

    However I've learnt to cope with that and am eternally thankful that the treatment I had (albeit gruelling at the time with daily RT and weekly CT) saved my life.

    Wishing your husband the very best going forward.  It's a tough time but you have come to the very best place for support.  Check back this thread.  I have made lifelong friends through this experience, we gave each other great support.  We hail from all corners of the UK and met up in London 2015, Liverpool 2017 and Edinburgh 2019.

    Irene J

  • hi scrapchat 

    I recovered fairly quickly from my operation it was a T2 on the side of the front of my tongue, I’d say within 4-6 weeks of surgery I was talking again as normal. I had ana amazing consultant who worked to minimise the things that would impact on my speech.

    the bad news is that I’m on week 4 of 6 radiotherapy 16/30 treatments and from about week 2 the swelling and blistering in my mouth and on my younger have meant I’m unable to talk very well at all, my partner just about understands me but I’ve downloaded an app that I can type in and it will speak for me, a lot of it is the pain that’s stopping me talking properly.

    my oncologist is confident writhin 6 weeks of finishing I should be talking properly again. Had my operation first week of may and optimistically hoping to be back to work first week of September. It’s very different to each person I think as the consultants all seem quite reluctant to give timelines or guarantees on speech and taste etc coming back to full health

    Thanks

    Joe

  • More than 1/2 my husbands tongue was removed and rebuilt. He had a very hard time with radiation with pain and burning. He did not want a feed tube so I blended everything and supplemented with Scandi shakes which are @600 calories. He did not finish radiation. He did ended up hospitalized oding on pain meds he was on liquid oxy, fentayal patches, gabapentin. I had him come off everything and slowly he healed and went to speech therapy and was back teaching in a classroom 7 months after durgery

  • Hi Irene J

    justca quick question is Vatch aka Garybone if your gang z? Haven’t seen him post on a few months just wondering if he is ok ? And did he get the 5 years all clear 

    thank hazel x

     

  • Hi Hazel - we have two Gary's in our 'gang' Gary J (AKA Guzzle) and Gary V (AKA Vatch).  I've forgotten the order of our treatments/diagnoses but we are all 5 years all clear round about now or sometime very soon.  Met Vatch and his lovely wife Claire in Edinburgh a couple of months ago and he regularly posts on Facebook so I'm delighted to report that he is fit and well and just celebrated his daughter's graduation from Portsmouth Uni with First Class Honours in Biomedical Science - what a clever girl!

     

  • Hi

    Great news all way round   It’s Gary aka Vatch whose blog I found just over a. year ago who helped me in my early days  of  diagnosis n treatment . If u contact him let him know Hazel aka Radioactive Raz is now one year since treatment started and am doingbok I still update my blog . 

    Plus like you we’ve s small tight bunch of us who have already met up and send private messsges almost daily. 

    pass my congratulations on as well re their clever daughter

    Hazel c

     

     

  • Hi Joe

    How is it going? You must have nearly finished your radiotherapy? I’m about to start mine a week on Monday. I had my surgery on 11th June, they removed the tumour and I also had a free flap reconstruction and selective neck dissection. Final staging was T3N0. I’m going to be having radiation to the left side of my tongue.

    I’ve lived in Hong Kong for about 10 years and had the surgery there but I decided to get the radiotherapy at the xxx in the UK, mainly as I was so comfortable with the oncologist there who’s a specialist head and neck guy. He’s told me that loss of taste is temporary and should return 3 to 4 months after treatment ends. He said there might be some foods that don’t taste the same anymore but that taste buds are constantly regenerating so there shouldn’t be permanent loss of taste. Let’s hope he’s right!

    Like you I’ve never smoked, don’t drink much and I’m only 39, so not a typical tongue cancer patient. My biopsy was p16 positive, and although HPV has no impact on oral tongue cancer (unlike base of tongue, throat etc), my consultant said he thinks that’s highly likely to be the cause. 

    Nicola and the rest of you who posted on here 5 years ago, I’ve read the whole thread and am pleased to see you’re all doing so well. It gives me hope!

    Selina  

  • Hi Selina,

    Glad to hear the surgery went well! A T3 mustn’t have been ideal but good to see it was N0 so the nodes were clear.

    I’ve got 7 sessions left of 30. 

    I was warned about the pain that the radiotherapy was going to cause but for the first couple of weeks it was fine I was managing the pain with 30/500mg Co-Codamol by the middle of week 3 though I took a big dip and started the Morphine which was upped straight away and then on to Fentanyl patches it took a week or so to get the the point where I was able to manage the pain properly. My taste went around 2.5 weeks too, now everything tastes awful, apart from spinach and ricotta pasta with tomato and marscapone sauce which I have found to be ok it tastes a little odd but it’s manageable. Water tastes salty and my mouth is always tacky. Hay fever hasn’t helped.

    Tge worst thing is the mask for radiotherapy, you have to really take a moment to make sure you’re happy with it before they start the treatment otherwise it can be very uncomfortable. I’m in a Tomotherapy machine - it looks like a cross between a CT scanner and an MRI I’m strapped to the bed with the mask put in the machine to scan me to make sure I’m in the right place then I’m brought out the machine whilst they check the scan against the cost CT then back in for treatment all in all it’s about 15/20mins a day.

    my best advice is to make sure that you stay on top of the pain relief as that’s what really makes a difference between a good and bad day for me. Also whilst you still can, eat eat high calorie and fatty foods you’ll need to stores for when you can eat properly I’m on mostly nutrition shakes at the moment and dropped 4kg last week. 

    If you have any questions just give me a shout happy to answer any you may have! It’s going to be really hard so I wish you all the best and strength to see you through it

    Joe

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  • Hi Selina,

    Glad to hear the surgery went well! A T3 mustn’t have been ideal but good to see it was N0 so the nodes were clear.

    I’ve got 7 sessions left of 30. 

    I was warned about the pain that the radiotherapy was going to cause but for the first couple of weeks it was fine I was managing the pain with 30/500mg Co-Codamol by the middle of week 3 though I took a big dip and started the Morphine which was upped straight away and then on to Fentanyl patches it took a week or so to get the the point where I was able to manage the pain properly. My taste went around 2.5 weeks too, now everything tastes awful, apart from spinach and ricotta pasta with tomato and marscapone sauce which I have found to be ok it tastes a little odd but it’s manageable. Water tastes salty and my mouth is always tacky. Hay fever hasn’t helped.

    Tge worst thing is the mask for radiotherapy, you have to really take a moment to make sure you’re happy with it before they start the treatment otherwise it can be very uncomfortable. I’m in a Tomotherapy machine - it looks like a cross between a CT scanner and an MRI I’m strapped to the bed with the mask put in the machine to scan me to make sure I’m in the right place then I’m brought out the machine whilst they check the scan against the cost CT then back in for treatment all in all it’s about 15/20mins a day.

    my best advice is to make sure that you stay on top of the pain relief as that’s what really makes a difference between a good and bad day for me. Also whilst you still can, eat eat high calorie and fatty foods you’ll need to stores for when you can eat properly I’m on mostly nutrition shakes at the moment and dropped 4kg last week. 

    If you have any questions just give me a shout happy to answer any you may have! It’s going to be really hard so I wish you all the best and strength to see you through it

    Joe

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  • Hi Joe

    How are you doing post treatment? Did the side effects continue to get worse, or plateau? Do you mind if I ask where you were irradiated?

    I’m now 3 treatments in. Am amazed how quick it is- maybe 30 seconds of treatment, two arcs. I’m having VMAT. Having the mask made was horrendous for me, I got really claustrophobic, panicked and freaked out. Had to try 3 times! Finally they decided that as I was only being treated on my tongue I didn’t need the full head and neck mask, so they gave me one usually used for brain tumours. The eyes, nose and mouth were already cut out and it doesn’t cover the neck or shoulders. That was so much better, I think it was the face being covered that made me panic!

  • hi SW80

    post treatment the first 2 days were the worst, the heat of the days didn’t help as they were the hottest days on record. From about day 3 it all changed. Then on day 4 I started to manage some normal food again rather than the foul fortisip drinks! Since then every day I’ve felt a lot better. I’m now 2.5 weeks since it ended and I’ve plateaued a little but I have some taste back it’s not very whole at the moment but it will take time. For example I can’t taste anything sweet at all. But tomato pasta and pizza or anything with lots of garlic I can taste enough to enjoy it.

    still have some pain which I’m working on, but I’m on fentanyl patches at the end of treatment I was using 50 micro grams plus some morphine, I’m now down to 37 micro grams and maybe a dose of morphine before bed as that’s when it can get a little stingy on the tongue. 

    As I’ve been on quite high doses of morphine and fentanyl I have found I’m getting come downs and withdrawals but I’m not too concerned as I’m gradually reducing the doses.

    I had treatment at hospital. It was a great facility. 

    Im really glad they’ve helped with the mask it was awful and I really hated it. As you get towards the end of its anything like me up to week 3 I was fine and I’m the first few days of week 4 it was me a switch and bang I was really ill in loads of pain and feeling generally awful, I lost 6kg a week in week 4-5-6 I could certainly afford to lose a bit but a lot towards the end came from muscle so I’ve got a bit of work to do to get back to being fit again.

    i hope the next few weeks go by fast for you and before you know it you’ll be out the other side. Stick with it there will be days where you want to just day no more but push through there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

    all the best

    Joe

  • Hi Joe, wow you’re doing so well for this stage, that’s given me lots of hope! Thanks for coming back to update us.

    I’ve just finished week 3, so halfway through. The first 2 weeks were fine, no side effects at all and I gained 2kgs since the start of treatment. Then on day 10 the lining of my mouth started to break down and ulcers appeared. It’s got progressively worse over the course of this week. The worst one being an ulcer on the right side of my tongue that rubs my teeth. That’s the side of my mouth not being treated, so unfortunately means I’ve had to move on to mainly purreed food now. The pain has got worse too - I have a burning sensation most of the time. Swallowing is ok, I have some Mucositis right at the back of my mouth that hurts when I swallow as it makes contact with the base of my tongue, but my throat is so far unaffected. Taste is weaker but not gone fully at this point - I can taste on the right side of my tongue, right inner cheek, roof of mouth. 

    I’m currently still on paracetamol, aspirin mouthwash and topical anaethestics, expect I’ll move on to stronger painkillers next week.

    Keep us updated with your progress, it will give me something to aim for! 

     

  • Today I finished my final RT session 30/30, so I came to post an update.

    I started taking morphine in week 4, and now at the end of week 6 I’m on 24 mg/hour via fentanyl patches and top up with 4-6 5ml Oramorph per day. I’m told this is a fairly low dose of morphine. In addition I take paracetamol and use an aspirin rinse multiple times per day.

    I’m in a fair amount of pain. My pain is an intense burning / stinging feeling that is worse when eating and after eating. Until the last few days the ulceration was almost all on the left side of my mouth (side being treated), but completely covering that side, including inside of my cheek, lips, soft palate and back of my mouth. The last few days I also now have ulcers on the right side of my tongue. 

    For the past 3 weeks my diet has consisted of Fortisip / Ensure, Scandishake, Calogen and chocolate mousse. They’re very pleased with me for managing the mousse, as apparently this counts as real food and will help to protect my swallowing function. I haven’t lost any weight since the start of RT. “Eating” burns like hell, but I rinse my mouth with aspirin beforehand and that enables me to get 2,500+ calories down me per day.

    The outside if my face and under my chin is red, but not open. I have the feeling of mucus at the back of my throat but it’s not too bad. No mouth dryness so far, in fact I currently have excess drool! Except for nighttime when my mouth feels a bit dry. I’ve still got some taste remaining, in the part of my mouth that’s not ulcerated. 

    Now I’m hoping I’ll be one of the lucky ones for whom things don’t get worse over the next two weeks! I’ll give another update on progress. 

  • Joe, how is your recovery going now? 

  • Hi, so I’m a little over a month past treatment my taste buds are back if not a little odd and confused about different flavours at the moment . But I’m feeling great in myself it didn’t take long once I started eating properly again.

    i lost a total of 20kg which a lot was muscle mass as I used to be a big swimmer. I’ve just signed up to run an ultra marathon in June (100km in 20hrs) as a target to really focus on getting better

     

    hows your treatment going? Must be nearly at the end now

  • Hi Joe, wow your recovery has been super fast! Do you have any pain remaining? Are you eating fairly normally? What was your surgery, did you have a reconstruction?

    yes I’ve just finished, I posted my update a few posts above.

    an ultra marathon, impressive! Which one are you doing?

  • Hi my name is Tracey I had surgeryv2 weeks ago today cancer of the tongue , I’ve had partial tongue removal and  left neck dissection but m my scary in neck is basically ear to ear now await g results tonsee uf soread to tisdues and nodes , mynpsun after 5 days was not to bad but but over the weekend I’m in agony spasms in face ear and neck , my tongue still feels thick so I’m only managing soft foods still , just need to know if all this is normal , my shoulder is giving me so much discomfort ,I’m strughking to lift and even get comfettabke , feel like I’ve gone backwards instead of forwards , on 10 mg of oxycodone quick release 4 times a day and they have started me on slow release every 12 hours 10 mg as a top up , can you give me any advice if this is all normal , im

    trslky struggking today andcquite emotional x

  • H Tracey 

    Welcome and so glad you have found this forum   as you will really find some wonderful support here. Your surgery sounds like you’ve had very similar to mine (5 years ago). I would say that at the moment everything that your feeling sounds pretty normal. I don’t know if your going to have radiotherapy/ chemo after your neck op?  Hopefully not, but don’t be too alarmed if you do as many of us have. It normally depends on your lab results on your lymph nodes. I had cells in some of mine but they were well contained so my treatment was labelled as a belt and braces job in case there were any undetected.

    Your tongue will be sore for a while yet but it will recover fairly quickly, like you at the stage you are now ,I just had to eat soft food and took plenty of painkillers and mouth wash. Eating will be more of a problem if you have to have treatment?? 

    Your shoulder problem is normal and will be painful and stiff so you do need to do your exercises.  Stand facing a wall and walk your left hand up the wall as far as possible to strengthen the shoulder muscles on that side otherwise it will be very stiff  and difficult to raise your arm long term. I did it every day and now my arm raise is only slightly less than the other. 

    The surgery is all over now so keep looking forward and think of that Christmas dinner! 

    Well done brave lady, always here with any questions 

    kindest regards

    Carol

     

     

  • Hi Tracey. I had same op on right side. Its not that long since your op so you will be pretty tender.

    I was told to expect nerve pain as they cut through them getting to nodes,and yes you get quite a belter of pain at times. It takes time but it does improve.I am numb on right side of face and neck I think it is now going to be more or less permanent. Having the area touched at checkups was and is torture.

    I began stretches and facial excercises as soon as I could,they do help.Also when the scar was well healed I massage with bio oil gel that has helped alot too. My shoulder gives me trouble too again I do shoulder lifts and it does help. Theres some physio videos online that are really good too.

    Hang in there it does get better.xx

    PS> my facial pain was trigeminal nerve pain,no painkillers touch it.