my husband just wont touch me since iv'e had my line put in ...he is a boob man, but sorry my line is not in my boob or privates ....so what is he problem... feeling s**t about not being a woman xxxx
Maybe it's brought home to him the reality of your illness, and his lack of libido is his mind's way of trying to cope with the stress. I expect it's a frightening time for him, and I know when I'm frightened, all thoughts of sex go right out of the window.
I suggest you both need to share your feelings with each other. Maybe some counselling would help.
Hope things improve for you soon, but sex is not the be all and end all, affection, some kissing and cuddling are all important too, but as Bob said its probably stress that's coming between you, but tell him straight that you need his affection to help you get through this, and that you won't break if he touches you.
It's what I did with my fellow, and he's turned into the best cuddler and smoocher a women could wish for! Cougar69
We are a very touchy couple and always have been (not in public ha ha) i think this is why it hurt sooooooo much that things had changed, plus the scar is horrid and the line is a major turn off........ but i said "i would not break if he touched me (like you suggested) and we are getting there with love and a laugh or two on the way
my partner stresses about things, he doesnt talk to me about stuff, the only time i find out something is worrying him is when he cant get a... you know... a woody. He could be upset an worried about you. men are a bit emotionally challenged. bless em!
Goodness Sharon, I'm exactly the same. I know that they've seen us go through the trauma off this awful disease but just trying to get back to some fragment of normality would help. In fact, the loss of libido on his part has driven me more into depression as it's a constant reminder that I'm now very different after the surgery. So sad but I can't see the light..... hope things are better for you xxx
