hi im 36 mother of 3 n diagnosed dec 23. ive had 2 ops n 5 of 6 chemo n finding it very hard at mo. feel so peed off n cant get rid of that feeling. would love to chat. x
nice to meet you. have you spoken to the nurses? maybe you should just have a chat with them n see what they think. dont forget that they are there to support n if you need emotional support or any other, thats their job.
firstly, we get so upset with our other halves because we are so close to them, and in a way we share each others pain. we blow up a bit here too and i am learning to accept this is yet another side effect. Please remember that normal arguments would ensue without a thought - but now they are all connected to the feelings and side effects that occur as a result of diagnosis and treatment. we go through so many emotions. Im glad you came here to rant, it's what we are here for - and yes i noticed too that in the net breath you were helping others.
Give yourself a bit of a break and a pat on the back too, because caring and feeling is what makes us human, and there are too many people in this world who don't have those human qualities. yes it hurts, but it must be more painful to not have love and compassion. sending you a huge hug.
well, that's the chemo done, and now i have the radio to look forward to. I am so scared - I know i should give up smoking and i shall relaly try, and will keep you updated. |it is so hard when you have so much stress. I am worried as well about the shrinkage of the tissue and having lop sided boobs, and then remind myself of how so many of you have already coped with far more to worry about. I am concerned about tattoos as they are the on thing i would never ever ever have, and then not being able to go topless on holiday this year. i wanted so much just to have the wedding and then a 'normal' holiday. Oh this thing is such tosh.
The hair is still very slowly creeping through, the tooth is still missing and the feel better course is still fully booked and it looks like June before i can have a makeover. Such is life!
most of the time i am doing well and pretty positive, but it makes such a difference being able to moan here about things that given the circumstances would be seen as trivial to anyone else. Just being able to say i am p****ed off or feel ugly lightens the load.
My dear Lonie, I do know how you feel, even though Im feeling much better these days I remember only too well the pain and the sickness always trying to put a smile on my face, crack a joke and remain positive for everyone else, and then when it just got that little bit too much for me and I couldnt manage that smile or that little joke my husband would ask me what was wrong!!! I would bark at him IVE GOT CANCER THATS WHATS WRONG and he would snap at me saying it wasnt his fault and why was I being moody with him....AAAARRRRGGGHHH I just wanted to say ..because I need to be moody with someone at some point or I will go crazy but because he was cross with me I would just curl up into a ball and sob like there was no tomorrow,,, most unlike me!
Until this moment I had never and I mean NEVER let a man reduce me to such a pitiful and emotional wreck, yet It wasnt really him doing it to me, it was my condition and it only hurt so much because I love him so much as indeed you love your husband, he is your rock and sometimes rocks become slippery and we fall and hurt ourselves but we get back up and when we look around the rock is still there and always will be.
You will get past this and one day you will not be able to remember how bad you felt even though you may try.
You will be strong again and laugh again and your good days will be many.
I send you my love and a great big strength hug.
Lee xxxxxxxx
A huge welcome to the new girls! Im sorry your here but you wont meet a greater bunch of women.
I wanted to say thank you for starting this post.It is partly good because in hospital people always seem to be carrying things off more graciously than i can manage,finding that other people have dark days puts things in perspective.I am sure he does not really think you are lazy,it must make him sad seeing you in pain and men do seem to have a tendency to cover their feelings with a good huff /mardy.That is such a good word.I hope things are going better for you.
I have been catching up on the chat and have laughed about Miranda in Tony's shed and had visions of a blow up dolly until I realised he was referring to his bike! and laughed even more at Colly's f***y magnet and the images that it has conjured up in some of your minds, lol. That story has been told down the local pub!
To Lonie I say here here to what all the others have said, I hope that you will soon be feeling stronger and pain free, it makes me realise how lucky I have been with the side effects. My Hubby used to go down the pub and the guys there have really helped him through and I thank them all as it really helps to talk to someone and do something normal.
Good news to share - I became a Grannie yesterday for the first time, our son and wife produced a boy, we are so happy. Amongst all this s**t we have a bundle of joy to bring us happiness. I held him yesterday and thought what a miracle life is and long may it continue.
this page is great isnt it. you can laugh as well as cry! thanks for what you said, means a lot. wish he would go out but he doesnt like to do things without me. only golf n thats not cheap. anyway, congratulations! to you n all your family. just what was needed for you all n to remember how precious life is. its not always bad news. again im so pleased for you n your family.
CONGRATULATIONS !!!!!What lovely news.Have they decided on a name? My grandson was born 6 weeks after my diagnosis and i was so glad that I was still here to see him.I have since seen his sister and our sons daughter .They bring us so much joy.You cuddle him all you can.
Thankyou Rose, he is called Joseph James, so I think it will probably be shortened to JJ. They are home now so I am going to visit for cuddles later.
In 9 months I have had cancer and a Grandson, seems really strange, but I am so pleased to be feeling so much better and able to help them out instead of the other way around.
