hi im 36 mother of 3 n diagnosed dec 23. ive had 2 ops n 5 of 6 chemo n finding it very hard at mo. feel so peed off n cant get rid of that feeling. would love to chat. x
Welcome back Lou and yes you have been missed !!!:love: Yes,unfortunately lots of new recruits so we need you to answer these ladies.
When I finished my chemo I did not want to go,it was my security blanket too.I actually missed going there,unfortunately it wasnt long before I had to return but it has been a part of your life for so long.Glad to hear the children are doing well,some sort of normality at last !!Lets have a pic of you on here.
Just off to babysit for my grandaughter (4 weeks old) so take care.Lovely to hear from you again.
Rose, have great fun with that lovely new baby, I am sure you will, and thank you for your support. Tony, you hit the nail on the head with your words. Lou, nice to meet you! With the thing about relationships, it is true it completely changes things. My other half is not the hold hands type, but I have always been affectionate. Recently although he gives me the pep talk and pushes me to the limit with telling me how I have to see things in perspective he has been far more affectinate, patient and loving. I don't think anyone can say that this awful disease doesn't change them and the range of emotions vary from person to person, day to day - even hour to hour sometimes. However, everything you feel is normal, even if it sometimes doesnt seem feel like it. I am a very private person and find when I do talk about things, i ramble on and on and forget there are other things in my life too, but you do find out who your 'friends' are and which ones are stronger than others. Everything has a different light. I am sure the worry sometimes of 'looking normal, attractive and so on also crops into your minds, but as my partner said to me, " If I was blind, I would still love you as much and want you as much." He also said that when you read the romance novels the traditional rugged scar on the male makes him appealing, and real women have those rugged scars too whether pysical or emotional. I used to love to show off my stretch marks because I didin't have the same flat unmarked belly that everyone else had, mine had its own individual pattern that said i have my kids and i am proud. I felt different about the scar. sometimes it seems like everything is closing in, and just being able to share my frustration and anger at my daughters silly actions made me feel heaps better. Sharing makes it so much easier.
Hi Lou I was just thinking last week how we hadn't heard from you. Glad things seem to Be on the up for you and the kids are doing well. I've one more chemotherapy in 2 weeks then radio and hopefully that's me, the time has flown by which is good. This lastvlot of chemotherapy has been the hardest for me, taxotere, it's awful makes your bones sore all over, have to take to bed for at least 5 days with strong pain killers, anyway nearly finished. Tony hi to you too. Speak soon guys and gals x
You are just ahead of me - I've just had No.4 of TAC Chemo and it seems to have got worse each time - know what you mean about bones - this is the eighth day following the chemo and the first one without pain - I actually feel I might not die this week now - only joking but for the first 5-6 days I thought I might!
Still only 2 left - 1 at beginning of Oct and one at the end so I keep reminding myself that this will all be over (excepting radiotherapy) by 'the end of next month' Doesn't sound so bad saying it like that.
Hi Tony and Hi Caz - hope you continue to recover well from your op.
Andy is still waiting to hear about his next surgery but I'm now hoping it won't be until November so that I will be able to look after him. He has been so lovely to me when Ive been feeling ill and not at all patient with him. So far we have been able to take it in turns looking after each other so fingers crossed it will all work out.
Sorry for my very bad 'joke' when I read about all the suffereing people have to go through on this site I'm afraid the only way I cope is by joking about things that scare me to death. I do apologise for any offence I may have caused - I really didn't mean to
None taken ;) Good to hear from you again but sorry you are suffering.I use humour as well ,we all have our coping stratagies.Glad Andy is continuing to recover,by Christmas you 2 will be looking back on all this and thinking thank heavens this is over.
sara great to here your all clear news sorry about your daughter girls are very hard work but i think you can handle it i am afraid sometimes you need to be a bit selfish and focus on youself i know its easier said than done for us mums but we are all here to listen to any dramas even if we cant do anything we are so happy to listen thoughts are so with you xxxx
as for the relationship thing i think we all are bit wobbly re that it must be so hard for our partners on so many levels.wise words from tony as usual i may have only joined a few weeks ago but love to hear all those wise words and humour from everyone it is such a tonic!!
i had my first chemo monday ok but bit sick and knackered did do bit too much yesterday (despite tonys advice said dont do too much on a good day!! lesson learnt!!)
has anyone heard how dizzy first chemo went thursday ?
hope caz doin ok xx
love to all
gonna look at wigs 2morrow might go for somthing bit different treat for my hubby after 21 years xxxx
cant tell you how worried ive been about you lou, im so glad you are ok n finished the awful stuff. was not a nice feeling wondering all about you for so long but what a great feeling to hear from you again. please dont do that to us again. theres always someone that can get a quick message to us. cor im so glad you are back hun.
tony you made me cry aswell! what a lovely comment. im so glad your life is becoming more normal for you n your family. its also comforting to know you feel like us, you are like a god on here. you have such words of wisdom n time for anybody, its good to know you are human, if you know what i mean.
anne, i still have many side affects from treatment. im not sure what is what. doc did tell me that herceptin can stop you from healing properly. i still have sores up my nose that wont heal n herceptin doesnt help. i put them down to immune system but who knows what does what. you'll be fine the further away you get from chemo.
hope you ladies on chemo are doing ok, feel for you so much. sara im so pleased for you, congratulations hun! unfortunately life still goes on, however mental it gets. think you could have a few years left of this if i was anything to go by! chin up ey.
you know i said about the car accident we had when i was pregnant? well i forgot to say the day i got the money through, was the day i found out i had cancer. it was always planned for family holiday, but took 22 months to get it. we now have the accomadation, flights n passports sorted as of tuesday. what happened wed,.....chicken pox at play group! so we have to keep charly off till next week just incase! would be a nightmare if charly gets ill.
rose im glad you are ok n the family are coping n enjoying that new little bundle. things will never be how they were before cancer, but we have a new ,enlightened life now. each day is an achievement in its self. got to be happy, just wish it didnt hurt so much.
