Invasive ductal carcinoma - friends and family seem to be distancing themselves from me. It's breaking my heart.

Hi my name is Tina

I was diagnosed with invasive ductal carcinoma on 31st March

I had my surgery on April 22nd 2026 I had to have sentinel node removed as well so 2 scars, I'm finding that most people including some family have distanced themselves I'm heartbroken, has this happened to any one else? 

  • That must have been very scary for you. I remember having my armpit drained after my last breast cancer and it felt much better afterwards. I felt like I was constantly walking around with a couple of carrier bags under my arm. I’ve had a really tough week (dizzy,  exhausted and, unfortunately feeling very depressed, angry and hating myself so much for being ill again)  I know that’s not logical but I can’t help it at the moment. Thank you for thinking of me and I hope that you’re doing ok today. 

  • It was scary but feels so much easier now, not so much pressure 

    Please don't hate yourself for being ill unfortunately we didn't ask for this and like me I expect emotions run high and low, some days are good some bad 

    Always here if you want a rant or just someone to talk to 

    Macmillan say it helps talking to someone in the same boat or 1 going through cancer and they are right, unless you have had it or going through it other people don't really understand the impact, it's physically and emotionally draining 

    I have an appointment on 26th I think it's to find out when my radiotherapy starts so my emotions are all over the place, all the little ifs and buts, will I be sick some say it can have that effect, and the chemo pills, will I have all the horrible side effects

    I think together we can prop each other up, it's a better day for me today 

    Hoping you are doing better thus morning and thinking of you 

  • Bless you and thank you. Yes I’m sure we will be able to support each other.