Invasive ductal carcinoma - friends and family seem to be distancing themselves from me. It's breaking my heart.

Hi my name is Tina

I was diagnosed with invasive ductal carcinoma on 31st March

I had my surgery on April 22nd 2026 I had to have sentinel node removed as well so 2 scars, I'm finding that most people including some family have distanced themselves I'm heartbroken, has this happened to any one else? 

  • That must have been very scary for you. I remember having my armpit drained after my last breast cancer and it felt much better afterwards. I felt like I was constantly walking around with a couple of carrier bags under my arm. I’ve had a really tough week (dizzy,  exhausted and, unfortunately feeling very depressed, angry and hating myself so much for being ill again)  I know that’s not logical but I can’t help it at the moment. Thank you for thinking of me and I hope that you’re doing ok today. 

  • Offline in reply to Fifth

    It was scary but feels so much easier now, not so much pressure 

    Please don't hate yourself for being ill unfortunately we didn't ask for this and like me I expect emotions run high and low, some days are good some bad 

    Always here if you want a rant or just someone to talk to 

    Macmillan say it helps talking to someone in the same boat or 1 going through cancer and they are right, unless you have had it or going through it other people don't really understand the impact, it's physically and emotionally draining 

    I have an appointment on 26th I think it's to find out when my radiotherapy starts so my emotions are all over the place, all the little ifs and buts, will I be sick some say it can have that effect, and the chemo pills, will I have all the horrible side effects

    I think together we can prop each other up, it's a better day for me today 

    Hoping you are doing better thus morning and thinking of you