Hi Catz. Even though the situation was the same, suddenness of it all happening at once and unexpectedly, I was diagnosed slightly different with stage 3 colo-rectal cancer, spread to lymph nodes.

I feel exactly the same sometimes but try to blame the 'man'opause for it. A burden on everyone that wants to help, especially my wife who does EVERYTHING! Cooks, cleans, works full time, looks after our children while I fall asleep, verbal punchbag when the days get bad and she doesn't give me the support I necessarily want but absolutely need.

She constantly reminds me how if the roles were reversed then I would do exactly the same for her so why sweat the small stuff and gather strength whenever possible to fully enjoy the good days as a family.

They find the strength to help as much as they do because they love us as much as we love them. Would you do the same for your partner if they had your diagnosis instead? Sometimes thinking like that encourages you to let them be the support because they want to be your rock.

Hi David,

Thank you for your message, which I found very sensible, kind and honest. I agree with you on every point. I pretty much isolated myself the past 2 half months, and only recently started going to support groups, some therapy and feel some improvements, especially concerning my mental health. I am now able to meditate again, and looking within for strength. 

Not an easy journey, but some glimmer of light starting to show. I'm starting to accept and connect things within me, a difficult process to go through, but necessary for releasing of all the emotions that has been building up and clogging my system along the years. 

I wish you are keeping well. 

Thank for your great advice! 

Best regards

Catz

Hi David,

Thank you for your message, which I found very sensible, kind and honest. I agree with you on every point. I pretty much isolated myself the past 2 half months, and only recently started going to support groups, some therapy and feel some improvements, especially concerning my mental health. I am now able to meditate again, and looking within for strength. 

Not an easy journey, but some glimmer of light starting to show. I'm starting to accept and connect things within me, a difficult process to go through, but necessary for releasing of all the emotions that has been building up and clogging my system along the years. 

I wish you are keeping well. 

Thank for your great advice! 

Best regards

Catz