Hi..... I think I'm a success story hahaha!

I lost my partner of 30 years in June 2015.  Unfortunately he wasn't nice and very controlling but I stuck it out. One woman one man my mom used to say.... I blame her hahahaha  Obviously I grieved, it was hard he was diagnosed and gone in five days flat.  Hospital got it wrong. 

In august 2015 found a lump and was told all the bad news about it being aggressive and chances of survival low etc etc.  So, had lumpectomy, chemo, radiotherapy. All gone.  Jump forward to November 2016.  I joined mature.com dating site.  Found a lovely man.  Then he vanished and I thought oh well ..... but somehow I'd lost his email.... I found a reply he'd sent saying was it something I said...... woo hoo  he does want to meet.  Well he was amazing, I didn't think it was happening, I didn't meet a lovely caring man, it's not what I'm used to.  But he knew I'd had cancer and he didn't care. He still wanted to know me.

I moved in with him in the August 2017 when my house sale went through, it seemed the thing to do.  However in July I had a weird pain where my cancer had been.  Luckily though the mammogram and ultrasound said nothing there they biopsies the site and yep it was back. So I told him he was free to leave, I would go I would totally understand.  But he stayed with me, wasn't going anywhere.  I had mastectomy and reconstruction.  He was there the whole way.  Life moved on and I was so happy.

New Years 2018/19 he proposed. I said yeas. Wedding booked for August 2019. I never ever thought I would marry!  July 2019.... yep you guessed it... dull ache in my back... though it might just be cold but when tests were don't consultant said go and have your honeymoon see you when you get back.  Well I was then diagnosed with stage 4 metastatic triple negative breast cancer, moved to bones basically. So treatable not curable.  
 

Of course we were both knocked sideways.. I struggle daily at it being unfair. To find the love of your life and it to be taken.  But I have to kick myself because I've still had a long time with him. He still backs me 110%.  I'm fighting and though I have chemo every month I still am able to function. I'm so lucky that I seem to be able to take the chemo and and pretty much my old self so far.  My husband has been my rock and there are men out there who are pure gold.

So don't ever give up .  You are worth love and treatments mean that we can live years with cancer. Even if we do eventually succome to it, it can be a good 10 or 15 years before that. I've already had five years full of love with the man I think is truly my soulmate.  I hope we are making good memories for him my stepdaughter and my step grandkids.