I was first diagnosed in 2015, separated at the time. Had mastectomy lymph node removal and had chemo and radio. I met soneone on Twitter and dated for 4years. Had a year off and met my partner in April 2020 didn't meey face to face till June. He knew about by cancer before we met and knew I'd had a mastectomy. It didn't bother him. I'm now stage 4 since nov 2021. Have had a total shoulder replacement as mets to bone and started chemo again on 31st march. He is by my side and doesn't waver, I'll lose my hair probably gain weight again but none of this matters. There is someone for everyone as they say, its just finding the right one. Good luck x

Hi..... I think I'm a success story hahaha!

I lost my partner of 30 years in June 2015.  Unfortunately he wasn't nice and very controlling but I stuck it out. One woman one man my mom used to say.... I blame her hahahaha  Obviously I grieved, it was hard he was diagnosed and gone in five days flat.  Hospital got it wrong. 

In august 2015 found a lump and was told all the bad news about it being aggressive and chances of survival low etc etc.  So, had lumpectomy, chemo, radiotherapy. All gone.  Jump forward to November 2016.  I joined mature.com dating site.  Found a lovely man.  Then he vanished and I thought oh well ..... but somehow I'd lost his email.... I found a reply he'd sent saying was it something I said...... woo hoo  he does want to meet.  Well he was amazing, I didn't think it was happening, I didn't meet a lovely caring man, it's not what I'm used to.  But he knew I'd had cancer and he didn't care. He still wanted to know me.

I moved in with him in the August 2017 when my house sale went through, it seemed the thing to do.  However in July I had a weird pain where my cancer had been.  Luckily though the mammogram and ultrasound said nothing there they biopsies the site and yep it was back. So I told him he was free to leave, I would go I would totally understand.  But he stayed with me, wasn't going anywhere.  I had mastectomy and reconstruction.  He was there the whole way.  Life moved on and I was so happy.

New Years 2018/19 he proposed. I said yeas. Wedding booked for August 2019. I never ever thought I would marry!  July 2019.... yep you guessed it... dull ache in my back... though it might just be cold but when tests were don't consultant said go and have your honeymoon see you when you get back.  Well I was then diagnosed with stage 4 metastatic triple negative breast cancer, moved to bones basically. So treatable not curable.  
 

Of course we were both knocked sideways.. I struggle daily at it being unfair. To find the love of your life and it to be taken.  But I have to kick myself because I've still had a long time with him. He still backs me 110%.  I'm fighting and though I have chemo every month I still am able to function. I'm so lucky that I seem to be able to take the chemo and and pretty much my old self so far.  My husband has been my rock and there are men out there who are pure gold.

So don't ever give up .  You are worth love and treatments mean that we can live years with cancer. Even if we do eventually succome to it, it can be a good 10 or 15 years before that. I've already had five years full of love with the man I think is truly my soulmate.  I hope we are making good memories for him my stepdaughter and my step grandkids.  

Hi, welcome here and I'm sorry you find yourself on this forum. Hugs! ️

I haven't really done much dating. I had a boyfriend but after diagnosis I saw less and less of him and then when I lost my hair he literally dumped me. Very upsetting. I've been tempted to date again but I lack the confidence and I'm not sure who would be interested now anyway. I'm not exactly in for the long run anymore lol xD

Best of luck! I hope you find someone lovely xx

Hi Dannii46,

I'm sorry to read your post as I was given similar news 10 days ago. I posted, on here, a couple of months back as I had cancer in 1986 aged 13 and was diagnosed again on 24/9.

At the time I never thought it could possibly get any worse. I attended an appt on 22/9 and it got worse.
 

I'm only 49 and it sucks. The news has devastated me and my family (parents, brothers & their partners). 
 

 I've just got in from the gym and trained exactly the same as I did 6, 12, 24 months ago yet I have brain mets?? It doesn't make sense. F*** cancer. 

I've been spending time with my brother and partner. They have been exceptional & ask me to stay every night. I have a cat so have to come home to make sure he is ok. Coming back to a 1 bed flat on my own feels horrible. I feel so flippin lonely. 
 

I started hormone therapy yesterday at The Royal Marsden, Sutton and start stereotactic radiotherapy in about 3 weeks up there as well. I don't want to do it alone but then think, 'Crikey, who's going to want to be with me?' It's naff thinking that about myself. 
 

Really tough at the moment. 
 

I really hope you are doing as well as can be and that there's some light in your life.  
 

Best wishes and a fist bump 

B