Hi there ... so so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment.... this is cancer at it's crulest ...

My daughter in law and son were in your posistion ... through covid ... and god knows how they did it but they did ... one was with their daughter in a London cancer hospital... while the other stayed home, making the two other little ones life as normal as possible  ... on days they couldn't go, they took the little ones 6 and 9 out on "normal" days to have fun ... while letting them know their sister was very poorly .. 

They used gentle honesty with them .. explaining about hair loss .. and saying their big sis on days home would be very tired ... this gentle honesty really worked ... on those nights when they were alone ... I know they shared tears and held each other and admitted it was scary ... and listened to each other ... knowing my son couldn't take the pain away and couldn't make it all better... but he could try and hold everyone's hand in sharing feelings ...

It's one of ... no it was the hardest time of our lives ... but l think it's because that's what being a parent is .. it's part of the deal of having our kids .. we find that strength from somewhere deep inside ... that cord that gave them life is still there ... just invisible... I know in sharing feelings and BOTH holding on together... they are stronger then ever ... because when one takes the strain ... it's overwhelming... 

So reach out to anyone ... make time for the other little one that needs you both too .. ask nanny and grandad if there to make things normal for that child as much as possible... while letting them know it's o.k to cry or feel upset to ... sending you a big vertual hug.... Chrissie x x 

Hi there ... so so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment.... this is cancer at it's crulest ...

My daughter in law and son were in your posistion ... through covid ... and god knows how they did it but they did ... one was with their daughter in a London cancer hospital... while the other stayed home, making the two other little ones life as normal as possible  ... on days they couldn't go, they took the little ones 6 and 9 out on "normal" days to have fun ... while letting them know their sister was very poorly .. 

They used gentle honesty with them .. explaining about hair loss .. and saying their big sis on days home would be very tired ... this gentle honesty really worked ... on those nights when they were alone ... I know they shared tears and held each other and admitted it was scary ... and listened to each other ... knowing my son couldn't take the pain away and couldn't make it all better... but he could try and hold everyone's hand in sharing feelings ...

It's one of ... no it was the hardest time of our lives ... but l think it's because that's what being a parent is .. it's part of the deal of having our kids .. we find that strength from somewhere deep inside ... that cord that gave them life is still there ... just invisible... I know in sharing feelings and BOTH holding on together... they are stronger then ever ... because when one takes the strain ... it's overwhelming... 

So reach out to anyone ... make time for the other little one that needs you both too .. ask nanny and grandad if there to make things normal for that child as much as possible... while letting them know it's o.k to cry or feel upset to ... sending you a big vertual hug.... Chrissie x x