Oh Lassie,

Bless you! I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your husband and send my sincere condolences. It is still early days and, far too early for you to be able to accept and process all that has happened. The way you are feeling is all part of the grieving process and this will take as long as it takes for you. There is no definite time frame for getting to grips with it all. Twelve weeks is no time at all. Do you have any family or friends who can help and support you through this tragic period? I know that you still have to face going home on your own, but it is good to have someone who you can confide in.

Would you consider seeing a counsellor? Many bereaved people find it helpful to talk to a trained counsellor who, although a stranger, is used to hearing from people about just how dire life feels at the moment. It is perfectly normal to feel angry, cheated, lost and a plethora of other emotions. It is not until these begin to pass that you will begin to accept your husband's passing. There are a number of different stages to grief and it can take months or even years to work your way through them all. Please don't be so hard on yourself. 

We are always here for you and I hope that we can help you in some small way. Please keep in touch and let us know how you are feeling. Many of us have been where you are and, won't be shocked by anything you say or feel.

Kindest regards,

Jolamine xx

I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your lovely husband. My heartfelt condolences. 

If anyone is needing emotional support right now Cancer Support Scotland in Glasgow, offer up to six free online or telephone Counselling sessions for anyone affected by Cancer including friends, family and carers. They are a wonderful service and so supportive. 

Take care xx