Just been diagnosed, BC - triple negative

Hi there,

I joined the group a couple of weeks ago after my scan and biopsy and found it useful and supportive reading what everyone is going through and their advice whilst we all face the C word!

I've now received my diagnosis and plucked up the courage to say 'HI!' :)  I'm still reading up on all the booklets i've received. A strange feeling really counting the days down to your appointment like a holiday without the excited feeling and now coming home with loads of booklets and not holiday brochures.  i feel strange that i have a sense of relief but a strange relief as I do have cancer and not the all clear.  Does anyone else have these mixed feelings?

I've been diagnosed with stage 2, grade 3 and triple negative.  Well from my understanding, i'm waiting for the confirmations to all come in the post.  I remember them saying 18 weeks chemo, 5cm tumour, lymph nodes, masectomy, radiotherapy....

I still feel very detached and like they are talking about someone else as i dont feel ill.  I was hoping to be pregnant :( so feel very sad tonight that is unlikely to happen now with my diagnosis and that i'm 42.

So mixed feelings all around tonight. 

Mich x

 

 

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  • Hello ladies, hope you don't mind me gatecrashing your thread, but I've just read through it all and it's made me feel so much better, your all so nice and posative

    I was diagnosed with triple negative BC in June, I am on my 5 of 8 cycles of chemo, these last four being Carpoplatin and paxataxil, there breaking down the paxataxil to every week, i have my last chemo on 6th January and although we shouldn't wish our lives away, I can't wait, after that it will be surgery and radiotherapy, I have three lymph nodes under my arm and two lymphs under breast, but on last scan the two under breast have cleared, I'd like to ask if any of you on paxataxil oy carboplatin have had fuzzy head, I can't explain it but fuzzy slight dizzy head, I'm at day 10, my other cycle I felt so much better by day 10, it's not really bad but just annoying as I can't drive while feeling like this. Again lovely to read all your posts and really hoping your all feeling well, xxx

  • Hey Davia

    Of course not, welcome to our group that no ones want to join haha!  I was diagnosed in August so just had my 3rd course on Tuesday.  Not feeling too bad at the moment, fingers crossed it stays that way.  I have 1 more of EC then i go onto the carbo / paxo and paxo weekly.  Hope there are no major side affects of these.  How you doing on these drugs, just the dizzyness.  

    I have in my lymph nodes too so will have to have all of them out, little worried about the opp but one day at a time eh.  I'm also waiting on my brca test, guess they will send a letter confirming yay or nay.

    Yeah i could drive for a few days after my second one, felt like i was on drugs all week!

    I managed the cold cap on Tuesday, but hair is thinning quite a bit so not sure if I'll carry on .

    Hugs

    xx

  • Hey ladies 

     

    How's it going? Thinking of you today Sue

    I'm at the unit now having my last Taxol /Carbo combo! And I'm actually still awake! 

    Any plans for the weekend? 

    Big hugs xxx

  • Hi Mich 

    Just think only two weeks left of chemo it will fly by, hope your mouth is feeling better. Have you got scan after chemo? I had to be two weeks clear of chemo for pet scan. 

    Sue also thinking of you xx

    Claire how you feeling? Are you having rads?

    I'm getting ready for Tuesday, got to be at hospital at 7am I'm hoping to be first in, I am feeling very nervous but keep telling myself that lots of ladies have had this op and managed,  my pre op was very straight forward, they say 1-2 nights stay depending, its normally 1. 

    Keep well ladies xxxx

     

  • Hey Ladies.

    I had my 1st Doxe on 14th Feb, constipated on day 2 and by day 4 I was completly out the game,I actually told my family I was having no more chemo as the pain was worse than I've ever experienced. I've not slept for the last 3 nights and i actually spent the last 2 days crying day and night! After many calls to my GP i now have Oramorph so hoping I get some sleep tonight. 

    Anyway managed to nod off at 6am this morning and had to get back up at 7.30 as i had an appointment to see my surgeon, he reasurred me they will lower the dose of the next cycle. He felt where my lump was and he said it has gone!! Spoke about my Brca as not had results yet but he said he is happy to do preventative surgery of my choice if i am positive. My op date is pencilled in for 22nd April.

    Sorry for the long message lol I hope you are all doing ok, remember ladies its bloody tough but we are all warriors.

    Love & Hugs

    Linda xx

  • Hi ladies,

    Linda, I'm sorry you have had such a rough time. Let's hope the reduced dose will be kinder to you. You're emotions will be all over the place so it's no surprise you are tearful.

    Mich how's the rash and nose bleeds?

    Davia, good luck for Tuesday. I'm sure you will be fine,  I was so nervous too, It's the unknown.

    Claire, how are you recovering? I'm still sore and tender but ok besides that.

    On a positive note, I saw the Surgeon yesterday and I am officially cancer free. I just feel numb and guilty that I don't feel like doing cartwheels. It's really strange as I should be estatic!! I am still very scared of a reacurrance but I will learn to live with it.

    Lots of love to you all and have a wonderful weekend,

    Sue xxx

  • Oh bless you Linda, you have had a really tough time of it, fingers crossed when they reduce the dose it will be better for you. Good new that the lump has gone, xxx

    Sue that's amazing news,  really happy for you xxx

    Have a good weekend ladies, keep well xxx

     

     

  • Hi guys, 

    I was diagnosed with BC earlier this year and yesterday my consultant confirmed that it is triple negative. 

    Scheduled for second surgery on Thursday to check lymph nodes and clear more margins. Chemotheraphy to follow after. 

    Thank you for all your posts, it makes me feel there is light in the tunnel after all. 
     

    xx
     

     

  • Morning ladies, 

    Ah that's great news Sue, so glad to hear that. I get the numb feeling as it's been quite a rollarcoaster we have been on and no doubt we feel quite different with everything we have experienced. But we'll take this experience forward and create something positive like our Warrior group! There is a course I'm wait listed for when treatment finishes. It's arranged by Breast cancer now called moving forward. It's one day a few for a few weeks and helps you cope with getting out there after treatment and sense of normality. Ill see if I can find the link.

    Aww so sorry Sue, sounds awfull. Al glad to hear they will reduce your dose and good you have your opp appointment. I'm still waiting for mine, prob come through in a few weeks. 

    Good luck for Tuesday  Davia. So you have much planned this weekend, maybe things to keep your mind off the opp.

    I'm doing ok, was wide awake yesterday for a change and up at 4am with breakfast and steroids. Going for a walk in a mo, tomorrow the weather is going to be worse. No sore mouth whew and rash is getting better. Nose bleed is OK for now so overall a good day! 

     

    Hey Nat05

    Welcome to our group of Triple negative thrives! As you can see we are all in different stages of our treatment and getting there. It does Deff help chatting to each other about the good, bad and bleugh! So feel free to message any time you want to say hi or rant! I probably will when my steroid high wears off. 

    Have you had a lumpactomy or mascetomy already? Mine is in my lymph nodes so ill have those taken out too. I have 2 more chemo then I'll see the consultant about the opp and radiotherapy. 

    Ah and whatever you do don't Google, I scared myself shirtless! Stick to the official sites, breast cancer now, macmillan and download the Becca app.

    Big hugs ladies xxx

  • Sue, I feel exactly the same. Everyone says you must be thrilled/relieved/overjoyed but actually I'm just scared.

  • Hi Claire.

    I have been told I might need more chemo as a preventative measure, has that been mentioned to you? It was a kick in the teeth as I thought I was all done with chemo. I will know for sure once i've met with the Oncologist, I will just have to wait for the appointment to come through. The thought of losing my hair all over again is sole destroying.

    Hi Nat, welcome. I'm glad you have found our thread, all the ladies here are so supportive. Feel free to rant away, we all do.

    What's everyone up to today? The weather here is not pleasant so I doubt I will venture out.

    loads of love and hugs,

    Sue

  • Hey Sue, 

    Ah that's is annoying, but guess good thing if preventative measure. Is this in place of radiotherapy? I got my consultant appointment through this weekend, it's on thr 10th march, last chemo on 6th. I see it's a different consultant, last one was a locum so guess he's moved on. 

    Bit weird now to be thinking about next step as my hospital visits since 17th Sep have all been about chemo. So next chapter awaits.... 

    How's everyone doing? I went out for a walk around harbour and lunch yesterday, wasn't too windy so was nice. Today I felt bleugh, no emotions just zombie like so not in the mood for much. Still one my steroid tomorrow. I'm going to visit my friend tomorrow that has just had a kidney opp and not doing too well so be nice to have a catch up with her and take my mind off things. 

    Hugs all around warriors!

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  • Hey Sue, 

    Ah that's is annoying, but guess good thing if preventative measure. Is this in place of radiotherapy? I got my consultant appointment through this weekend, it's on thr 10th march, last chemo on 6th. I see it's a different consultant, last one was a locum so guess he's moved on. 

    Bit weird now to be thinking about next step as my hospital visits since 17th Sep have all been about chemo. So next chapter awaits.... 

    How's everyone doing? I went out for a walk around harbour and lunch yesterday, wasn't too windy so was nice. Today I felt bleugh, no emotions just zombie like so not in the mood for much. Still one my steroid tomorrow. I'm going to visit my friend tomorrow that has just had a kidney opp and not doing too well so be nice to have a catch up with her and take my mind off things. 

    Hugs all around warriors!

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  • Hi Mich

    Hope you have a nice catch up with your friend today, and yes you do feel a bit strange not having to go to hospital every week for chemo, I had very mixed emotions, one respect glad it was over, but also felt a bit vunrable as not having that regular contact, it's a very weird road were on. I'm just entering the next scary stage, the op! I feel very anxious about it, about all of it, the op, the recovery, and the after effects, but as someone said yesterday, after this there is light at end of tunnel, fingers crossed  

    Sue, that must feel disappointing to go back to chemo, but as Mich says, good if it's preventative, let us know what they say as to why?  But they are the experts and know what's best

    Claire, I get where your coming from even though I haven't got there yet , it's such a massive picture you can't just unsee it, I felt like it after chemo, everyone was so happy for me but I just felt so deflated, that confused me as I couldn't wait to be finished with it. 

    Love and hugs to you all

    Keep well ladies xxx

     

  • Hi Ladies,

    I'll find out if I need more chemo after i've seen the oncologist. The surgeon said that I would probably be offered more chemo as some studies show that it can help prevent a reacurrance. My husband said to me that it sounded like I would be offered a trial but I'm not sure about any of it. My head was all over the place when I saw the Surgeon not knowing what to expect. I don't think I will have the chemo if it's a trial but if it's tried and tested then I probably will. The Surgeon did say the chemo might be taken orally but the oncologist will discuss it with me.

    Mich and Davia, what surgery are you having? if it's a lumpectomy then the recovery is not that bad. I am still sore but besides that, all good. Just think, an op, radiotheraphy and then all done!! It feels surreal, very strange to be this far along the treatment plan. The hardest thing is getting your head around it all. I am struggling mentally, mostly because friends and family can't understand why i'm not jumping for joy.

    I hope everyone had a lovely weekend,

    Love to you all,

    Sue xx