Hi notailfox sorry for the reason you have found yourself here but hope that you find some comfort from others who have lost loved ones from this terrible illness.

Thank you river56.

Hi there Notailfox, so sorry you find yourself here for the reason that you are, because you have lost your wife to bladder cancer. My heartfelt sympathy to you and your daughters. Bladder cancer has a high rate of recurrance and once it gets ahead of you, its' really hard to cure. I have bladder cancer, diagnosed about three and a half years ago. Mine is also aggressive and high grade, but I think perhaps we caught it early enough before it spread beyond the bladder. I am undergoing surgeries and treatments on a regular basis though and eventually, I will likely lose my bladder. However, I have other cancers, unrelated,  that might take my life before that. This disease is like a thief in the night. It doesn't discriminate between male of female, or age.

Again, I am so sorry for your loss.

Lorraine

I feel your pain. My dad hasn't been the same, none of us have since the loss of mum aged 57. She battled cancer for 4 years and finally didn't have anything left to fight with. She made us proud in every sense as I'm sure your wife did. Hold onto the pride you have in her and in the family you raised together, you are not alone in your pain, your family will feel it too on different levels, take strength from each other, hugs and hope that you never feel this pain again xx

Thank you for your kind words susanmum, need time I think.