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Such a brave lady

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Hi all. Pleased to have found this forum and hope I can gain some comfort and give support to others in similar situations.

My wife of 46 years died of bladder cancer on 3rd June this year, ageg only 69, after a battle of 7 months with a very aggressive form.

She couldnt have chemo, but she had a 7 hour op on New Years Eve to try and eradicate it and another op in May for pain releif.

She was an amazingly brave lady, she kept her spirits up the whole time and as always considered everyone else before herself.

She is desperately missed by myself and daughters, it is still such a shock.

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    Hi notailfox sorry for the reason you have found yourself here but hope that you find some comfort from others who have lost loved ones from this terrible illness.

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    Hi there Notailfox, so sorry you find yourself here for the reason that you are, because you have lost your wife to bladder cancer. My heartfelt sympathy to you and your daughters. Bladder cancer has a high rate of recurrance and once it gets ahead of you, its' really hard to cure. I have bladder cancer, diagnosed about three and a half years ago. Mine is also aggressive and high grade, but I think perhaps we caught it early enough before it spread beyond the bladder. I am undergoing surgeries and treatments on a regular basis though and eventually, I will likely lose my bladder. However, I have other cancers, unrelated,  that might take my life before that. This disease is like a thief in the night. It doesn't discriminate between male of female, or age.

    Again, I am so sorry for your loss.

    Lorraine

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    I feel your pain. My dad hasn't been the same, none of us have since the loss of mum aged 57. She battled cancer for 4 years and finally didn't have anything left to fight with. She made us proud in every sense as I'm sure your wife did. Hold onto the pride you have in her and in the family you raised together, you are not alone in your pain, your family will feel it too on different levels, take strength from each other, hugs and hope that you never feel this pain again xx

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    Thank you Lorraine and I am very sorry you have this too. You are right in catching it early and it looks as though you are ok.

    My wifes had spread everywhere and thus why she lost her battle and was only found as she developed sepsis and went to A&E.

    I trust you have many happy years left.

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    Thank you for your kind words susanmum, need time I think.

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