Hi Ruth21,

I'm so sorry to hear you've lost your Mam to this awful disease. I lost my Mam to ovarian cancer 12 years ago. Mam started with back pain on Christmas Day & it worsened into the New Year. Our GP sent her for scans & she was officially diagnosed with terminal ovarian cancer - secondary mets to the spine. Within one week, after one session of radiotherapy on the spine mets, she collapsed & was paralysed from spinal cord compression. She came home after 3 weeks in hospital, care & equipment were in place but after 10 days she was taken back into hospital - the medication almost caused a diabetic coma. She was so upbeat throughout it all, for my dad's sake more than anything we think. She was stoical & pragmatic and said she'd had a good life. She slowly faded into unconsciousness and four days later she passed away with us all around her, 4 months to the day from her first symptoms. 

The only advice I can give is to take one day at a time and don't be afraid to cry when you need to. I think the mother/daughter relationship is the strongest bond and the hardest to deal with. My Mam was a healthy, fit 77 year old who was still climbing fells with my dad. I think of her everyday and am thankful that I had such a wonderful Mam and I take comfort in that. Time doesn't heal but it helps to soften the difficult memories and focus on the beautiful ones.

Be kind to yourself, your Mam would want you to live life to the full,

Angie x

Sorry to hear what happened to your Mam. It is a horrible disease. My Mam was diagnosed aged 86 but like your Mam she was very fit and healthy up till then. We used to do a lot of walking and were out and about all the time. She had chemo after diagnosis and did well for a good while so I did get another couple of years with her but nothing could of prepared me for what was to come. Thank you for your advice it is greatly appreciated x

Sorry to hear what happened to your Mam. It is a horrible disease. My Mam was diagnosed aged 86 but like your Mam she was very fit and healthy up till then. We used to do a lot of walking and were out and about all the time. She had chemo after diagnosis and did well for a good while so I did get another couple of years with her but nothing could of prepared me for what was to come. Thank you for your advice it is greatly appreciated x