Hi Trisha,

I am so sorry to hear that you lost your mum and then got this devastating news so soon after her passing. Unfortunately, none of us are ever the same after a cancer diagnosis and we would dearly love to be back to how we were before this. It sounds as if you have a very supportive and loving husband, who doesn't want you to give up.

I lost my mum to secondary breast cancer and have since had 2 bouts of this myself, plus a diagnosis of pre-cancer, all within a year of each other. That was all 15 years ago now and I have tried everything I can to improve my lot since then. I felt like you to start with, but sought help from a counsellor at a Maggies' centre. I also attended some moving forward classes run by Breast Cancer Now. There I met people in a similar position and we formed a support group, which was very helpful. I then joined a Pain Management course, run by a doctor and a psychiatrist. I also joined some cancer forums and got some great advice and support from some really tremendous people.

I would certainly advise you to try some of these services, before you give up. 

The ultimate decision is yours and only you can make it. Whatever decision you come to, I sincerely hope that it'll be the right one for you. 

Please keep in touch and let us know what conclusion you come to. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Trisha,

I am so sorry to hear that you lost your mum and then got this devastating news so soon after her passing. Unfortunately, none of us are ever the same after a cancer diagnosis and we would dearly love to be back to how we were before this. It sounds as if you have a very supportive and loving husband, who doesn't want you to give up.

I lost my mum to secondary breast cancer and have since had 2 bouts of this myself, plus a diagnosis of pre-cancer, all within a year of each other. That was all 15 years ago now and I have tried everything I can to improve my lot since then. I felt like you to start with, but sought help from a counsellor at a Maggies' centre. I also attended some moving forward classes run by Breast Cancer Now. There I met people in a similar position and we formed a support group, which was very helpful. I then joined a Pain Management course, run by a doctor and a psychiatrist. I also joined some cancer forums and got some great advice and support from some really tremendous people.

I would certainly advise you to try some of these services, before you give up. 

The ultimate decision is yours and only you can make it. Whatever decision you come to, I sincerely hope that it'll be the right one for you. 

Please keep in touch and let us know what conclusion you come to. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx