Diagnosis of prostate cancer in the family

Hello, 

I was doing a search and came across this forum so thought I'd sign up. 

My dad has prostate cancer. He first took a course of hormone tablets, then Thursday was his first radiotherapy session. 

The radiologists/radiographers were so lovely on Thursday. It was like a kind of calm in all the chaos in a way because it just felt quite reassuring. My dad had a bit of an off day yesterday into last night and into the early hours of this morning, but things seem to have calmed down for now. 

Today's been a rough day for me. I said something like that on a mental health forum and it felt odd to say that when it's my dad thats going through it all and the treatment. I know those close to those with cancer goes through different emotions too but today it just felt odd. I'd heard how anxious dad was last night and I could not relax myself. Eventually I'd only got about three hours sleep after I got quite upset. I'm quite an anxious person anyway and l overthink a lot, so there's a lot going on... 

That's it for now, I think. 

  • Good morning, the entonox would have helped with your dads anxiety episode, to help him through it, but isn't anything other than a quick fix, there are other things you can do to help with anxiety and i would always recommend you should, as it can lead to depression which is so much worse, 

    Sorry you broke your arm, that must have been very frightening at the time, and understandable having the gas and air mask on would add to that, I hope your arms healed well.

    I agree wit you about the NHS, there are so many wonderful people who work there, it's just sad they are understaffed and resourced, I hope you get out for your walk today, it's one of my favourite ways of coping emotionally and a little exercise helps you feel better too.

    Eddie

  • Yeah. I went out with work colleagues last night and I've got a concert coming up in a few weeks that I'm going to. I've also got a trip to Dorset coming up in June to stay with my Auntie which I'm really looking forward to. My first week away since this all started. That will be quite a reset i think. She'll likely talk about dad and his treatment too. To talk about it to someone in but a little more outside the family if you know what I mean will be good I think.

    I broke my arm quite a few years ago now, yeah. Have had titanium plates and screws in ever since. I've got a bit of a walk today but only to a bus stop or two to get to work. The little walk to the bus stop from home isn't much like a park, but in the sunshine, the green and any plants or flowers I come across, I look at. Birds too

  • Hi can I ask what age is your dad .? I went through the same treatment just over 3 years ago I was 65 then . I was lucky  my prostate cancer was caught early and the hormone and Radiotherapy treatment was 100%  suscessful . Hopefully your dad's treatment will go well.

  • Hello, my dad is 77. He was told that it is very treatable and one even said that it was the "best" cancer to have for his age. I was a bit surprised at that when mum told me but hey ho. My dad's cancer seems to have been caught early. He only went to the doctors after he thought he was going to the loo more often. I'd said to my mum that I thought that was just him, but clearly my dad thought he went more often still. Cancer never came across his mind. He thought a blood test he'd had would have picked up on it earlier but was told not necessarily as one day readings can be normal for a while before anything is then seen. You just never know. 

  • Hi, I hope your night out was enjoyable, but sorry to hear your working on a bank holiday, but you have a things to look forward to, which is so important, as you say they put you back on track, I'm lucky to have retired so we can get away when we want, we've been on 6 holidays this year, with 5 more planned already, including a trip to see my auntie in Puddletown in Dorset.

    It's always better talking to someone who understands what you're going through, but it's only normal your aunt will want to talk about your dad, let's hope you have some wonderful news to tell her.

    Enjoy your little walk, every little helps 

    Eddie 

  • Well thank goodness they caught it early . Hopefully he will not have any after effects when his treatment is finished . Please wish you dad all the best and everything goes smoothly 

  • It was. I was a little anxious like I usually am before it all started but when it all got going I was fine. We went to a dessert place afterwards which was a laugh too. I work in retail so I work bank holidays now and again. Yeah I can't wait for the shows I'm seeing and to see my Auntie. I've stayed with her before and loved it each time.