Hi Alice,

I am so desperately sad to hear your news. Feeling lost and scared is ok, it's such a shock and you will need time to process.

in my experience, which is unfortunate to say, I lost my best friend to ovarian cancer 2 and a half years ago, and my dad has just been diagnosed with advanced lung cancer (which has all happened within a week, with still a few more tests before palliative care options a week on Thursday) 

everyone deals with this anticipatory grief in their own way, I would advice if you can to speak it through with a therapist or one of the wonderful support lines through cancer research or macmillan - I found this very helpful. I'm a psychotherapist, and I had therapy while processing the anticipatory grief of my bet friend, it didn't change what was happening but it was a safe space to let it out - the pain.

if it helps, I get waves - when I'm busy I feel more able to cope, my dad is being very pragmatic and positive - so I'm trying to take my lead from him. Then I get a wave of pain, that my heart feels like it's breaking .....anxiety / worry / fear / loneliness ....sometime it's helpful to talk to friends / other relatives and sometimes I find it very unhelpful ....

sending lots of love x

Hi Alice,

I am so desperately sad to hear your news. Feeling lost and scared is ok, it's such a shock and you will need time to process.

in my experience, which is unfortunate to say, I lost my best friend to ovarian cancer 2 and a half years ago, and my dad has just been diagnosed with advanced lung cancer (which has all happened within a week, with still a few more tests before palliative care options a week on Thursday) 

everyone deals with this anticipatory grief in their own way, I would advice if you can to speak it through with a therapist or one of the wonderful support lines through cancer research or macmillan - I found this very helpful. I'm a psychotherapist, and I had therapy while processing the anticipatory grief of my bet friend, it didn't change what was happening but it was a safe space to let it out - the pain.

if it helps, I get waves - when I'm busy I feel more able to cope, my dad is being very pragmatic and positive - so I'm trying to take my lead from him. Then I get a wave of pain, that my heart feels like it's breaking .....anxiety / worry / fear / loneliness ....sometime it's helpful to talk to friends / other relatives and sometimes I find it very unhelpful ....

sending lots of love x