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my partner has been diagnosed with rectal cancer stage 3-4, which has spread into some of her lymph nodes.

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Hi, I’m new to the forum, my partner had been diagnosed with rectal cancer stage 3-4, which has spread into some of her lymph nodes.

She has her pre-op tomorrow prior to having a stoma bag fitted, after which she will undergo five and a half weeks of radiotherapy & also chemotherapy.

I fully appreciate that she feels that no matter how many family members & friends she has supporting her, it still feels a terribly lonely journey.

However I feel so inadequate in supporting her and being the buffer for all her expressions of anger and frustration.

Is this a common feeling amongst spouses of cancer sufferers and if so what is the coping mechanism for this?

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    Hello  Rossco1955,

                                      Cancer only visits the one person but spreads to those around them. In many ways it is easier for the sufferer to cope than those who carry the burden of looking on. ProfBaw is spot on when he asserts that you need treatment as well as your wife, mental and relaxation therapy to help you through your torrid journey and l can attest that a MAGGIES centre is an excellent place to start. The only certainty is that you are in for the long haul and of little help if you fall into the trap of isolation and letting your own wellbeing suffer,

    Best wishes,

                          David

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    Hello  Rossco1955,

                                      Cancer only visits the one person but spreads to those around them. In many ways it is easier for the sufferer to cope than those who carry the burden of looking on. ProfBaw is spot on when he asserts that you need treatment as well as your wife, mental and relaxation therapy to help you through your torrid journey and l can attest that a MAGGIES centre is an excellent place to start. The only certainty is that you are in for the long haul and of little help if you fall into the trap of isolation and letting your own wellbeing suffer,

    Best wishes,

                          David

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