Hi,

My husband has stomach cancer and also used a nasal feeding tube for a few months (thankfully chemo has helped enough so that he no longer needs it for now). He hated using the feeding tube, hated not being able to eat, and felt such a loss of control. He was quite depressed and would have some pretty angry moments which were difficult for me to see so I can understand a little of that aspect. I found having counselling for myself was so important to give me an outlet to talk about the issues I was having and feel supported in that way and get some advice on how to help myself and him. 

Loss of control in his life was a major issue for my husband so I wonder if there's anything that could make your husband feel more in control of his life, would he be up for doing his own feeds/meds etc sometimes? I hope he starts to feel better soon and starts giving you an easier time, it must be so hard for you to be taking the brunt of his anger. 

Look after yourself ,

Laura x

Hi,

My husband has stomach cancer and also used a nasal feeding tube for a few months (thankfully chemo has helped enough so that he no longer needs it for now). He hated using the feeding tube, hated not being able to eat, and felt such a loss of control. He was quite depressed and would have some pretty angry moments which were difficult for me to see so I can understand a little of that aspect. I found having counselling for myself was so important to give me an outlet to talk about the issues I was having and feel supported in that way and get some advice on how to help myself and him. 

Loss of control in his life was a major issue for my husband so I wonder if there's anything that could make your husband feel more in control of his life, would he be up for doing his own feeds/meds etc sometimes? I hope he starts to feel better soon and starts giving you an easier time, it must be so hard for you to be taking the brunt of his anger. 

Look after yourself ,

Laura x