24 & Possible Bowel Cancer. Want to feel less alone :(

Hi Everyone :)

I'm a 24 year old first-time-mum to my beautiful daughter who is 7 months old. Towards the end of my pregnancy, I began noticing blood in my stool. It wasn't every time I went to the loo so I just thought due to being so constipated I must've gotten some fissures. Fast forwards to last Friday (15th April) I went to the GP because the bleeding had gotten a lot worse and was no every single time I went to the loo. Did some stool samples and the results came up on Monday. My FIT result was <400 and I have been sent for an urgent referral as they're suspecting bowel cancer. I have a blood test tomorrow (Friday 19th April) and I'm just waiting to be contacted about this referral. GP said because of the amount of blood that there was they are more concerned than they usually would be for someone my age as it is more likely to be something nasty.

I am absolutely terrified. My fiance is too but he's really trying to put on a brave face for me I think. But my mind has just entered a downward spiral of feeling like I'm going to die and leave my fiance alone to raise our daughter. I've even gone as far as to start writing a Will out just incase so that everybody knows what items of mine they would be in charge of looking after. 

Just want to be able to talk and openly share how I'm feeling with someone who isn't my family or work colleagues so I don't get treated differently because of what I'm going through.

  • Goth Mama

    Hello and welcome to the forum ,although I know  that it's not a place you ever think you will be on.

    I can understand how anxious and worrird you are,but I just wanted to say  my cousin has the same results with the kit you sent off to check for bowel cancee.  Colonoscopy was sheduled and done and she got the all clear,like you she was bleeding on and off.

    I have has 40 Colonoscopy procedures  even had to have one while i was undergoing chemotherapy  for breast cancer found  by me in my right breast, mamagrams didn't show it up ,but ultrasound did,after I went to breast clinic,cause I coukd feel the lump 

    I have had the right side of my bowel removed  along with my appendix and small piece of my intestines in 2015. 

    I do bleed on and off from rectum,once fir 4days solid Colonoscopy showed up.i have diverticulitis and internal hemroids, both if which can cause bleeding.  

    The reason I had to have the right side of my bowel resectioned,waa because they found a flat sessile polyp,which contained high grade dysplasia, which is pre cancerous cells. So it wasn't actually cancer,but could of turned into cancer if left,plus there was a lot of bowel cancer  and cancers in the family, so surgeon said it was the right thing to do. 

    So you see just because you bleed ,it doesn't always mean that it's Cancer, I  still worry everttine I have to have a colonoscopy, that's normal I guess  but i.think to  myself,if its ever found ot can be treated . 

    I do hope you get good news ,let me know how it all goes .xxx

  • Thank you for sharing all of that Jassoscared.

    The bleeding is every time I go to the toilet now and has been for the past 2/3 months but was too scared to tell anybody about it until the other day when there was more blood than stool. I also have unexplained/unintentional weight loss, stomach aches frequently and a few other symptoms which has caused some concern with my GP. I'll be sure to update on any appointments and results as and when I can. 

    xx

  • Goth Mama  .

    hi again ,well you have done the right thing I telling about it, its not an easy conversation to have ,so we'll done for plucking up the courage  and speaking about it. 

    Again  there are many other health problems that can cause yoir symptoms ,yes cancer is one of them ,but there's so many others ulcerative colitis, which I was in hospital with aged 18 many years ago now ( I'm 67now) another which they thought I had was crones disease, both make you have all the symptoms as well as diverticulitis.  So it's best to find out,I think the worry of it all is so hard to cope with ,if your like me it's mainly if I can't sleep,mind just doesn't  switch off, and goes to thoughts you'd rather nor have. 

    But once you know what's what, you can deal with it easier. But hopefully you will hear some good news ,take care I'm here if you need to chat xxx

  • Hi GothMamma.

    I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through. My husband is going through the same thing at the moment. He has been suffering from constipation for several weeks which is very unlike him, but he recently changed his anti depressants and constipation can be one of the side effects of the ones he is now taking. He had a rectal bleed on the 20th March and I immediately called and booked him in with our GP to get it checked. He told me not to bother because he had strained really badly the day before and it was probably due to that but I wasn't having any of it. He had a rectal examination at the doctors. She said that there was blood and he complained of tenderness when she pressed on one side but everything else seemed fine. She said that it was probably an anal fissure but ordered a FIT test. Results of that came back and he was told on 8th April that it was positive at 90, and that he was being urgently referred for a colonoscopy for suspected bowel cancer. We are absolutely mortified at the prospect of the big C. He seems to be just getting on with things, but I keep going to pieces about it. I'm so scared for him. I pray that he hasn't got cancer.

    His colonoscopy is this Monday (22 April), so not long now until we have answers.

    I really hope that everything turns out well for you. It's such a difficult time, and especially with a 7 month old baby too. Easier said than done, I know, but do try to remain positive. I'm sure that you will be around to make more wonderful memories with your fiancè and to watch your baby girl grow.

    Keep us posted how you get on. Sending hugs and very best wishes to you.

    Take Care x

  • Hi, I've been frantically reading these threads being in the same situation the last week or so. Bleeding on and off for 3 years and was referred on 2 week pathway after positive fit test <400 and made myself poorly with worry that it would be something serious. Had my colonoscopy this morning and nothing sinister has been found but just some inflammation which may be Ibd they have taken a biopsy but they didn't seem concerned and I feel so relieved and despite the worry glad I got checked and can put it behind me. Just wanted to reassure as I was also panicking but would say no matter how scary it feels its worth the peace of mind to get the colonoscopy which is the only way to know what is happening. Also I was petrified of the colonoscopy itself (I'm not good with medical procedures) but it was absolutely fine and didn't need sedation. Hope this helps a little and hopefully you have a similar outcome xxx

  • Hi,

    I got my blood results back and there are 3 which aren't normal and my GP has raised them as concerns. I have my telephone assessment on Thursday (25th April) to discuss all of my symptoms together and to work out a plan of action in terms of scans/examinations etc. Will keep updating as and when things happen. My fiance and I have been discussing what would happen if it was Cancer and how it would work if I had to go through Chemo or Operations in terms of who would go with me to hospital and who would have our daughter if he decided to come with me. 

    I know it's morbid and probably completely unneccessary at the moment but I have my Will written out and stored somewhere safe so that if the worst case scenario comes true then I know my family is going to be looked after and what I want till be put into place.

    Thanks for taking the time to reply, keep us posted how things go for you :) x