Hi Kwetu,

Only you can make this decision - however hard it may be for your loved ones to accept.

I went through something similar with my mother. She’d had two different cancers and had been through surgery, radiotherapy and chemo.

Her oncologist said further chemo might extend her life by three to six months. In her words she said thst she’d decided she’d rather enjoy whatever time she had left that God had granted her without going through the side effects of chemo again.

My Dad, one brother, my sister and I all supported this decision but another brother found it hard to accept. He lived hundreds of miles away and hadn’t seen her suffer from chemo and hadn’t seen how resolved Mam was in her decision. It took a while but he eventually agreed with her decision.

Things went as well as they could have done. She had several weeks of near normal life before end of life care at home managed by Marie Curie and MacMillan nurses, supervised by Dad and her GP. Her final hours were exactly as she had planned with Dad, me and my sister with her. I hope my eventual passing will be as peaceful.

None of us wants to give up fighting but sometimes we need to balance quality of life with longevity. This has to be our decision at a time when it feels right for us. 

Good luck in reaching a decision which is right for you. 
Dave

Many thanks for relaying your experiences. In my circumstances I find it difficult to make a case for accepting the very toxic therapy on offer for a few more months on my own. I am grateful for your account

Many thanks for relaying your experiences. In my circumstances I find it difficult to make a case for accepting the very toxic therapy on offer for a few more months on my own. I am grateful for your account