Hi there I have just had my breast cancer diagnosis positives are it's early ...negatives its fast growing ...just left a relationship and feeling on my own
Doctor wasn't interested in discussing anything beyond giving me the news
I'm so sorry to hear this - do you know your next steps and do you have a breast cancer nurse you can talk to? I was diagnosed last month. Happy to chat on here with you. Take care
Hi Angus no I am not linked to anyone yet just because of my situation. Sorry to hear you have cancer too. I have a blood test today and referred to the hospital here ...trying to stay upbeat
That's a good first step and hopefully you are put in touch with a breast cancer nurse soon. It's so difficult to stay upbeat just remember you don't have to be upbeat allow yourself time to feel your feelings. It's a bit of a roller coaster. If you feel like it let me know how you are doing.
I am sorry that you find yourself in this unenviable situation, especially, at such a difficult time in your life. I am also sorry to hear that the consultant who broke the news to you was lacking in his/her people skills. This is a very stressful time and you naturally want to know all there is to know about your diagnosis. You might find it helpful to write down a list of questions before you try to contact anyone, or attend your next appointment. This should ensure that you don't forget anything important.
Cancer is the disease which keeps on giving. Whilst it's not so good that it is fast growing, the one positive is that you have caught it early. Was there any mention of the type of surgery or treatment which you should have, or when you'll be seen next? If not, you could phone the hospital and ask to be put through to your consultant's secretary (or the breast care secretary). You could explain that you have been left totally in limbo and ask for the contact details of one of the specialist breast care nurses. When you phone them, you may have to leave a message, but they'll usually get back to you as soon as they can. You will find that these nurses can be very helpful.
Rest assured that you need never feel alone, now that you have found this forum. We all support one another and are always here for you.
Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on.
im new here as well was diagnosed with grade 2 invasive ductal carcinoma triple positive on the 4th January this year i am coming up 4 weeks post op am due to get my results on thursday and talk about starting chemo im worried sick as i have only been 7months out of a 30 year abusive marriage im going it alone with my disabled son who i am his main carer and am stressing out about how is chemo going to effect me and how im going to manage we now have extra care for him but there are still times when there is just going to be me and him in the house
I am so sorry to hear that you have been diagnosed with breast cancer, along with the additional challenges that you are facing. I am glad to hear that you now have extra care for your son. I am sure that you have already been told that it is impossible to predict how you are going to cope with chemo in advance. Some seem to succumb to side-effects, but others sail through it. A lot depends upon what type of chemo you have, so make sure to ask when you discuss this on Thursday. Also make sure to mention that you are your son's principal carer, if you haven't already done this.
I hope that you are recovering well after your surgery. Would Macmillan be able to help you out with additional care if needed? They should certainly be able to advise you, as this is not a unique situation. Unfortunately, none of us here can help you out with this, but rest assured that now that you've found us, you need never be alone, as we are always here for virtual support.
I sincerely hope that you get good news on Thursday.
Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on.
