Hi Sassylass,

Unfortunately, you are by no means the only one to feel like this. I know that it won't be of any consolation, but most of us feel like this when we're waiting for results. Don't worry about crying. A good cry is a great way to relieve stress. Your friends and family are trying their best - unless you've experienced this first hand, it is hard to know how to respond. Do you have someone other than your parents, who you can confide in and talk to? It really does help to be able to do this. It can also be helpful to talk to a counsellor about how you feel. Macmillan and other charities offer this service. There are also various charities, such as Maggies, who offer counselling and a number of other free services to help improve your mood, or simply to go and have a chat over a cuppa.

Don't look too far into the future just now. Take things one day at a time, or even one hour at at a time if need be. A two week wait for a biopsy result is usually pretty normal, although I can understand that this is another wait for you. Try to remind yourself that no amount of worry will change anything. I was in a terrible way when I was first diagnosed. I've now had 2 bouts of breast cancer. That was all 14 years ago and I still lead a busy and fulfilling life - I'm sure that you will too.

One other thing while you wait, try to keep busy, whether with work or pastimes. This helps the time to pass a little quicker.

Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

How are you feeling today? Xx

Sassy 

I hope your meet up with your friends help lovely trust me you will come out other side stronger than ever big hugs love Lara xxx 

Thank Lara xxx

Sassy 

Did you have chemo first ? Or are you awaiting results on lymph to see if chemo is required ? 
I had the Oncotype DX test after my results to determine if chemo was required have you heard of this ? Xx love Lara xx 

Hi Lara, I’m having the Oncotype DX test and should get my results in about a weeks time. It would be interesting to hear how you got on xxx

Great that they have done the Oncotype for you it’s a good thing as you have actual fact on your tumour alone and not stats , mine came back no chemo required I had bought wigs spent a absolute fortune mentally prepared for chemo my score came back under 10 that day the results came back I had a huge party .

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hoping you get a low score I’m 49 so it would have had to have been over 26 for chemo to have gone ahead x 

Oh what a relief for you to get a low score, I’m 59 and not really sure what I have to get under but like you I have tried to mentally prepare myself for chemo, which I find terrifying. I have done a bit of research into wigs and have a couple of favourites but just hoping it doesn’t come to this. I have a bottle of champagne in the fridge someone bought me to celebrate when treatment stops. Fingers crossed I’ll be opening it soon.

Good for you! Celebrate for what you’ve achieved so far! Xx

️ ️good point 

Yes , I know it’s so awful going through this . Breast cancer , the gift that keeps giving eh? The thought of chemo , wigs etc terrifies me as well .I still don’t know if I’m going to need it. I’m trying my best to just focus on today , one day at a time , because if you look too far ahead and start analysing it just gives you sleepless nights and you think you’re going nuts. Well meaning friends think they’re helping but sometimes do the opposite . 
One said to me “Oh if I had cancer I would want breast cancer as it’s the BEST cancer to have ????” 
Anyway , hope you  have a better day today x 

I’ve had the same thing said to me about breast cancer being the best one as it’s the one most money gets thrown at. Nobody can ever realise how hard it is until you’re in it. I never expected it hit me this hard. When I had my mastectomy I had someone say ooh! aren’t you brave, i”m not, I really had no choice. I feel sure we’re all going to get through it and come out the other side because we are in fact survivors. 

I’ve had the same thing said to me about breast cancer being the best one as it’s the one most money gets thrown at. Nobody can ever realise how hard it is until you’re in it. I never expected it hit me this hard. When I had my mastectomy I had someone say ooh! aren’t you brave, i”m not, I really had no choice. I feel sure we’re all going to get through it and come out the other side because we are in fact survivors. 

I know, I just wish people would say , I’m sorry to hear what you are going through , and just leave it at that. Anyway , I hope you are feeling a bit better today xx

Better today. It’s all up’s and downs isn’t it. I hope you’re keeping well. 

Hi I haven’t put much on here but I’m waiting to go in for sentinel node biopsy next week and a DIEP in Oct . Bc is back after 18 years in the same breast. I’m ok apart from the odd wobble . Hope you have a nice weekend . Sometimes it all hits you after treatment but I know you’re stil waiting to hear about chemo . Let’s keep everything crossed that we both don’t need it ! Xx

I’m so sorry to hear this, the one thing I can tell you is things have definitely got better in the last 18 years, i know this probably won’t make you feel any better. Fingers crossed for your op next week.if you need to talk to anyone just find me on here. Xxx

LCR ls it it next week your operation ? It’s coming around now felt like it was a long time when you said about it it’s soon come around how you doing with the no smoking still ? I’m still on my vape ( my Dummy ) I call it lol 

Sassy 

how are you feeling now how long left for your results now ? Xx 

I’ve not heard anything as yet, hoping it comes in next week, bit nervous though xx

Sassy 

I rang everyday for my Oncotype score they said 2 to 3 weeks it was back in about 9 days , I was a nuisance lol 

my oncologist emailed me on a Friday afternoon it was my hubbys 50 th birthday the day after I was so miserable and dreading the celebrations on the Saturday but god was with me on the Friday afternoon I had the email with the score , for the first time I actually cried my eyes out with happiness and opened a bottle drank all night had a party that night no hangover was running on good news lol x 

nut I could by chasing daily I was in control I’m ridiculous lol 

hopefully you will hear this week x 

How is your oncologist ? Approachable or strict I the way you contact them ? 

Hi Ladies , thank you for your kind messages . Yes surgery next week , the the big one in Oct fingers crossed. Yes Lara still off the cigs , but I’d still love one ! Still on my nicotine free vape! I’ve smoked for 48 years and gave up on a week ! Sassy how did you find the reconstruction? Are you pleased with the results?

LCR 

brilliant you still not smoking , yes I completely understand the crave I’m 14 months now would not go back to it but the crave never goes away I don’t think xx but we have done so well now no turning back xxx