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Partners mother has cancer, and can’t talk about the future

Maxwell111
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I love my partner very much, however since we've been together they can't talk about the future as they've told me that the future exists without their mother in it. Of course, I completely support them - however it gets to a point where life goals, values, marriage / children are important to discuss. We've been together for nearly 3 years, and they still find it incredibly difficult to talk about. I don't know if I'm being ridiculous, or if I need to accept the fact that I can't dixsus these things with them at the moment, because oF the sensitive situation. Or maybe I do deserve to know some of these things? Any thoughts greatly appreciated.

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  • Hello Maxwell111

    I'm sorry to hear about your partner's mother and that your partner finds it difficult to talk about your future together as a result. 

    If I'm reading your post correctly, you've been with your partner for 3 years, and in that time they've never felt able to have a conversation about the future because of their mother's diagnosis. If I'm correct then I can certainly understand your frustration and I don't think it's unrealistic to want to feel that you can talk about marriage, children, life goals. 

    As we are a cancer support forum and your problem relates more to your relationship with your partner, you might find it helpful to have a look at the Relate website and maybe get in touch with them for some more specialised advice and support. 

    I do hope that you're able to find a way forwards. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

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  • Hello Maxwell111

    I'm sorry to hear about your partner's mother and that your partner finds it difficult to talk about your future together as a result. 

    If I'm reading your post correctly, you've been with your partner for 3 years, and in that time they've never felt able to have a conversation about the future because of their mother's diagnosis. If I'm correct then I can certainly understand your frustration and I don't think it's unrealistic to want to feel that you can talk about marriage, children, life goals. 

    As we are a cancer support forum and your problem relates more to your relationship with your partner, you might find it helpful to have a look at the Relate website and maybe get in touch with them for some more specialised advice and support. 

    I do hope that you're able to find a way forwards. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

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