Hiya Pinkcandoone, and welcome to the club no-one ever wants to join. There are a lot of really nice and compassionate folks on this forum, and even if you just want to come here for a rant (which I myself have done on occasion), no-one will judge you. We are all in the same boat here, whether it is having the big C ourselves, or caring for someone with this disease or grieving for those we have lost to it. I have stage 4 cancer. It began in my breast and has now spread. I think that we all go through so many stages of emotions with this kind of diagnosis. I am now at the acceptance stage. You are so right when you say that a person's lifestyle should not be held against them when it comes to cancer. I remember when my Oncologist asked me if I was a drinker or a smoker and I told her that I no longer smoked or drank, but that I did a LOT of both when I was younger and I remember the look of horror on her face when I admitted that I had been a chain smoker for years in my teens and 20s. Only those who have led absolutely perfect and blameless lives can sit in judgement upon others, and I have yet to meet one person who falls in to that category. Anyway, hope you find the support you need here (I'm sre you will) and once again, welcome, Violet, x
Sorry for late reply, but welcome to the forum, free to join and rant whenever you want.
Some of us only come on now and again so things might seem quiet especially at weekends.
I started at uncurable Feb 2016, 2year later palative care im still positive and sure im living alot longer yet despite being told 5 years max.
I've prostate cancer gone to lymph node's, pelvis, spine, ribs and a lung. Im also a carer for my wife who has dementia and other brain problems (white matter brain disease, 8 TIAs).
Hope alot of other ladies and gents will join you soon.
