Hello KevinPeter

I'm sorry to hear about your recent diagnosis and that you're now waiting for surgery.

I wanted to reply to your post to thank you for being so very honest and open about a subject that is still often quite taboo for those who are affected by cancer. It's a perfectly natural and understandable concern but not one that is necessarily easy to talk about with others. and is often brushed under the carpet. 

You don't mention in your post if you have a partner, but if there is someone special in your life, I'd really encourage you to talk to them about how you're feeling. It's very likely that they're also sharing some of your concerns. Hopefully being open and honest with each other will help to bring you closer and enable you to better support each other. If you find it difficult to start the conversation you could use your poem to broach the subject. 

It sounds like you've already done lots of reading and research and you're aware of some of the possible options available to you should you need them. Do talk to your Consultant and/or your clinical nurse specialist about your concerns and any issues that you may have following your surgery. If you're not already aware then you might want to have a look at the Prostate Cancer UK website. They have a specialist sexual support service available to men and/or their partners who have had had treatment for prostate cancer. 

I wish you well with your surgery. Remember that it takes time to fully recover so don't be too downhearted if you do initially experience some problems.

I'll keep my eye open for your post-op poem. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator 

Thanks Jenn - really appreciate the response and advice. 
 

There certainly seems to be a lot of help available and the NHS staff have been absolutely fantastic.  
 

I'll certainly get the post-op poem up when I'm again "creative" after surgery. 
 

Thanks again, much appreciated. 
Kevin

Hopefully [@telemando]‍  will reply soon as he had his out years ago .

Mine was to spread, lymph nodes spine ribs pelvis and a lung , diagnosed Feb 2016 , Gleason 8 PSA 1581 stage 4 T3B N1 M1B . im on strong hormone Therapy for life, having a good life and feeling healthy apart from impotence, but still having a good time been married 50 years December .

As I said hope [@telemando]‍ Will Pop on .

Good luck .

Billy